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I Still Love Him

Compensating for the loss of my last boyfriend, I began dating after only a few days. Unfortunately I realized that my new boyfriend was too great of a guy to lead him on the way I was, and I broke it off. Just weeks after, I missed him terribly, and knew I had made a horrible mistake. I tried desparately to forget him, but even after dating other guys I knew something was different about him. We had become and stayed really close after we broke up, and even fooled around once. I told him how I felt, but he's never responded in the same way. I still hope that someday he'll love me the way I love him, and I can have a second chance.
Tyler Tyler 16-17 32 Responses Jul 25, 2006

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Hey Tyler your story was written 6 yrs ago - update us on how you are getting on.

We all make mistakes, and yes, EVERYTHING DOES HAPPEN FOR A REASON. It's called fate. You're gonna meet someone who you're gonna eventually love forever and grow old and disgusting with. :) I promiss you.

I wish I had that outlook. I used to believe everything happened for a reason. But I have a hard time seeing the reasons anymore. I believe with the free will we are given, how can fate play a hand? Does fate exist? Are we all just floating around willy-nilly? I think so.... :(

When one losses a loved one, he/she tends to compensate the feeling of being loved by being "with" other people not thinking on the consequences this would bring about. You have to understand too that it takes time to heal all wounds.

don't worry my first meaningful relationship, i ended that exact way and after a while me and her got back together. Don't give up

I totally get what you are talking about. I have just recently been through exactly the same thing. And it is hard. Its very depressing. I am still trying to get over the whole situation. It sucks beg time.

I've been there before. Its like when they want you. U dont want them but when u want them. they dont want you..... Alll I can say is hang in there and if its ment to be. It will happen... Dont be to pushy u mite push him away.

Hope - wish - want better equal action of plan a hell of a lot better then this post just spitting mere rubber banded day dreams shooting at the ceilings. If you truly TRULY LOVE this person, then you better step up and show it, Bare It! Your soul, your desire, your willingness at all costs to make them FEEL what you are claiming to be so.. I am sorry for being so hypercritical and rough sounding.. But God Damn it! I read stuff like this daily only wishn it were too me. I am never going to receive a letter of this honesty such as you displayed (which I tip my hat too you for) But for *** sakes! Go and get whats yours! Dont he one of the three frogs just having an idea or ideal of with no action taken! Do yourself a favor and get busy living!

i think he just needs time becuase uu broke it off & now he's probably trying not to get heartboken again.

I understand, I have been rebound dating for about 5 years just to occupy my time but I am still in love with someone else although they dont love me anymore. Wish you the best on that, just know that someone out here in the world understands where your coming from.

I have to say love doesn't happen overnight. It has to grow, to endure every day trials, boredom, stresses and moments. We can't simply judge that he doesn't love you until times that will call for someone to show their love and affection. Give it sometime, get to know him, show him your true self, no games.. Over time you will know if he feels the same way and if you truly love this guy and not just infatuated.

I am in a similar situation. I can't get over my ex who was very controlling and abusive. He was also violent. I didn't end it and made excuses for him, that he was drunk etc. I know I could never be with him and he holds a torch for his ex and they have kids together. It is far too painful to be with him. However, I just can't seem to move on emotionally and whenever I 'm on dates, I run away after one date. I am trying very hard to move on, from someone who really didn't share the same feelings. So why do I feel bonded to someone who doesn't care at all!!! Grrr!!

Men still believe in the double standard. So if you go to bed with them the first night they think that you go to bed with every guy you go out with and that is so not true, unless of course you are a nympho or a prostitute and then honey you will get paid for it, and lets face it girls, we are sitting on a gold mine if we did but know it!!!!! hahahahaha<br />
Seriously, one has to play men at their own game. If you really like him a lot from the get go, well then play hard to get and he will love it and come back for more. I always did that with men I really fancied and liked and always ended up having a relationship. But if I had him the first night, he would either pass a comment or two (one did) and I really let him have it as well. So then he wanted more and I said no as he was just a lousy lay anyway. If you really don't fancy them and just want to have fun, well then go ahead. But be careful you don't fall for him as women usually do that after a while and men don't. Men want sex and love comes later and women want love and want sex after. <br />
Unfortunately, we are programmed that way because of men. But really we are the superior sex to them and can have multiple ******* all night to their one!!!! hahahahaha<br />
So you see girls, you can't live without them and you can't live with them.<br />
Just remember men are good for two things, lifting heavy boxes and sex and half the time they aren't good at that either!!!! hahahahaha

Tyler,<br />
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you are so young. In your teenage years, you will develop all sorts of feelings that are often seemingly confusing. Sometimes what we think is love is often considered lust. Eventually, you will meet others throughout your life that you will experience those similar feelings. It is how you perceive those feelings and how you handle the outcome is what would really matter.<br />
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Not to say that this young guy you seemingly love does not necessarily have feelings for you...but...his feelings may be the type of feelings ba<x>sed mainly on a true caring friendship level. Who knows...his attitude towards you may change over time and he may end up being the one person you marry. FOR NOW...just keep being friends and explore other options...CAREFULLY...

