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You Know They Don't Love You Back When...

Symptoms of Lovesickness

One Broken Heart

Too Many Unwiped Tears

That E  m  p  t  y Feeling

Pain. Lots and lots and lots and lots of pain. So deep it cuts into your very being. Leaving scars that will last long after the pain.

When more time is spent on the person you love than you would ever spend on yourself. Even if they would never give you the same sacrifice, and couldn't care less what your time is spent on.

No matter what you will always believe there is hope. And you despise yourself for it.

When your Heart has been ripped out, and ignored, yet still can't let go.

When you would do anything for your love... Even if it means that you can't love them.

When you try to find new ways to hate them. Becuase then at least it wouldn't hurt so much.

When everything is out of your control.

When you can't say why you love them, and to you that's the strongest love anyone can ever have.

When you realize that you can never, ever have them...again...

When you have finally hit the lowest low. And no one can bring you up, and anyone who can will never be there.

When you care so much about the person you forget about everything else completely, even your health and wellbeing.

When you sit and write something like this crying to yourself, and wondering why you are so pathetic.

When you can't sleep at night becuase when you close your eyes, they are standing there to remind you that you are alone.

When you feel all these feelings, but are too afraid to tell them, becuase you're scared they might not care. And the truth is they probably won't.

When you feel their presence everywhere. But you don't want to because it's just another reminder of how far away they really are.

When the pain is so great, you feel that giving up altogether is th only choice, when really you have so much to live for.

When they have told you that they don't love you. And you would do anything to say those same words...and mean it.

But the only words that you can say are:

I love you, and no matter what happens I will still love you and I still think of you all the time. I know it means nothing to you, but you mean everything to me.

Please if anyone ever falls in love with you and feels this strongly. Don't shrug it off like it is nothing, I'm not asking you to love them back, I'm just asking you to care.

And if anyone ever falls in love with someone this strongly and they don't love you the same way, hold on to every last bit of sanity you have. Don't let it completely ruin who you are. You are a wonderful person and can pull through. You will have some very rough times. But, it will get better...

I hope. At least that's what I've been told.

wycomper wycomper 22-25, M 618 Responses Dec 31, 2006

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Wow. This is by far the oldest post I have came across here in EP. The most responded to one, and the highest in the hearted list. I am sitting here smiling.---------But, as I was reading, I was tearing up, because I felt it. And I was thinking, I've felt it before...and it does get better...I was about to comment and tell you to just be sad and let the emotions come out and keep going...and it's not pathetic to love someone that doesn't love us..and it's even ok to keep loving them even after knowing they don't love us. But we keep living our lives...and it will pass in time. and blah blah blah....----then I saw the date....and Wow.

I love this person, but never felt anything when we kissed....but when I was sitting next to him I got butterflies. It was like I could be next to him forever and be content. Strange and confusing is what it is.

And what about if you already married this person? When you fall in love you leave yourself wide open. Nothing the person you love could ever be wrong in your eyes. You don't fall in love at first sight no matter how strong the attraction. Don't base your attraction to partners on physical attractiveness. Get information about the person -do your research well or you're setting yourself up for almost garenteed misery. Don't cheat on previous partners and turn around telling someone you'd never cheat on them. You are just another person carrying the compulsory gene and you need to make those around you aware that you ever have a problem or risk ruining your own life and the lives of those you come into contact with. You may think you know the difference between love and lust but you don't. None of us do. Love is not what you've been taught and you'll never truly know love unless youve had your sexual organs removed from birth. Sexual organs are your biggest enemy in terms of using cognitive reasoning to choose a partner. You are experiencing self pity to even be reading this and no one will provide the mercy you need. Find strength within yourself or your belief system. You are just as important as every other person and animal in the world. If you are here its probably time to suck it up and walk away.

