Wdf?

my girlfriend & I had been dating for about 17 months.  i had been outta town for 4 months,when i got back she picked me up at the airport and she seemed very happy. we went 2 her house had a couple of glasses of wine made love and held each other the whole night thru..the next day was good we talked about moving in 2gether and building a solid foundation for a life commitment 2 each other...later on that evening we went out for dinner and met some friends at a club in san francisco. everything was going great! she told me she loved me, and had been missing me forever and she was happy 2 b out with me after a long absence of my presence...   i felt so lucky 2 b with her as she was one of the hottest girls in the club that night, and the fact that she was loyal 2me... i asked her 2 dance but she didn't want 2... she told me 2 go have fun on the dance floor and she didn't mind she was just happy 2 be with me, i was reluctant at first,but after having a 2 or 3 Manhattans the music and the dance floor was calling me,so i went. after about 3 songs i came back 2 her and i don't know what i did but her whole attitude changed... in the end r first argument happen and on the way home it ended with her going to jail for a DUI.. she blamed me for everything.. told me if i wudnt have reached out for her she never wud have pulled away and jerked the st erring wheel which caused her to veer out of her lane that got her pulled over... needless 2 say she never even talked to me again after that...  i emailed called but too no avail did she reach back out 2me...its been 3 months, i ha vent try ed to contact her but still ha vent heard from her. i guess she really didn't love me after all. what do u guys think...?     

170mph 170mph
31-35, M
11 Responses Mar 7, 2010

I think it is time to move on. She told you to dance, so the fact that you did should never have been a problem. Obviously there were other issues going on that you didn't notice. You had two or three manhattans before you went out on the floor, how many did she have? How many more did she have while you were dancing? Alcohol reacts in strange ways on people. Most of them not good. In my opinion she may have a problem that doesn't have anything at all to do with you, one that she is going to have to figure out for herself. In the meantime you would be better off finding someone that isn't carrying that kind of extra baggage.

Looks aren't everything just because she is beautiful doesn't mean she is on the inside. She could be pretty but have a ****** personality. Looks only last for a while before the person gets uglier and uglier. Second, she sounds more like a psycho than someone who is nice. <br />
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Men need to stop looking on the outside of everything then maybe they would learn, ugh.

In addition, 17 months is a VERY short time to figure out if you two truly loved each other. Just because someone says they love you doesn't mean they are in love with you. Sounds like to me you and her were both just lusting for each other. That is all and nothing more. Lust and love are two very different things. You didn't mention anything about her personality only the fact that she was the hottest girl in the club and that she was beautiful. So what the hell do you know about her? Obviously nothing except that she was attractive. You do need to figure out what love is before you dig yourself into a hole with a girl who you will end up hating or getting hurt by, just like you almost did with this one :).

Looks aren't everything just because she is beautiful doesn't mean she is on the inside. She could be pretty but have a ****** personality. Looks only last for a while before the person gets uglier and uglier. Second, she sounds more like a psycho than someone who is nice. <br />
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Men need to stop looking on the outside of everything then maybe they would learn, ugh.

When i wrote that story i was so love sick i thought i was going 2 die!<br />
Its been 4 months and i am totally over her...!.<br />
I talked 2 her recently and i told her its no wonder why ur going on 40 single with no kids & a husband. I must admit it felt good 2 say that 2 her.<br />
If ur reading my story & going thru a break up as of now... <br />
Just remember wht doesent kill us makes us stronger & time heals all wounds!<br />
Thanx 4 the input friends 170 mph+ ;-

I think she's a damn fool. Sounds like you really cherished her and then she screws up and instead of owning HER issues.. she blames it on you and pushes you away. It sounds like she set you up to see if you would be her faithful lapdog by telling you to go on and dance without her, and then gets pissed. You deserve better than that, and you need to find a lady that will treat you right.

Obvious..... She is not that into you..... <br />
Let me be the devils advocate here and suppose that when you went on the dance floor you were all over some other girl.... That is something that can cause a serious fight, and loads of talking.. <br />
Is it enough to cause a break up? Or when something like that can cause a breakup? <br />
In my personal opinion I believe that she wanted to break up with you and she found a cause to do so.... That is why she is not giving you a second chance. In her mind she gave you second chances( I am guessing)in the past and you just were not aware of it.For example I had a boyfriend and in several occasion I thought his behaviour was not that good. I was telling my self " maybe I misunderstood maybe he is that way and I see it wrong so I was giving him a second chance. He didn't know that though..... so one day he did something I didn't like and broke it of. He was suprised... , Women do that. I have. Men do that as well.... just not as much as women.<br />
Good luck <br />
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I dont know jack about women, there a fucken mystery, but what I do know, they more often than not say what they dont mean. For some totally ****** up reason she obviously didnt want you to dance. <br />
How the **** we are supposed to know these things is way beyond me. I wish they would just say what they fucken mean and stop playin these stupid games and then blaming us for what they said to do.

She blow up once..she will blow up twice... How many times can you tolerate a NICE LADY who blow her top and ignore you for months? Imagine the rest should there be a wedding bell arrange..and she blew her top again and ran off... Good luck!

yo arvrham, word up dood, there r so many out there and i have moved on...getting a pretty woman has never been a problem for me, it just so damn hard for me to find one that i genuinely like...! I LIKED HER! she was beautiful and nice.. oh well everything happens for a reason right...? thanx 4 the comment 170+

well dude you cannot control how people feel towards you , But you can control what you do to others most people are usually insecure about something(because i used to insecure)and thats always been a deeper issue or underlining thing in most relationships(girlfriends) I have had just leave it at that move on dude