T Loved Someone Who Couldn't Love Me

It is so strange to be with someone who does not know how to love.  He says he does love me, yet he says very hurtful things, has done things I can't get past, and believes if love is unconditional, I could forget it.  I think it is the trust thing - I am a bit protective now and just can't allow myself to be vulnerable.  I understand that he saw put downs, name calling and more in his home growing up - (and I thought he hated it) but I just can't keep getting hurt.

So I love someone that doesn't love me in the way I need to be loved.

bellaella bellaella
46-50
6 Responses Feb 9, 2009

I know how you feel Im very hurt too from my past relationship.

I appreciate the advice. The thought of peace is soooo appealing. I do not ever look to be loved -romantically -great friendships are all I seek.

Believe me try and move on. I was in one of those after 2 and 1/2 years and it came out of no where. So, please try for your own well being to move on from the relationship. You deserve to be loved and treated with respect. This relationship wont be getting any better but worse and no one deserves that. best of luck!

wow-thanks for the clear headed talk. It is sad and hard to believe that people who have been mistreated actually get used to it and look the other way. I have focused on my awesome job, staying fit, socializing with girl friends, hobbies - that I just have accepted the fact that passionate love is not to be -the only piece of my life that is not fitting. Maybe that could be remedied too! :)

I second rxc94 honey, and I couldn't have said it better myself.<br />
Cm

I know you love him and feel very strongly for him but please think about moving on as hard as it seems and can be, no one deserves to be called names or to be put down, you deserve better than that and deserve to find someone who loves you back. Take a second look and ask yourself, do I want to hear this sort of thing for the rest of my life? Do I want to be with someone that is going to hurt me day in and day out. I hope the answers are no. There are plenty of guys out there that would treat you much better. I know it's hard, but for your own well being, please try to move on, you deserve better.