Getting Over Someone Is Not Easy...

Thank you so much, i'm currently trying to figure out what to do with my circumstances. I'm with a man that says he loves me, but lives his life why i spend mine waiting for him to summon me. I want to be happy, and I want someone who will cherish my love as well. I want someone who wishes to be with me and longs for my companionship like I long for theirs. I want a real best friend, not a fake one. I don't want to be on a shelf collecting dust.

well said words...

I'm going through the same thing two years now it hurts so bad

Everything you wrote was exactly what i needed to read. Thank you. And congrats on getting married(:

I'm glad I read this post, it has helped a little. The memories still hanging on, and I miss her so much. I don't understand how someone could say they love you, and leave the next day.

I understand you so well, almost a year after my ex and I broke up Im still struggling to move on. I loved him very much but I guess he didnt love me as much. He wanted to stay friends but I refused. He didnt deserve my love nor my friendship. I miss him everyday and think about him. He hurt me so much and I still dont know exactly why it all happened. He was selfish and a coward. I guess Im better of but still hurts so bad.

I love some one but after 15 break ups dust of the 14th one haunts me.

thank you! for making me realize that he's the only man in this world.

but i really love him

we just broke up yesterday. everyday we hang-out with our friends.

and so on. suddenly i got sick for 1 week nd i started going back to school again.

we held hands when we were both standing on the door. he was supposed to go home that time. but he didn't he'd go home late. it happens on thursday Afternoon. when we both eating "kwek2" ( burger with egg ) we held hands that time.

and suddenly on friday on lunch time he says to me he want break up. cause he dont have time to me anymore. but he really did have time to me. actually i think this for a minute that he'd seen a new girl when i got sick. hmpp. it really pains me alot.

i dated this guy and he was my first love. i put this front on for my friends because they hate him for what he did to me. I pretend like i hate him too, pretend that i can't stand being in the same vecinity as him but in all truth i miss him, and i think about him everyday. i need to get over him but i don't know how. HELP!

Great story, you explained things so perfectly. I'm still working on getting over my ex so it helps to read your post.

Thank you so much for sharing this.

WOW, just found this post, but you were right on then, and right on now. Congrats on finding the love in you, and your marriage.

OMG. This so true. This be like the story of my life, and things. All that time, energy, money, emotion, love, my self I done waste on mens who ain't never appreciate me or nothing I had ever did for them. I ain't perfect, and I done made mistakes, like all people do and had done did and always will do, but I ain't the ugliest, meanest, rottenest old hag out there, neither. I am pissed off with how I done been treated and mistreated, and used and used up, and trashed by them men what Ain't Worth ****, and Who Done Waste MY TIME, hurt Me, Hurt My Feelings, gone and talk about Me, make up lies, trash talking, those cheap *** sorry Loser Big BAbies Sexist Misogynistic Peter Pan Syndrome Lousy Lay Boring Selfish Lovers Who Is So Immature And Always On The Lookout For Some Perfect Fantasy Person What Don't Exist, and Even if And When They Think They Done Fount That Person They Sooner Or Later Gone Find Faults And Flaws Wit Them Too. And These Men, They Got Insecurity Complex, Too, Even Though It Hard To See It In Some More Than Other Of Them. And All Them Done Waste My TIMe and Better Years, Messing with Me, My Heart, My Head, My Life, And Oh yes, MY LIFE. And Ima Gonna Skin Every DAMN One Of Them And Lots More Ppl Alive. And Other Things. Or Other Things. And It Ain't Going To Be Pretty. And I Ain't Lyin', Neither. HeHeHe.

sometimes when looking through EP we find just the perfect thing we need to read at just the right time. This is one for me. I seem to get stuck in memories of people that I know that I wasn't meant to be with, but still, a memory pops up and I sit and think about how this could have been diffierent or I could have done this and maybe it would have made it all different. And maybe he was my one but me being me I didnt do or say the right thing so I messed it all up. Then I read this, and it just reminded me of what I already knew....what I would try to make someone else understand. Thank you.

Thank You for this article. It was well written and helpful. I recently went through something similar and every person I talked to just told me that "I needed to get over it." I didn't know what to do or how to put it in words. You summed up everything nicely, and I now know what I should do. You have helped me so much. I want to wish you all the best on your search for the right person. You will find them soon.

well its true i have been through it, i loved my bf he rejected me bcus i used to talk about my ex he hated me, left me moved on, i kept waiting for him,saw him with other women,marriage divorce,remarriage but he never understood. nd keep coming bck to me when he was lonely and moved bck when he was relaxed, i kept on hoping for a miracle, he came bck again 6 yrs after NC asking for forgiveness we talked and i realized he nvr loved me it was a illusion, i fought with him last night asked him y he nvr loved him, then realized i nvr moved on In NC i was just hiding my true feelings but i now realize i have to move on but the worst part is i have promised to be friends with him so i have to listen when he talks abt his wife who also dnt love him, destiny is now playing a game with him.

Thank you for sharing. From what I know from previous breakups, you will eventually get over them once time passes that allow you to have a more unbiased view of the relationships, the good, the bad and the ugly of sorts.



Yes, it is challenging to the best of us. The overwhelming memories and emotions just kill.



