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She Loves Someone Else ..and I Know That ...still I Love Her...

there are billions of people around you,a few you know a few you don't...out of those so many ,there is one special person whose smile makes you happy and whose sorrow makes you sad.yes i like any normal human ,have that special feeling for one girl,one girl who causes butterflies in my stomach when i hear her voice or ever see her.i always want to see her ,i always want to talk to her and i do talk to her on facebook every second day ,she is a good friend but i cant move or think any further...all my feelings shared above also come to her ...then whats the problem??...hehe..she has these feelings for someone else...someone i know from childhood and she loves him long before my realization...he has better physique ,sense of humour and everything else a girl sees in a boy than me..but still i feel bad when i see IN A RELATIONSHIP status on facebook...we were classmates in school and i love her since the 1st day i saw her in our school bus in 8th grade...its been 6 years now and my love increases every passing day.i know i would never get her.AND i dont want to tell her as it might hurt our friendship.i feel dejected sometimes but then as they say IF U LOVE SOMEONE TRULY U SHOULD BE HAPPY IN HER HAPPINESS and her happiness lies in someone else lap...i just hope i also get someone who would love me some day as much as she does to her love and i do to her......

as they say.........THE WORLD LIES ON HOPE..:)
anuragch11 anuragch11 18-21, M 28 Responses Apr 21, 2011

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True that. Not at all necessary that if you love someone they love you back.. After all love is not about possessing the one you love, it's always giving (;

When I was a freshman in high school, I meet her the girl who would cause me pain and suffering the one I love from then and probably forever. She laughed at my crummy jokes in geometry, thanked me for every time I helped her in French. We stopped talking because of a new seating chart in both classes I was to nervous to talk to her and her well she was too. In June she "bumped" into me on the way to geometry for finals she said now I finally talk to her again we laugh then go inside. After finals I was going to give her my # and ask her out, but she was with her friends I didn't want to get nervous and embarrassed if she rejected me so I went outside of the school building to wait. She didn't come out sadly I looked up at the clouds then she comes out with her friends. She sees me and keeps her eyes on me even when her friends are taking to her and seeing her not looking at them. As if she knew about me wanting to K.I.T with her and ask her out. Like an idiot I didn't react nor did I look away. Recreting that moment all of summer I was looking forward to going back to school and asking her. Third period French 2 i saw her walk in with a group of friends (I was sitting in the back) and almost all desks were empty but she takes the one next to me. :) Her friends sit on the desks in front and on the sides of us. She talks to her friends and also talked to me. A month later our French teacher tells us where we'll be sitting as she made a new seating chart (and frankly my class was and still is noisy). Her other friends are talking to one another but get this she turns to face me and says this to me and only me "You know what this is the best seating arrangement i have ever had for any class ever!" Was I red as a cherry that day! We didn't sit together but very close to each other like 2 rows away same seat i wanted to talk to her but me being a big chicken i didn't talk to her for 3 months just saw her in french and world history honors and sometimes i catch her looking at me! But alas i guess she knew i loved her with all my heart and she probably loved me too and wanted me to ask her out but I didn't probably making her think that i didn't like her because on November 19th of 2013 on the way to second period i saw her kissing another dude muscular, taller, and probably smarter than me too in the hallway. And she didn't have a boyfriend before because someone told her in geometry freshman year if she had a boyfriend and she said no. Crushed and depressed i looked away and went to class. We still don't talk because of it i lost her to someone else and IT'S ALL MY FAULT! >:'( Still feeling pain because of my stupidity and shyness i will never find any one else a special as her (believe me i tried) she was smart all honors class with the exception of French and she's so beautiful. Here i am depressed and angry over myself for my poor decisions in the past that caused me to lose her...

