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He Makes Me Feel Stupid.
A personal story in the experience: I Loved Someone That Didn't Love Me
Jul 29th, 2008
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H
e was everything I could ever wanted. It was heartbreaking when he had to go back to his home country. He said that he would come to visit, he promised he would reply every email. He never did say he loved me but he planted a kiss on my lips before he left. That meant everything to me. He did reply my emails but after a while he just stopped. I sent him multiple messages but he never replied any one of them. I waited month after month for a reply but I got nothing. I know he went online a few times but he never bothered to reply. I could never understand why he was ignoring me. I started emailing his friend and I asked for his number but after that his friend stopped replying too. I kept wanting to give up on him and move on, but it is just so hard to forget everything and move on. I added him on facebook but he never approved my friend request, nor did he deny it. I just couldn't understand it, I was so frustrated I felt like screaming my lungs out. I have been trying to resist checking up on him ever since. However, last Tuesday, I had to be stupid and I checked his profile anyways. Apparently he was online two hours before that, and he set his relationship status as 'in a relationship' with some girl he has been friends with for quite some time. I can't describe how I feel when I read that. He could've just told me he was seeing someone else and that we were done, not ignore me for months and made me worried sick! I waited for a whole year for him and this is what I get. This made realize that perhaps he never did love me. I wish he could've at least said something, but he didn't. If you really care for someone, even if you have stopped loving them and has found someone new, you would at least tell the person that, right? I don't know if I am angry, all I know is I feel very betrayed, and used and lied to and terribly hurt. Most of all I feel stupid. I feel like the dumbest person on earth to have waited a whole year for something that I knew was dying. I wish I wasn't so hopeful. I wish I didn't love him so much because it stings like hell now to know that I have been so in love with a person who may have already forgotten my name by now. 
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  | Posted Jul 29th, 2008 at 8:40AM Well that's life...i also had this experience but not for a whle year!!! i mean waiting for a WHOLE YEAR???.. so much time was wasted   |
 | Posted Jul 29th, 2008 at 9:14AM I know, I suck don't I? It's just that I never expected him to do this..I keep thinking there must be a good reason why he's not talking to me. I even blamed myself but I really don't know what I did wrong. |
 | Posted Jul 29th, 2008 at 10:35AM Time is never wasted...You can never regret anything in life, or else you arent really living. Take it for what it is: an experience. Good or bad, the experiences we have in life help us to learn and grow as individuals. Heartache and heartbreak are a part of life, no matter how much we want it to be otherwise... I do hope you find someone who deserves you, because anyone who is that committed deserves the world... +2 nods |
 | Posted Aug 6th, 2008 at 3:18PM Sad Story ... perhaps not! (Its not contradictory, but an opinion) You loved that guy, you mailed him, you called him, you tried through his friend, then .. at the end you are feeling dejected, betrayed, lied, used.. and ALL. Just becasue you assumed him to be loving you. You expected him to reply you and similar things. So, what ever you feel is just because of your false assumptions. Dignose them, treat them, correct them, you will be fall happier... may be Happiest! (A truth about me: I too have inftuation for a girl since... more than 3 years, still counting.. and yet .. I am happiest! Because i never assumed she would be loving me.) |
 | Posted Oct 10th, 2009 at 1:03PM Omg Im So Sorry, I Only Hope Yu Do Find Someone Whos Willinq To Keep Yu((: -Lots of Luck Mary-Ann (♥♥] |
 | Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 10:41PM He didn't speak the words that he was done with the relationship, but his actions were SCREAMING! No response to your efforts to contact him. His friends cut you off. Wouldn't add you as a friend. You fall into that same girly habit that we like to do when we're kidding ourselves. "He wouldn't add you, but he didn't deny you." YES HE DID! Over and over!!!!! Your only lesson from this is: DO NOT listen to people's words. They lie. Listen to their actions. They don't. He was over it. His actions very clearly showed you that. Move up and on, sista!! |
 | Posted Oct 31st, 2009 at 3:40AM I know exactly what you're talking about. It's so hard to speak logic to your heart. The heart doesn't understand. +2 nods |
| Posted Nov 6th, 2009 at 6:59AM The thing is - you had the courage to open yourself and tell him what you felt. He did not. He could not even reject you. That is worse in my opinion. But that does not make him such a great guy. That makes him a schmuck. who wants a schmuck? Its ok to love a schmuck but understand you will never get anything from said schmuck. Probably not even closure. So make closure for yourself. Great guys are not schmucks. Notice how the word schmuck clings to you like sticky mud? Thats on purpose. It is supposed to cling - repeat that to yourself. He is a schmuck and a long distance one at that. Everyone deserves to be told honest feelings. Even if that is a rejection at least you know where you stand. So take it on yourself to reject someone who wont be honest with you. SCHMUCK. |
 | Posted Nov 8th, 2009 at 6:22AM I experienced the same thing, but sometimes, men are scared to confront or tell you to stop because they are coward or afraid to tell it to your face. you have to move on girl and Im sure you cant find the right one because you hinder your self to find him.. stop blaming yourself about the things you have done and made you feel sutpid, it happens. now its your time for your self and you have to realize that you are more worthy than him.. |
| Posted Nov 9th, 2009 at 9:03AM Thank you everyone so much for the comments and all the advice. I'm happy (and proud) to say that I've already gotten over him a long time ago. I feel like a much stronger person now, too. Months after I wrote this story, he contacted me again and we tried to become friends but it just didn't work out. But I'm alright with it, and he's alright with it. It doesn't hurt anymore. It's a really great feeling, it really is. I'm glad I've gone past all that. Thanks everyone for all the support, I really appreciate it. |
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