I've Come to Realize...

I'm not a very good friend. I do my best to help people, but when they don't listen, I get pretty mad and make things worse.
    It's a habit, and something I've always and will probably always do. So I don't know what to do about that.
    No wonder I can't trust anyone, and why people don't like me. I'm always getting mad because they don't take my advice, and don't ever listen to me, even though I really want to help. But I guess I just don't know how to help.
    Maybe my problem with trusting people is because they always hurt me, and I hurt them back. I don't know. Either way, my part is failing. I'm just simply not a good friend, and there's nothing I can do about that, no matter how hard I try. I don't know how not to get angry. I can only stay patient for so long before I burst into flame like a match.
LylaRocks LylaRocks
26-30, F
3 Responses Jun 25, 2007

I put a lot of pressure on those I think are my friends. So much pressure, in fact, that I end up pushing people out of my life. I take friendship very seriously... I think because I have so few. So, loyalty means a great deal to me. While others accept friendship on one level, I look at it as something more.... I know that about myself. I see myself causing unrest in places that should otherwise be calm.

I have yelled at friends for being late, cancelling plans, all kinds of silly things. I am a hard person to like and have had people walk out of my life because of it. It's far easier now for me to make waves and hurt them because I feel the end is inevitable, and it's better I push them away before someone gets hurt.

Hmm, several possibilities here. It could be that the advice is faulty. Or, it could be that the advice is excellent, and the people asking for advice don't really want to hear it. That can happen you know. People claim to seek advice, when all they real want you to do is give them what they want to hear, to be an enabler, in fact.

You're a good friend because you are trying to help your friends the best that you can do.Even though they are not following your pieces of advice I know that they used to listen to you and somehow they are giving consideration to whatever you said to them before they're making a certain decision.Take care :)