@ Tyler: If you fooled around, then he thinks you are sexually attractive at least. He will probably be willing to do that again. Do that occasionally for about a month. If he does not ask you to be his girlfriend, then he is a loser anyway. <br />
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Don't have sex with him. <br />
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(Am I actually helping a woman be manipulative? FML)

The one that got away from me was one that I will never forget about at all. He was sweet caring and I will never understand why I left when I did or why.

AM IN LOVE WID A GURL

I'm glad it worked out for you in the end, Kitty. I hope everything goes well.

Too bad the woman I was in my last relationship didn't feel the same way you do. I still love her deeply I just wish she knew it and realized I was the ONE for her the way she was for me........but at this point I don't think she will ever know

I understand what the first writer was saying...and i can relate to the girl who was depressed who was scared of a serious relationship.The terrible part about it was that this one guy, who I was cold to (unintentionally) cared for me and he would call me/text me every single day. If i was hurting, he would be there to comfort me in a moments time. He did everything in his power to make me happy, but unfortunately I wasnt. Now he is gone, it serves me right....because I hate to say it but sometimes you never know what you've got, until you lose it. <br />
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Funny thing is, four days ago I found his myspace and I tried to contact him again, even wrote him a nice letter, and he never contacted me. (I know he read it too) It seems he wouldnt even let me be his friend. :-( I feel like a damned fool.

I understand what the first writer was saying...and i can relate to the girl who was depressed who was scared of a serious relationship.The terrible part about it was that this one guy, who I was cold to (unintentionally) cared for me and he would call me/text me every single day. If i was hurting, he would be there to comfort me in a moments time. He did everything in his power to make me happy, but unfortunately I wasnt. Now he is gone, it serves me right....because I hate to say it but sometimes you never know what you've got, until you lose it. <br />
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Funny thing is, four days ago I found his myspace and I tried to contact him again, even wrote him a nice letter, and he never contacted me. (I know he read it too) It seems he wouldnt even let me be his friend. :-( I feel like a damned fool.

Oh you are still so young... (I earned the right to say that) you have lots of ppl yet to meet. Take your time sweetie and enjoy life a bit. (OMG I"m a mom!)

Oh you are still so young... (I earned the right to say that) you have lots of ppl yet to meet. Take your time sweetie and enjoy life a bit. (OMG I"m a mom!)

Everything does NOT happen for a reason! Some things happen for no stupid reason at all! Relationships are a two way street ravergirl so it is most certainly not all your fault.

Everything does NOT happen for a reason! Some things happen for no stupid reason at all! Relationships are a two way street ravergirl so it is most certainly not all your fault.

Yes, we realize the true value of people when we lose them...

mostly agree, however what if the person you left hurt you, but you still feel they are the 'one that got away' , do u believe it possible?

Yes, things do happen for a reason. The problem is we have to go through hell until we figure out why things happened that way!

I have also played the rebound game. I ended up going out with the ex's best friend... ouch for the ex... but he (the ex) was extremely abusive and I was desperate. The bright side is, the best friend ended up being the real Mr. Right, we are now engaged, and expecting a baby in April! I've never been happier with anyone in my life... despite my ongoing battle with depression and re-ocurring thoughts of the abuse and the trauma endured, I will never ever leave my fiance, and I know he will never leave me. The way I look at it is, if you really want a relationship to work out, you just cannot push them away... and if you do, he's just not Mr. Right, and it's not meant to be. There's nothing 2 people who really love each other can't overcome. So even though he was a rebound guy, it still worked out for the better, in my case anyway. If he wanted you, he would not push you away... I say move on until you get the same love in return.

Wow im sorry you have to go through this. Boys are a mystery (i say boys because it doesnt matter how old they are when it comes to relationships they are all boys) read my blog Ralph is killing me softly......good luck

Interesting read. It led me to wonder if anyone ever gets over "the one (boyfriend/girlfriend) that got away".

ye iv done the same. iv pushed a guy away because of some health problems that i was stressed about. now he thinks im a moaning depressed cow & never appreciated all he did 4 me. ok i was a bit wary of where we were heading (he was getting serious) but i didnt want him 2 stop calling! now i miss him & long 4 his touch every night. im alone, depressed & its all kinda my fault. somehow i have to look on the bright side. we just have to. move on. everything happpens 4 a reason..