I am in love with a girl who loves me but is with someone else. It's easier to say than to do, but, I would suggest you do your best to find someone else. It has been six years and I am now at my breaking point. My emotional condition is that of a child. I find myself crying and hiding to do so. It happens two to four times a week, sometimes even more often. I look at the most attractive girls, and they do nothing for me. I find myself neglecting my responsibilities and my family. Her boyfriend is very ill with a deadly heart disease and has a short time to live. But I am conning apart at the seams. She tells me our time together will be after her friend passes, but it is too much for me to take. I know that the stress it is creating is taking years off my life, and I want to break away. Love can take the smartest individuals and turn them into complete fools. So here I sit beautifying for someone to pass. Pathetic!

Hmm...god bless you...wishes

Well i dont know what to do anymore. I met this girl 2 years ago , she was married back then , after an year she left him. I love her more than anything on this world , but a few months back we kind of had a fight. I think i screwed up things a bit , i'm trying to fix them now. she met this other guy , and after a month or so it looks like she loves him . i told her my feelings , she knew them and still she didnt talk to me. it hurts me each time i see her talking about him or left him msg on skype/fb. my heart hurts like hell when i read that or see it. i dont know what to do anymore , i want to win her back , and try to be with her :( Last month i was trying to think of something and it was just hurting me more and more , but i still want her even knowing that she is kind of with him atm ... Any kind of advice would be great :( Thanks...

dear one...please try to move on at once...you said she was married and then left her husband...and right now she is with this other guy...see...i have been through exactly same phase...and yes it hurts a lot...but she doesn't even care for your existence...for your own life..just get her out of your world..delete her contacts..block her on skype n facebook and all...just throw her out of your life and sight...and be open to other girls...as friends...keep talking to them...it will take a month or two but you will eventually move on...trust me...just try from your side...whatever your heart says...be rigid on your decision of not contacting or seeing her...she doesn't exist for you....hugs and blessings...take care.....:)

i used to talk with a girl alot, and simply fallen for her by just her voice, our relation got very deep, she become my best friend and then i got to know that she was in relationship with a boy of her college and it just hurt me like hell. even then i told her that i love her alot. few months after she accepted, we become bf gf but she also told me that she can never forget him. it was okay with me cause that time i could see love in her eyes for me and that was enough. we were very happy. but the friend of him never have left him and people of her college know them as bf gf only. we then started fighting about all this and she said she will leave him after she will leave the college, but she never did.
she prioritise him as her no. 1, and eventhough he hurt her, she loves him only.
now she says leave me because she loves him and he loves her back.
i dont know what to do, i truly love this girl, i always have given this girl my top priority. for 4 years we know each other and for 3 yrs we were bf gf. but now that the boy agree to marry her, she left me, although i was always ready to marry her.
i dont know why she loves him, he doesnt even care about her.
what should i do
i am really possessive about this girl and no one knew about our relation except my family and few friends.
i really love her but then i think that she love someone else, so its better to leave her.
what should i do, i have become addicted to her, i care about her, think about her all the time.
plz tell me what should i do,
i cant even focus on my career because of this dilemma of my life.
what should i do so that she knw that i truly love her. i did everything for her only
plz help me

I really feel for you dear...I completely understand your pain and dilemma...but from my personal experiences, if your girl loves that other man...let her go...she will never love you back...its difficult but that's the only way to help yourself...you may end up waiting for her and trying to persuade her but if she doesn't feel for you...you will keep getting hurt and she wouldnt even see that...

I would suggest buddy that for your goodness sake, just get away from her...let her know and move on from her keeping your dignity intact...be a man...go out for a nice vacation on some shore, find another girl for you and just don't contact this young lady of yours...let her live her own life and start living your own...your own life which doesn't include her...hope that helps...and do keep in touch...hugs! :)

