All Too Clear Now... Stuck With Bpd Man!
Been with him for 7 years and married. Always felt something wasn't right with him from the beginning but he was good at hiding the bad stuff. I had no idea this disorder existed until now. For the last few years I've been calling him bi polar but is clearly bpd. Calls me 10 times a day from work. Either he hates you or becomes obsessed with you. He will make every weak female he meets adore him and be a Casanova except that he is married! He hoards items and photos from his exes. There have been about 20 new women since meeting him. He will send love letters and put them on a pedestal until he is bored and the novelty wears off but wont physically cheat then crawls backs to me. He will go into rages and calls me every horrible name that exists then acts like nothing happened and not admit to saying anything. He has pushed My friends away. He will embarrass me in front of them so I never want him around them as I don't know what he will say next. My friends and family have all seen him be a jerk while his friends and family think he is mr perfect as he conceals his true self around them. He sucks them all in and acts like mr big. It makes me want to gag. He has made an art out of sucking people into thinking he is this all important person. He gets everyone else to do his dirty work for him and when I question him about it he says "well I have an image to uphold"". He gets away with not helping around the house or fixing anything by taking his family and friends to restaurants. We have not had one of his friends or co workers visit us ever. Every day I am accused of cheating on him or thinking about other men. I don't even have a male friend to talk or think about at all!! Every opportunity he has he will use to accuse me or blame me or belittle me. If I say we should go talk to someone Then "i" have the problem not him and he refuses help. I'm told daily that i mmnever give him enough attention or that I'm going to leave him and that he's so attached to me and doesn't know what he would do without me although he treats me like garbage and is verbally vicious. Total Jekyll and Hyde. Is always a catch 22. I tell him to leave That I don't want to be with him anymore and he will change the subject. This guy is sick. I am becoming sick from the stress and he just falls asleep like nothing. He will find any little stupid thing to go off about. I don't think he realizes there's anything wrong with him. I really don't. I have been observing him for days. He has nearly every trait of someone with this disease. I even told him to look it up when he's bored instead of giving me a hard time. What do you do with someone like this? I Always felt that his good side was exciting an awesome. If he treated me like those who he tries to impress it would be great but I feel it's all an act and if anyone was a fly on my wall they would see a completely different person. Nobody would believe it. Before I discovered this disorder I refer to him as a broken object that cannot be fixed. I now see there is no cure for this so I am correct. Never saw anything like this.