How Do I Tell My Parents?

i need to tell my parents i'm trans, i woke up one day and felt like i was in the wrong body and i don't know how to explain it to them. i don't know what to say, how to say it and when. i need advice from all of you here. i don't know if the change will upset them or what. can you guys help me write down all i need to say? i have to convince my parents to start taking me shopping for guy clothes. i rarely ever feel feminine, i don't care if i have kids. i'm not ready for the label but if it means i get to be who i want to be then i will go through with it. i want to read about your experiences and take your advice and put it to use. i need a new name (ftm & my female name is molly) any advice on a choice for that is appreciated. and most importantly of all i need your support through my transition
theblessingofinsanity theblessingofinsanity
18-21, T
3 Responses Jan 7, 2013

I see your post is a few months old, but I will post a reply, anyway.

I have absolutely no doubt about your feelings relative to your gender, but since you have not reached full sexual maturity, you probably will encounter great resistance and dismissal from adult authority.

Is there a TG support group in your town? Do you have a teacher, counselor, clergy or trusted adult friend you could talk to about this? It would be good to get advice from a caring adult who won't be reactionary.

I don't know where you live, but a TG in transition will have a much harder time in a small, rural setting than in a liberal city.

I would think, at your age you could easily dress as a 'tom boy' under most circumstances and not take too much ribbing.

If it's not too late, I think I would try to find a support group, even if it's online. I believe the way these matters get introduced to family and friends can have a profound impact on how comfortable everyone involved is with the changes that will happen. I would think there would be a host of experiences from which you cold learn.

Best of luck, Friend (Martin?). PM me if you want.

If anybody knows your parents,you do.You know if their close minded or open minded.You can bring up the subject in a third person manner and gauge their feeling about it.Best of luck in whatever direction you decide to go with.

Your parents reaction could gagued by their religious background / mannerisms. But 9 times out of 10 they will freak out and do something irrational, some more irrational than others (I.e: mine took me to a psychologist for a mental assessment). But above all that, I think you should tell them anyway, it will give you clearance, it'll open up a new chapter In your life, one that leads to a happier you. Your parents may not seem like they care too much about you because they're confused,but give them time and do all you can to make sure they understand. But no matter what, don't let anyone get in the way of you being you. Fight against all odds. Ive been in your same situation, and I'm currently happier than I've been in a long time, but it took some support to get where I am just 1 year later from telling my parents. You'll need support, I'm here for you, dude. As for the name idea? Hm. I like the name Harley ^^