@anuragch11 I am deeply touched by what you said even I am not the writer of the problem. I am an international student from China and arrived in the United States 4 weeks ago.I loved a girl for 8 years during which day and night all my mind is her. It was ten years ago when I first saw her. However, it was 8 years ago when her rich father abandoned her mother and remarried a young women who can be her sister that I started the special feeling about her. Father said man is strong man doesn't cried but I cried when she was seriously ill crying in the corner of the hospital. I wanted to hug her but I failed to move. I am a student with normal grades at that time born in a middle class family with normal looks. In contrast she shines like diamonds. I tried to do everything I can to be excellent. Eight years passed and I won the scholarship from China Scholarship Council to study in the University of Florida. On the airport when I left China I couldn't resist telling her that "My heart started to die the first time you cried and I truly deeply love you, Sweet Honey." She knew at that moment and then she declined and told me she already had a boyfriend. But what she doesn't know is the countless things I secretly did for her and the diaries I wrote buried in the places where the clips of memories of friendship between I and her remained. But she doesn't need to know. I took her as my sister and had never desired her love back because I feel she deserves this.I will not go for that girl because I used to love her. She is the first girl I ever wanted to protect with my life.
Now I have a lot of American friends who are really friendly and nice to me. They help me in life and study. And I am really happy and gradually recovered from the sadness and sorrows. Last week I went to Tampa and really had a good time there everything gone with the winds.
My suggestion for such situation is that when you love love deeply; when she wanted to go live your own live and live fantastically. Don't hesitate. Just do it.

thanks jimbraque...you are a very brave man. and you did the right thing at the right time..:)

god bless! thanks for sharing...hugs! :)

Thanks brother. I baptized here. May the god be with you. My phone number is 3522757690. Hope I can be friends with you.

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I'm having the very same problem. I've been in love with her for some time but another guy has her attention. What's worse is that the other guy is ny cousin and we have many of the same classes. They are besties and whenever I see her laughing at his jokes or having a long conversation together in crushed. I just wish I could make her laugh as much as he does but I'm a quiet kind of guy so jokes don't even come naturally to me. I really want to be with her but she just doesn't feel the same way

its okay....according to reports 90% of men around the world don't get the girl they love..we are in majority...;)
and if her bestie has her attention...its fine...just confirm somehow if he is just her best friend or they also have a mutual feeling...rather ur girl feels for him or not...if they are "just friends"...you should try your luck...show her whats good about you...if they like each other, you should just move on...there are 6 billion people around the world and half of them are girls...you will find another...everybody does...;)

wishes and hugs...take care....:)

Although I am young, I know exactly what it feels like to love someone who doesn't love you back. I can reassure you though, that you will find someone who loaves you as much as u can love<3 u just have to stay strong and believe.

thanks for the reply dear...:)...I know that..:)

wishes

I can't even begin to tell you how much I feel for you.. :/ Ive had the unfortunate luck of being like you in the sense of being in love with someone that is deeply in love with someone else... It really stinks and sometimes it's just really hard not to think selfishly and then you remember that you love this person and that like you said you find happiness when that person is happy.. You just with a that it could have been with you.. To be quite honest this very thing is happening to me right now. The mother of my children and the only woman I've ever loved in the last 7 years has recently fallen for someone else..:( I became a different person when I went through depression because of a loss that took two years to recover from, and I'm still not 100% and god knows if I ever will. But I have hope that I can, she's fallen out of love with me and into the arms of another who apparently makes her feel perfect.. But doesn't want to be in a relationship with her.. So it's all kind if messed up I cry over her and I'm there when she cries over him..:/ it's all really hard and sometimes I just feel so lost. I don't know how to act of be for her to realize that I still love her with every ounce of passion in my body. I just don't know how to make her feel like the beautiful amazing person she is.. I need to learn how but I feel foolish sometimes because it's like fighting for a list cause, not to say she's not worth it but for the fact that she loves someone else... I know I can make her realize that I'm still someone she can truly love but I could really use some advice on where to even begin... I love her with all my heart and there are no limits to what I would do to make her happy.. If I must let her let her love someone else, I will if that's what it takes to make her happy.. But if I can still save this please share...

