I've Been Doing Some Thinking Lately

So tonight I have done some serious thinking. I wonder if my boyfriend really can't commit to me from either the past experiences or because he wants to be free while overseas.  Is not saying "i love you" before one deploys a make or break deal? I wonder if I should still stick around. I still have hope and pray often. I just hope he surprises me and proves us all wrong. However, tonight is one of those nights of doubt. Is it possible for him to overcome the past and see that he has a good thing, or would it be easier to write off 7 months? Any thoughts?

 

Meghan 

Runin4rmfate Runin4rmfate
26-30, F
4 Responses Mar 13, 2010

I sure will girl.

Good for you!!! Just remember it is your life, he is a part of it, but just a part. This may also help him come to you a bit. Anyways, Keep me posted!

I completely agree with you and that is great advice. I will continue to live my life yet still make him a part of it in the ways that I can! Thanks girl! He has responded very positively and quickly to all my concerns. I have faith him and I will conquer the odds!

Hey girl. You want my honest advice, here it is... I think that you should just live your life, this doesnt mean that anything has to change. Still be there for him 100%. Tell him you miss him, talk to him, be his support but dont devote your entire existence to him. I think a lot of people miss out on just the simplicity of caring for someone. Its about the feelings, ya know. Its not about definitions or facebook statuses. Its about the way you make each other feel. While he is gone, do things to make him happy, to let him know that you are thinking about him and that you want to be the one he comes home to. In the end, if it is meant to be, it will work out. If it isnt, it wont. We have no control over these things unfortunately... We just have to have faith that the ones we love, love us too and that things will go according to plan. As for dating other people, I wouldnt do it, but if you meet somone and he is amazing, dont pass it up bc you are waiting on a hope and a prayer. Now dont ever cheat or decieve bc thats just wrong... Be honest with him. But you have to live your life. And if he is worth it, then you will live with the uncertainty and go through hell with him. If he isnt, go ahead and move on. I have faith that you will make the right decision here. I hope that I didnt come across to blunt or brash. I just dont want to see anyone get hurt. I am rooting for you!!!! Keep us posted and msg me if you need anything. I am always here :)