I am 13 and I met this guy at camp. The first time I saw him something hit me. When I found out he liked me to I was the happiest girl. We were supposed to get with him one night but I got to scared... But, I still loved him. He made me feel like my heart had been spun around and around. Only a couple days later he got with another girl. A girl who didn't respect girl code and was a bully to me. After my heart felt like cupids arrow was ripped out And heavy chains were thrown on top weighing it down and drowning my love in the depths of a dark ocean. I was confused and hurt. Why would he loose interest in me in me that fast? Why would he switch me off like a light? Before he got kicked out he told me I looked like Madison beer wich is a huge complement. He kept on complimenting me. Then he got kicked out and back to California. I love him and I don't know if I will ever stop loving him.

all so true but, for anyone in this situation, go out loads make as many new friends as possible, meet new people as well as hanging with your old friends as well a lot, you cant stop the pain from happening but you can reduce the time it takes to go away, altho the scar will last for life, think of it as a battle scar as long as you are alive you haven't ever lost! someone will come and make everything alright maybe someone else to love or might just be a new bestfriend you make and just helps you feel content with who you are. Dont do what ive done in the past drink, drink, drink, until you realise how much money you are wasting and risk serious damage to your insides and you brain, you will eventually get to a point where the alcohol doesn't do anything and the pain will still be there and worse than before. you need to let yourself do the healing drinking majorly stalls this process, time defeats and outlasts everything so don't wry it will get better be as positive as possible x P.S remember your the one who is having or had your heart violated you should not be the one feeling bad love is weird, things happen the wrong way round a lot!

what I just read is how I feel everyday. It hurts so much the only difference is the person did love me back and for a long time we were happy but when he broke up with me it was like I never existed. Its like everything we shared together were all in my head, lies. And every since then I have had a hole in my heart that I thought would heal over time but boy was I wrong it is still there, he still haunts me every damn day and there is not a second that goes by that he is not on my mind. And all the while I want reasons to hate him bc somewhere in my mind I feel that if I hate him the pain of what he did will eventually fade but I cannot bring myself to hate him even after I everything I sacrificed and gave him like for instance my virginity, ugh so it was so long but if u read thank you

What would you do if your girlfriend ask you to always leave and ask this question what would you do if I said I love you but I don't love you as much as you love me ... I don't know how to feel it been running in my mind all day

I would end it. You deserve someone that will hold on and never let you go. You deserve to be someone's knight in shining armor. I am currently going through a bad break up. We dated for a year but he didn't see me. He put me down and I was never good enough but I love him. I know in my heart he didn't love me so even though I cry everyday, I made the right decision. Follow your heart.

I love him. I thought it's possible that he'll love me back. I was wrong. He loves someone else .. someone's who's not me and am hurt.

Every think is black and dull and boring and then Dean walks in and it's like stepping off a plane I'm Spain on the hottest and sunniest day of the year. I literally feel my heart crying I have felt real pain but no amount of broken bones or cuts and bruises will ever amount to the pain I feel when I'm without him. I can't bare to ever not see him again he is my entire world and I would rather pull my teeth out one by one then not see his face every week! He knows that I love him but I'm afraid to tell him everything in case it pushes him further away help me please somebody? I fear if things don't change soon then there won't be anything left of me to help :(

I am going thrgh the same...I love someone soo much n always express it..n ead he does is ignore it and neva show care..I cry..It affects me..but d person neva cares...I feel alone

I too loved someone...he has always been in front of me every second...truth is accepted that he will never love me back...but to me all that matters is that i love him...will love him forever no matter what..i will wait n if destined he will realise some day..but i cant allow anyone to be replaced..he has always been special...a few things are not in our hands..but loving them i would just say love them till the end...but live your life happily..cry when you feel like but the next min get up and live your others be kind it will always help you..and being in contact with the person you love doesnt always ruin u it depends on you, how you want it to be..accept them as your friends and keep the love within you all will be right with time...

I am going through this and it hurts! I cry my eyes out all the time and have rough sleepless nights. The person I love just lost all interest in me and I still love them dearly! I don't even feel the same anymore! I feel like an empty hole and just feel like I'm just soo low nobody can get me out....

I feel that way too, it hurts so much and it hasnt gotten much easier and i hate hearing ppl tell me that its gonna be okay when it hasnt gotten any better

I am going through this right now the fact that this will mostlikly be true it gives me just enough comfort to go through life with the friends I have.

