How Can People Change So Fast

I just dont understand how people can change so fast.  One day they tell you that they love you and the next, without reason, they wont speak to you anymore.  And when I say without reason I really mean without reason.  Last thursday she told me  how much she loved me and how much she missed me when I wasnt with her.  Its been nine days and she still hasnt called me back.  I understand that people change over time.  But dont you think I should at least get a reason why?  Dont I at least deserve to know what happened?  Im half heart broken and half soooo angry. 

BenLinus BenLinus
26-30
10 Responses Feb 22, 2009

I went through this with my ex for over 5 years she would love me then not talk to me for weeks then she would talk to me everyday then she would go away for months. I never truly understood, seems to me she found someone else and isnt woman enough to tell you. But she kinda didnt want to give you closure cause she is hoping if she decides to come back you will be there.

They obviously found someone else. Women transition that way from one to the next. If she were truthfull, she'd say, " I'm tired of your **** and need a new one. <br />
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Mj

They obviously found someone else. Women transition that way from one to the next. If she were truthfull, she'd say, " I'm tired of your **** and need a new one. <br />
<br />
Mj

It doesn't sound like this happened all at once. She's probably been feeling this way for a while but just now telling you. It's happened before . . . . sorry.

It doesn't sound like this happened all at once. She's probably been feeling this way for a while but just now telling you. It's happened before . . . . sorry.

Yea it is like they dont give you the common courtesy of giving you closure. Even if what they are going to say is not something you really want to hear but it is better than nothing. Frustrating as h*ll! It is life thou.

i completely understand how you feel. I was in a relationship for a year and a half and towards the end it was very bumpy and rocky but things were slowly getting better. We had been telling each other how much we loved each other and sharing intimate moments with each other and then a week later, all i get is "i wanna be friends." and every time i would ask why or any kind of question i would get "i don't know" or "i don't wanna talk about it" to this day months and months later it still bugs me how he just couldn't give me straight answer.

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No kidding.....read my one story about the truth finally comes out and i totally get what the heck you are saying. I personally dont get that one at all! People do its odd.

always try to get excuses for people, maybe she has some troubles and so that she couldn't call u , why don't you try to call her?, perhaps she needs you now !!!