Five years. He told me that he loved me, but he was lying and he knew it. He used me those 5 years, never helping with the bills, spending all my savings, and in the end he didn't even work. He pawned his children onto me, saying that bonding with his kids was important, then he ripped them from my life and wont allow them to talk to me. He constantly found reasons to leave me during those 5 years, the only gift he ever gave me is a stuffed dog for xmas last year, Im sure he cheated on me (more than the one time he admitted to), he allowed his female friends to treat me badly, and 2 weeks ago he left for the last time. He moved him and his kids to another state and has not talked to me since he got there. The plan was I was supposed to move with him, but I now believe he never wanted me to move at all. I feel like a pathetic, needy loser but I still feel so much love for him, more than I have for any other man. He obviously does not love me or he would want me to be there with him, he used me and when I had nothing left to give him but love he left me.