I agree.

wow !When i tell u its so true it truely takes time to heal . It has been 2 months for me and iam not going to lie i still think of him. But what i did realize that iam so much better with out him then with him.An its his lose not mine, I had to realize that i am truely queen looking for my king an i no longer have time to waste on a frog.lol ! ladys no that you are to bless to be stress.

Thank you for your writing. I know many people must have been through bad breakups, but it is hard not to concentrate on myself. Since I separated from him, I just feel miserable, like my life is just sad, is never gonna be perfect without him. Funny because I had been single all my life before I met him and I was happy before. Funny how I became single again and find it hard to be happy on my own. I know the point is I have to accept the fact that I cant have him, but somehow it is hard to control what you feel, I guess. I dont even know why I feel so miserable, knowing that we cannot be together anyway, and that I will find someone better.

I guess time will heal it.

You are so so so right.. it is doable. I never thought I would get over my love (to see the sotry look at my page).... but I find each day gets easier... some days I still cry but not as much.. I knwo one day it will be easier.... one day the pain will be easier to deal with...

Bunch of crap, if you really loved someone you never get over it. So dont go falling in love because love doesnt love you. Love is a curse! How the hell can it be a blessing when someone always ends up hurt? Find'em, ****'em, & flee

Thanks so much for the post, I am going through something similar (the story is on my profile) and its the hardest thing I have gone through. Some days I panic because I feel so so so lost......... I just want him back but he said "i love you but right now im not in love with you".... its like a knife pierced my soul...

If love feels like this I don't want to bother with it.. But Kahlil Gibran explains everything beautifully, explicitly. Read it.. http://www.katsandogz.com/onlove.html



Yes, it hurts. I had tears running down my face after I read it because it is the Truth. The Truth Always Hurts. But we still have the choice to learn from it, be guided by it, live with it. And Live It.



Take your time. You may never recover from this. There will be a part of you that will always hurt. The most important thing is that you continue growing as a person.

When I was 8, my family and I went camping in the Yorkshire Dales one summer. I made friends with a boy called Charlie, who asked me one day, ‘Will you be my girlfriend?’ Not quite knowing what to do, I said, ‘Wait here’ and made him wait under a tree on the hillside while I ran all the way back down and never came back.



12 years later, I found myself on the receiving end of a 2 year guilty infatuation with a guy I’ll call Tom. I finally plucked up the courage one day to call him and declare my love, but sensing where the conversation was heading, he changed the subject and told me a story...



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It's been (almost) exactly 5 years and although I now know that I am better off without him, I still want my old life back because I've lost too much and now I'm in such a way that I can't regain what's been lost,

I think it was the loss of my former life that I was so miserable about losing. yes, it was devastating to be no longer cared about by someone who vowed to always take care of me and it's hard to accept that I was rejected and not wanted but after all that goes away, it's the fact that I contributed a lot of effort, time and money (just to name a few) and I caused physical detriment to myself because I was under the strong impression that all the sacrifices I was making, all the hard work and lack of consideration for my own personal self was in exchange for a secure future. Sorry if I fail at making this analogy make sense or hard to follow but I sowed my seeds and now i should at least have a bed in which to lay.

It's been 5 years and I still wish he hadn't of left when I needed him most, I still miss how we were and how bright our future was looking (even though it was obviously a lie) but more than anything else I am pissed off that he has a young girlfriend he plans to marry, he has a child, he has a business, he has a new home, a vehicle that he can afford to insure, money in the bank, money to go out, money to buy everything they need and a lot of what they want but I can't even afford the bare necessities.

They are benefiting from all of my hard work and sacrifices. I pushed myself so hard that I broke myself and now will probably never fully recover from this spinal injury. Rather than be selfish and do what was necessary per my rehabilitation I worked a very stressful and demanding job and then worked at our business, causing me to stress more, sleep less, etc.

WTF!!!



But why don't I do whatever I can to destroy the person who destroyed me?



Because I would be cutting off my nose to spite my face.

I would end up destroying him and that would cause detriment to his parents, his girlfriend and his lovely, adorable child. At the end he probably wouldn't be able to afford to keep his vehicle gassed up in case his child needed emergency medical care so he probably wouldn't be able to afford to make any payments towards what is owed to me.



I have so much more to say but I fear I've already gone off topic and talked too much..

Now I will force myself to step away from the computer and walk away for at least a little while.

sorry

Yeah its hard to forget, cuz u go all in, u give ur heart away to that person. It hurts when refused in return. Sometimes i wonder, is there really someone that is special for me, that will fall in love with me? I heard lot of people say that u will find that special person, but what does it take, a lifetime?

I loved a girl and she just lied to me that she does that . It went on for sometime and then i was told that she doesnt love me or anything , it was just sympathies

I do agree with you completely bcoz its not the noise the hurts u but its the silence of loved one which hurt u badly and very deeply...



But one should try to 4get the past and try to live happily ,

@lilbrunette, visit EP more often, it grows on you and you won't hurt as much. Lot's of nice folks around to keep you busy and occupied.

Thank you so much for your post. I really appreciated your thoughts as i can relate to them and it does bring relief. I'm in the process of separating from my husband and at the moment, I constantly think about why I wasn't good enough...blah..blah..really negative thoughts. But what gets me through is that I say to myself that in a couple of years time, I wouldnt hurt this much. But between now and that point, I'm at loss how to deal with the everyday things..your post helped me that though.