I Loved Someone Who Didn't Love Me And I Was Stupid To Go Back And Believe The Good In Him And Now I Am Broke.

I met someone who was decent and kind at first but slowly started to show his angry side and how selfish he was and did the transferrence thing where if he did anything wrong, it became my fault.  I gave alot of money that was earned by working very hard and getting cheap vehicles that constantly broke down and I wanted to make sure that we paid our bills on time,rent,etc., and took care of what we had and I like keeping a clean home and he said my priorities were messed up because I wanted to be responsible. To me "Pay the Piper first", then have fun.  He wanted to look like a big guy to his friends and family and if it weren't for me, he wouldn't have had to the good life that he had.  He split up with me and I was stupid to go back way to many times and when I lost my job, he through me out with no place to live, no family and friends nearby.  He has a parent he has a mental disorder that I think he inherited and also he drank too much, which he was good at hiding at first.  I drink but am very socialable about it to where I really don't drink at all.  He became very emotionally/verbally abusive and just before he threw me out, he was getting to the point where he would have hit me.  I've never seen such rage in someone like this before.  I know being thrown out and not being hit was a blessing in that vein but now that I paid all of his bills that were constantly behind,  I am trying to find a job and scared and he's moved on back to an old girlfriend to take up the slack.  I feel so used and stupid and foolishly believed we were going to get the house he and I had been talking about and grow old together.  Now I have no place to live and the strong, independent person is gone and I'm scare and I keep trying and for those out there who don't think I've not been off my rear end, think again. I've been doing that and trying to find a job, is like trying to find a job in the US.  Thank you to all who outsourced our jobs.  I'm scared!

fallsgirl3 fallsgirl3
51-55, F
4 Responses Feb 25, 2010

Thank God there is someone in same situation. I hear you! I am in the exact same place. My story is the same except he did not get physically abusive it was more subtle. back and forth turning things around on me. I did everyting for him as you did. My ex does have our house of dreams in the place of our dreams all in his name now. Only because I helped him do it. I now have nothing and am slowly starting to rebuild my life over again! at 43. This relationship went on for 5 yrs. I can only be determined to get back what I had so I can achieve my dreams that no one will ever take from me again.

Thank you Inugami. I really need to hear that. I keep tryinging but it's hard sometimes and thank you for telling me to protect myself.

This only tells me that you deserve better, and as long as you keep trying you can make it. Don't let this get the best of you for that gives him power over you and anyone else who would want to take advantage of you. Being broken is hard to come back from, but your life still continues so you should make the most of it.

This only tells me that you deserve better, and as long as you keep trying you can make it. Don't let this get the best of you for that gives him power over you and anyone else who would want to take advantage of you. Being broken is hard to come back from, but your life still continues so you should make the most of it.