I have sent you a private message...hope that helps...wishes...:)

I know how you feel I like a girl for 2 years now and found out on a special day for me that she's in a relationship for half a month now. The way I felt was horrible :(

I can absolutely understand that...thank you for sharing...hugs...:)

all the best brother...even i am in the same boat

:)

"Don't dream your life, live your dreams," and that sounds like that's just what you're doing by sharing your story. Wear a smile and just keep living your life, and BOOM, she'll show when you aren't looking! Best of luck my friend, "dreams come true."

thanx mam!!...you have always been so appreciative...:)

besides...I smile more than ever....probably I have learned to "wear my smile"...certain feelings cant change...but...in past 3 years...I have become stronger...much stronger...I have manned up...and I am super positive for future prospects...:)....wishes and hugs...take care

Awww, thanx 4 yer "heart felt" reply. : )

:)

It's a miserable situation...I'm sorry you dealt with that.

I have moved on...much better now...dont worry...:)

Okay :) glad to hear.

Same situation here and same way I just enjoy her being happy , long stopped even hoping for anything to happen... but nevertheless sometimes you just yearn for it a lot... even though its imposssible.... You just want to be in the other guy's place!

very true....:)

Awe youre so sweet :')

:)

What happened with me too, was that, i loved a girl truly and i was ill of not being noticed by her. She pleased my eyes everytime i saw her, but once i dared to stop her car and asked her to call me, she called, i never expressed the love i have for her but she told me about her personal relationship and i was broken like glass, i dont know where is she today, but finding her again sometime will be the best time of mine... I love her forever... I Love you Nitsimrat...from Rupinder....

thanx a ton for sharing rupinder....may god hears your prayers....:)....wishes...:)

Honestly, you very strong person.Because, normally its very hard to see someone you love with other person.But, your love is truly a true and selfless love that you let her to go and feel happy seeing her with another person.BraVo!!

:)

i loved her when i saw her.i loved her more and more as days passed.but one day when i expressed my love she told that i love a person.it was a shocking to me,that time i realized that she saw me and smiled at me, it's all an illusion of mine.i didn't want to force her.i also fought with my friends who teased her.but now i feel all alone.even nowadays iam walking and studing among her surrounding i which her smell of love is filled.i will be like this for my entire life finishing my duties.I LOVE U MY DEAR forever................................................................................................

dear...I am sorry...I had not noticed your comment...so the late reply..*apologies*

let me tell you a thing dear...sometimes in life...what we want is not what we need...there is a person waiting somewhere for everybody...the right one....for you...for me...for every one...just keep patience...and hope..your partner will find you...and keep the warmth of love alive in your heart....god bless...hugs...:)

Sad story......heartbreak happeneds though :/

just that fate is not always generous..

dont want to live with a a repaired heart any more

dont want to live with a a repaired heart any more

thanx ......hugs..:)

Right. never give up on your love. Your love is not that weak. make it strong and make it bold. seeing someone u love, loves someone else is difficult but we as humans are made to make sacrifices.isn't it. I pray that you get your love soon.

thanx..

Sounds like you're quite open to new possibilities, which seems good!

yup i know that and now i dont even think too much about the girl...yes i talk to her,and i take care that she is in a relationship whenever i talk ,she is a good girl and loves someone truly...i am happy for her but still i cant ignore her or swap that special feeling away bcoz it was my first love and that too since school days,and most importantly i never told to her about anything like that so she has no fault either,i knew she loves another guy but then if love had to happen after so much thoughts it wouldnt be love....there would be that special feeling always but again i never let it to overpower me or my thoughts....and it never will....

Gosh, anuragch11, sounds like you've got it pretty bad for this girl. Not saying it's a bad thing, but really, I share your hope for someone who has feelings for you in a two-way loving relationship. Sounds like you have a lot to give.

heaps of thanx dear ones for all your good words and wishes..:)

awww!

i would also just say - KEEP UR HOPES ALL UP. i am sure you will meet the person you want for youself sooner in life, and as already stated, in a very unexpected manner. so, keep looking up for your surprise...for it can spring up on you when you expect it least. and i think you are to have this girl atleast at your friend rather than have an uncomfortableness lie between you two.

hugs.