Free At Last

My ex- husband has BPD and we are now officially divorced. Living with him was so difficult and for much of our 20 plus years together I blamed myself almost as much as he blamed me. A great therapist helped me see the light. He cheated on me repeatedly and yet insisted one day I agree he was a wonderful husband. He screamed at me in public, berated and abused me. Of course, he was never responsible. My shrink says I have very low expectations for relationships and do not trust. Yup! It will take time and work to get him out of my soul and brain. I am glad I get a do-over and wish I'd left sooner. I hate that I exposed my son to this toxic creature.
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2 Responses May 3, 2012

Congratulations on moving on. Stay strong. You've done something amazing to take care of stick with that and keep reminding yourself that it's your life, and you owe it to yourself to treat yourself with kindness and compassion.

Congratulations on your new life. Take time to take care of yourself; learning to trust ourselves after being in an abusive marriage is the best thing that we can do for ourselves. I understand life with a bpd. I lovemy bpd but loving him is beginning to become too painful for me. I wish you the VERY best; enjoy!!!