All my friends have had a go at me for feeling this way I can't express how much it means to me that the author understands me on every level xx

Ive been through this with a person that i dated for five years...i did everything for him and he never made me first choice....i did anything he wanted me to do.....i completely humiliated myself asking for him to take me back in front of his building....word of advice, if a person makes you feel like what the author. Described above, you must lose complete contact with the person.You will never, ever get better until you close all contact.... and you will never ever win their heart.....leave before you turn into an evil person filled with envy, depression, and will evebtually want to see the other person hurt just so they could feel what you feel....but you have to let go....but trust me when i say, that the person will feel the exact pain you are feeling if they did you wrong....

I feel the same way you do but I've been told and seen many girls are waiting for .y boyfriend of 3 years -karmas not swift enough in my opinion xx

don't go overboard mobbing for yourself it only makes it worse.

This is the same for me. I pretend he is with me, and I am sharing my good experiences with him. But these imaginings aren't real, and I wish I could stay in my imagination forever.

i m facing same problem...
bt it is not problem..i love her...
today 1 more day when she was sleeping without saying me gud nyt..
actualy she said that she love me a lot bt her act says she is lying...
i dnt know what to do..plzzz any1
..i love her so i cant hurt my heart anymoree..i m not able to restraint myself,she is everything to me..i dnt y..y m crying....i feel likeee sm1 press my neck..wat to do...she is sleeping..

If you could lose all contact with her , do sorry to be so blunt but you wont win her heart. Even if she trues to contact you, dont contact her back....change your number....and maybe two or three years from now youll be fine.....

Its not easy to hurt yourself..bcs dat damn it person wont understd..dey take it as if u r blackmailing..n d person dont see that u love them soo much that u can do nythg for them.

Does saying I love you no matter what happens bad ? (Girlfriend said it)

Im currently having a girlfriend for almost 1 and a half year.. today she told me she starts feeling less about me. Everytime I say I love you, she responds with: Its really hard for me to say that... I love you too but.. less..
It ******* breaks my heart. I love her with whole my life, I'd given her my whole life..she is my life. I'm typing this while crying in bed.. I feel depressed and empty.. i don't know what to do.. If I keep this relationship.. I'd have to wait for her to give her final decision.. wait in pain.. And maybe she'll dump me.. which means the waiting was for nothing.. or I break up with her... but... i love her too much to do that... I don't know.. help...

if she love you the sameway u do ,she will care for u but if not she is the big loser...she will lose one good lover,don't worry there will be some one out meant for u...

it is close to valentine's day. so give her a gift and a nice letter of stating why you love her and then give her space. truth is you both are young and feelings change. let me ask u this. do u think many married their girlfriend of age 16-17 years old??? probably not. and it's things that come up like this. give it your best shot and if she doesnt appreciate you. then it's time to let her go. I wouldn't be surprised if she likes someone else though. just saying

Just break it off....she doesnt love you.....

Wish I cud have such lover or atleast a friend....... I m too alone:(

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I hope so I'm driving myself insane I relized I loved someone after we broke up I will never get a second chance he doesn't want me back and I love him I lost him and I hurt everyday I think about him every second of the day I just want to have a second chance I will never have one I can't get over him I wish I can I hope one day I'll meet someone who will love me the way he did

hie eveyrone. so this guy came in my life when i already was seeing someone. he changed my outlook n way of living. i saw myself in him. though me n my broke up long bck. but this guy use to take me fr long drives.....dates...movies. yeo we goto same college. he dosnt even look at me in college. strange init?/ but yep, during movies we hav kissed too. i couldnt restrain myself. my frnd told me to stop seeing this guy. wen i told him about my feelings he went angry sayin this is my obsession. but it seems he is seeing someone already. his frnds mock me in corridor teasing by his name, n all he does is giv it a pass. idk! i love this guy, there is this whole big connection i feel....sonetimes when he looks at me. i got blank! i feel like not giving up hopes. but then again i am not what hes lookin for. i am just passing fantasy. its been 2 years now. its killin me. i wish he knew what he meant to me.

He does know what he means to you and the harsh truth is he doesnt care.....some people feed their ego off of that love.......speaking from experience...

