Badly Needing AdviceHello, this is my first time actually joining a group like this but this have come to the point I have no where else to turn. I am currently 7months pregnant & recently separated from my husband of 8months. After 6months of back & forth, I moved to the States (I am Canadian) to be with him. At first everything seemed to be everything I had hoped from married life, he was sweet & so loving & did everything he could think of to make me happy. Then after only 2 weeks he suddenly would become moody & sarcastic during the day, but by night we would make love & fall asleep. On the day my uncle passed away after his battle with cancer, I was extremely emotional & instead of being there for me he withdrew & started saying if I was so miserable I should just leave & move back to Canada. I was shocked he would even think that instead of recognizing that I was in pain from losing someone close to me. Well this led to more accusations & it seemed the more I denied wanting to leave the angrier he got. He flew into a rage & threw me into a wall. I ran out of the house where he chased after me and again grabbed me. A neighbour called the police & when they arrived he lied flat out & said I had assaulted him & he wanted me arrested & thrown in jail. I decided I needed to leave. I came back to Canada & for the last few weeks he has text messaged me numberous times during the day alternating between saying he loves & misses me to calling me a ***** and a ***** and I did this to us because I want to be with someone else. I love this man more than anything and Im falling into such a depression because it seems no matter how nice I be to him and how much I reassure him I only want to be with him, he starts degrading me & insulting me & blaming me for this entire situation. I finally messaged him yesturday saying that although I love him, I need to let him go for my own sanity and the health of this baby. Now today its been all love from him, that he knows hes been cruel the last few weeks and that he doesnt know why he copes that way and that hes willing to find help. I feel bad for what I know hes struggling with because I know he truly does love me and I want our marriage to work, Im just terrified of what I am getting myself & my child into if I go back. Im worried this recent behaviour will become recurrent & will only get worse as our marriage progresses. Is there any hope for our marriage to be happy & what can I do to help him or help our relationship. Im not sure if the way I react is a trigger or if there is something Im not responding to properly. Thank you for taking the time to even read this. I cant believe how much just started flowing as I wrote.
mylove4ever 26-30, F 8 Responses 0 May 21, 2010