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I Made A Decision To Live With A Problem Drinker

Dont Do It.

By: G8rgal
Written on July 14th, 2011
I chose to live with and marry an alcoholic and was stuck in an abusive marriage for 15 years. I finally was beaten so badly that I had no choice. I have lived with PTSD, anxiety, trust issues and self esteem issues, but now, ten years later I am healthy, and Beautiful if I do say so myself, for 43 years old, and sober. My life blossomed after I took the beating of a lifetime, that came close to ending my life. I believe I should have left earlier, for sure...but if that is what it took, it was worth it looking back. He is still very sick and is physically and mentally paying the price for his acholism. It is a dangerous situation when you look at a drunk, and it is not him looking back at you through his eyes. Almost like a demon stepped into his body while he was drunk.
By: G8rgal
Age: 41-45
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    G8rgal
    G8rgal

    How true. I am amazed at how insightful and brave younger women are today. Hopefully young women like you and my daughter will stand on the shoulders of the generation of women before you and raise the bar even higher, standing up for yourselves, and settling for NOTHING less than the best for you. I have to say that I did do better than the women in my family before me, it just took me a little while, and a brutal *** whipping by a 230lb man..but that did it!! It was actually a blessing that that happened to me. I got the heck out....:) You be blessed!

    Jul 16, 2011
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    toebird

    Makes you wonder about what's real and what is not. Alcohol, sickness, many other things take a toll on our minds. Behind the mind, there is a soul. That soul is true to itslef and untouchable, no matter what 'reality' covers it up. I admire your ability to look beyond your first husbands 'problem' and still see the real and true self within him. It is encouraging. Quick judgment is a flaw within humanity...we don't want to look twice! Yet, we ought...!

    Jul 16, 2011
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    DavesDaughter
    DavesDaughter

    My step dad is the same way, he'd get so drunk at night that he would wake up still drunk. It was like he was never sober. He used to abuse me, he did for about 10 years of my life, but my mother finally had to leave him because child services got involved. I never understood why she didn't just leave him, until about a year ago, when she got a new job and wasn't so dependent on him.



    I'm glad to hear you got out of it, it's a hell of a horrid life to live.

    Jul 14, 2011
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      Im happy to hear that your Mom was able to get you out. She was probabally afraid she couldn't support a family by herself, and co dependency is an endless cycle. I still have conversations with my 20 yearold daughter about how her life has been affected by the turmiol in our life. I am trying to help her heal the best I can. I feel sometimes that I were stronger or smarter, or had better judgement , then I wouldn't have married him. But then again I was 19 and If I wouldn't have married him I wouldn't have my kids. Good luck and Best wishes to you .

      Jul 15, 2011
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