You hit it right on the head. If someone knows you care about them a lot and remains lukewarm and keeps you at arms length, but never really lets you go or draws a line, they're feeding off your feelings like an emotional vampire. Run.

Just incase anyone still reads this feed I want to tell my story to all you young high school girls on here,
I was 12 when I meet the boy who would be my first love he asked me out and I said yes a week later I broke up with him at the dance I hurt his feelings so much he went home and actually cried a little I never knew this until later the next school year came around I was 13 and so was he I realized that maybe I did like him after some flirting he asked me again this time I said yes and meant it, I had never felt the way I did before he was all I thought about every day at school we hung out until finally we started hanging out at each other's house's he was my first everything, we were "in love" we stayed together for 6 years we had our ups and downs but he'd always show that he did love me when I started to think he didn't, and we always thought we'd get married we came from a small town every knew us and how long we had been together and it was no suprise to anyone when he got foot ball captain and I got homecoming queen are senior year, but by the end of our senior year he began to change although we were both going to the same college right by our home town he had gotten a football scholarship although I knew he was still trying to make it work when we'd fight he wouldn't act like it didn't matter if I gave up and walked away he just started to not care but I wasn't ready to give up and neither was he but you'll learn when your in you're 20's and look back at who you were from 13-18 you realize how much different and how much you have changed and unfortunately that is why your first love most typically won't be your only love, because you don't really know who you are yet and what you want and neither does that person...the boy I had fallin in love with turned out to be a man that I could never be with by the time we both turned 20 he had become a drinker "something he never touched in high school" and began partying and lying behind my back my heart was crushed 6 years of my life wasted something I could never get back thousands of memories I could never erase, and as much as he tried to deny it I knew he had cheated on me, so after 6 long years I broke up with him it was the hardest thing I ever had to do I felt numb inside for so long I didn't think I could ever fall in love again I quit school and started partying I got depressed I did anything I could to numb the pain but everyday I got a little stronger I couldn't speak about the break up for months, I blocked him from Facebook I could barley speak his name with out getting upset, but it all seems like a distant memory now I kept fighting I never let him know how badly he broke my heart my soul and my sanity I stayed strong and acted like I was living it up. It'll be 2 years this April since the day I ended it, and I did fall in love again 6 months ago he's asleep by me right now. And it doesn't bother me a bit to talk about my ex I unblocked him from Facebook and occasionally hell txt me sometimes I reply with a I'm fine thank you for asking but hey I'm busy can't really talk or sometimes I just won't reply at all because I genuinely don't care anymore I don't feel anything for him and it's an amazing feeling to know I pulled myself through that. So for all you people out there with broken hearts. Just remember if I can get through it so can you 6 years is a long time and breaking up after something like that sounds like an impossible feat to get through but I assure you it's very possible and things really do get better.

hate to it but you got karma is what it is..:P

I remember seeing my first love from across the P.E. field. She was wearing a yellow skirt, black boots and shirt. I was in the 8th grade and I liked her without even knowing her name. in the 9th grade I had her for history class. the last period of the day. I asked her to be my gf on feb 5th 1991 and she accepted. we broke up 5 months later. or should i say she broke up with me and also broke my heart. we went to different high schools. I then saw her 2 years later and I had that same feeling for her. we exchanged numbers and she said she always regretted breaking up with me. we became close and got together feb 12th 1994 and even attended prom. her mother died 2003 and that was really hard on us. we got married june 12th 2004. my mother died 2007 and that broke me. I became distant and my wife must have felt alone just like i did. one day in late august 2011 she asked me to move out for a week. that she needed space but that we would work it out. I did. that night I received an email saying she was divorcing me and that there was nothing I could do. and she meant it. She moved in a coworker and they now sleep in what once was our room. I live with my brother still rebuilding my shattered heart. I've tried dating but i cant shake my ex image. her laughter, her voice, her love. somedays i feel proud of how im dealing with this ugly truth of divorce. and somedays I feel lonely. I forgot how it is to be loved, hugged, and kissed. I forgot how it is to have someone next to me. and I hope to one day forget the pain. I hope also to one day find that woman that has a sparkle in her eye that will shine with my silly jokes, my drawings, my poems, and my love for her. but ....... the time is not now yet. my heart is still under construction . :(

