No Support From My Best Friend..

Hi, ladies..My name is Lexi and I am 20.. My fiancee is 22 we have been together for two years. In that time he has gone to basic and served one tour of duty in Iraq.. During his time away, whether at basic, deployed, or on base, I attend college. My best friend who has been my rock for everything goes to the same college and is my roommate. A few months ago she got engaged to a guy she has been dating for almost a year and she is thrilled. In July, while on leave, my boyfriend proposed, I said yes of course and we set a date, 5 months away,, (He's deploying again, thus the rush) Sounds like everything would PERFECT, right?! WRONG. My best friend, now says she dislikes my fiancee and doesnt want to be my Maid-of-Honor.. I am lost, confused, and heart broken, to say the least. There has not been a time when my bff has not understood and been able to affirm my feelings.. What should I do? I want her to be there for me but at the same time I refuse to put up with her divalishious behavior, on my wedding day.
Help please,
Lexi
LovinJerrod11 LovinJerrod11
18-21, F
4 Responses Aug 5, 2010

Peace4u,<br />
Thank you for your response. You made several valid points. I spoke with my best friend today and it was quite enlightening. She said that she dislikes the way he speaks to me and treats me, but I dont really think that life with him is bad. I love him, I always have, and probs always will. I know she will swallow her dislike for him and be my maid-of-honor, I just wish it was because she honestly wanted to. I suppose this will be one of those "live and learn experiences".. <br />
However, I know that marrying him is no mistake.. Being a military significant other is knowing your with the one you love, in your heart, even if you cant cuddle every night.. It sucks but I wouldnt have it any other way.<br />
Thank you again for your insight,<br />
Lexi

what is her exact reason for disliking him? maybe she knows something you do not and is trying to save you from a disaster. rushing a wedding may not be the best thing. i eloped and suffered dearly. one mistake effected the rest of my life. talk to your friend over lunch and talk it out. when he leaves again you will really need a friend. also dont you prefer being with someone who has time to be with you? who wants to be in a relationship all alone?

what is her exact reason for disliking him? maybe she knows something you do not and is trying to save you from a disaster. rushing a wedding may not be the best thing. i eloped and suffered dearly. one mistake effected the rest of my life. talk to your friend over lunch and talk it out. when he leaves again you will really need a friend. also dont you prefer being with someone who has time to be with you? who wants to be in a relationship all alone?

what is her exact reason for disliking him? maybe she knows something you do not and is trying to save you from a disaster. rushing a wedding may not be the best thing. i eloped and suffered dearly. one mistake effected the rest of my life. talk to your friend over lunch and talk it out. when he leaves again you will really need a friend. also dont you prefer being with someone who has time to be with you? who wants to be in a relationship all alone?