Is There Any Other Kind?

I have fallen in love so many times for him to say "I don't like you that way", "I don't believe in love", or "I love someone else". I'm begining to wonder if it's really possible for two people to actually love each other at the same time.

I think the chick had it right during the beginning of "The Holiday".  I'm tired of falling in love only to have my heart broken because they either won't or can't love me in return.

I wish I could be a cold heartless *****. Maybe then I could be something close to happy. At least I wouldn't always be getting my heart crushed.

salemstar salemstar
26-30, F
4 Responses Mar 19, 2007

Love is as beautiful as it is confusing. Now, add unrequited into the mix and you've got a plethora of new problems. We've all fallen for that one guy/girl who didn't quite love us back. What do we do? <br />
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You're guess is as good as mine. I still have to figure out how to want to stop loving him.<br />
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There's also a good line from THE HOLIDAY that I love:<br />
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I understand feeling as small and as insignificant as humanly possible. And how it can actually ache in places you didn't know you had inside you. And it doesn't matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with your girlfriends... you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood. And how in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were that happy. And sometimes you can even convince yourself that he'll see the light and show up at your door. And after all that, however long all that may be, you'll go somewhere new. And you'll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little pieces of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, that will eventually begin to fade.

Clearly, us serial unrequiteders (errr) are DOING SOMETHING WRONG. After all, when you think about it, if it wasn't the natural state of humans to fall mutually in love, we'd eventually become extinct :P<br />
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Part of the problem, I think, is that we have a lot of very ****** programming and misinformation about the whole business that we've picked up along the way. There is some quite good information out there about the (heterosexual) male side of things and why it is that some guys just end up on the wrong side of "I just want to be friends" ALL the time. But not seen any equivalent information for the (heterosexual) female side of matters, alas. Although I haven't looked that hard...<br />
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At any rate, I think it's well worth checking ones assumptions and ideas about love and attraction and what it all means. It's a good place to stop this unrequited crap :P

i feel exactly the same. my love was always never returned. :( Now, i'm on my 5th unrequited love - which has been going on for 2 years now. isn't that sad?

I know exactly how you feel, sometimes it seems that if you treated people they way they treat you, they wouldnt get close enough for them to hurt you. Life can be such a **** thing, ya just gotta try and keep on going :)