I loved a guy too. He was at first so responsive, he would send me long messages back and we would always talk and always have everything to talk about. In person he was quiet, but cute and shy and we would explore things, places, try foods together. Then one day he said were out of the honeymoon faze. He changed his profile picture from us to him and he changed into someone cold who barely ever said I love you, who would not kiss me, would not hold my hand, told me I was too energetic to stand by in public, would not wrap the one gift he bought me for my birthday, did not want to go anywhere, said I was not worth the drive. He said he had a dream of a girl he used to like and woke up with feelings for her. He was awful, I kept hoping the him I met would come back and he never did.

I hope you feel better by now ,love is evil...

Hi, I'm a white witch and I'm here to offer help got those in need. Wether it's healing, love,money, life stresses Id like to offer a solution.

As a white witch I do not cast spells that will force unwanted feelings upon yourself or other.

I simply get you back on track whatever the trouble may be.

As a alot of witches charge I choose not to buy if I do help I would insist a payment to a charity.

Of your choice. That would be a sort of thank you and payment. I do not take any money from you for anything I do I simply ask you to donate to those in need too.

But if you do need guidance I'm here to do that.

Sairah x

Hey Sarah I really need help I really would like for my gf to come bk in my life her name is Raina Samuels can u help plz

Help I'm going through this right now and it's tearing me apart what do I do ? I was thinking of breaking off our friendship because this hurts too much

Break off the friendship

It is really interesting how it is worded. I totally agree with it.

I kinda gave up on love though. The only one I had hurt a lot. Spending all the time and effort on her and then her ttearing it up and putting it back in my face. It hurts. At least though, I've gained my positive outlook on life back, before I had this girl. I was depreseed, and normally; I'm never depressed, only for funerals and stuff like that.

Anyways, I do appreciate that there is somewhere in this world that we live in, that one could go to receive the love they need. This would be one of those places.

...I'm in love with him and he isn't. An FWB relationship. I flipped when I realized he signed up for another on-line dating website. This crushed me as I thought he took his profile 6 months ago that's why I've decided to take mine down too. Unknowingly he did and lied. But what can I do, I fell into this trap and now he knows how I feel about him. All I can do is to help myself by moving on and keeping myself busy. I'm still afraid for those days to come when I will miss him so badly and would want to text him. I would have to just try to keep myself intact and be strong not to text him back. I know in no time i will be ready to love again. They say even if we want to find love we can't really force things, and that just keep yourself busy and you wouldn't realize love had find you. That's what I plan to do

I'm going through this right now... I fell in love with a guy in my class. It was just a crush at first but it became love. I think of him when I wake up, on the bus, in class, at night... I cannot control. For two weeks now he knew and he was making me jealous because it pleased his ego. My friend told him that he couldn't do that and that he was making me suffer but today he came to see me and said "I know you want go out with me (he then asked me I said yes). I just wanted to say it is not reciprocal. I didn't mean to make you suffer and I'm sorry if I did. Ok?" The thing is he said it with a "funny" voice like he was trying to avoid it. He wasn't able to say it seriously, in his tone of voice I could feel he didn't care and he was just telling me this because my friend told him to. I knew what he did, to make me jealous, what he was saying behind my back ("make her wait","I'll drive her crazy","she loves me") because he told it to my friend but he didn't have the guts to tell it to me. My friend told me everything so I know he was supposed to tell it to me but he just brushed it off by just saying that he doesn't like me back. Why do you tell someone that they are perfect, pretty, everything to look in a girlfriend, gorgeous eyes, etc. as a confidence and you mean it, but you just don't really care ? It's ******* painful, and not only the fact that he doesn't love me back but the fact that I feel like I'm not even a person for him. I'm starting to regret this day because I should have showed him how painful and horrible it was and how bad I wanted to cry my eyes out all day when I just laughed with him like nothing happened. I want him to know that he made me suffer. But know is holiday time so I won't see him for two weeks. I wish I had school for just one more week... I do not want to start dreaming about a message from him because it will not happen.