Spanking In A Christian MarriageI dont know how many women out there will admit it but, I believe a loving submsissive Christain woman has probably at least been spanked once. My husband and I have been married for 19 years. It is understood in our marriage that the woman is submissive to her husband. He is responsible for all and takes responsibility also for my spiritual growth and development which means always being humble and pleasing God.
Some of the stories I read on line the men are spanking out of anger and inappropriate. The spanking should be only administered without anger. It should never leave bruises or welts or cause any kind of damage that 15 minutes of cooling down doesnt provide. Spanking in our home is done in his office and not in the bedroom. It is not sexual at all. It does turn me on in that I appreciate I have a real man and I feel loved, protective and secure.
Things spanked for are cussing, being mouthy, yelling, lying. I am allowed to explain if I say let me explain, it means I think he took something out of perspective. He loves me as his self and he only wants what is best for me which is serving and pleasing God and making it to eternal life.
Spankings are generally over the knee in his office with my panties down. At first he used his hand but, then he felt I was going out of my way to be disobedient (I was) because I liked the attention or craved it ( I did). So then a ping pong paddle was used and I didnt crave or like that at all. We talk about it and I accept responsiblity for my action. Then I am to bend over his knee with panties down and I get usually 10 to 20 swats. I pull my pants up or he does. We talk again, hug, and get on with our day.
Vacation or being away from home is harder. Spankings are rare though as I try to behave in the manner of which a Christian woman should.
There are family bathrooms everywhere now days though. Gas station outside have locks and I was spanked once after throwing a temper tantrum where he could pull over the car near a forrest area off the road several yards where I bent over the hood butt bared. He placed his hand on the small of my back double his belt and gave me a firm stingy spanking. After I pulled up my panties and cussed him. Which he then took me over to a fallen tree where he counseled me and told me how he knew I was stressed but this was unacceptable we talked for several minutes until I felt better then I bent over his knee and got the spanking I deserved. I got probably 40 swats with his hand and was although my butt hurt and was really hot it was not abusive in any way. I later apologized for my behavior.
The last spanking I got was about a week ago when I lied to him about impulsive shopping. We are saving for a new car and we both agreed we would not buy anything new without the others advice first and I wasted 249 dollars on a new purse (which I took back later). I hid the purse but when I used it the first time he asked when I bought it and I said oh, months ago.... I felt so guilty. He had believed me but, it showed up on our statement later in the month. This is a big one. Lying. He wasnt angry about money he was mad I lied we talked and he told me he was mad I lied to him over something like that. I didnt get spanked while he was angry and I knew he would wait until he was calm and this wasnt about his anger. He told me to wait until he calmed. This is rare but, the basic rule on this is to go wait in his office with my panties down bent of the arm of the sofa with my belly resting on the arm and not to get up until he comes up. It was probably 2 hours like this before he came up. He told me to talk first so I pulled up my panties and we sat and talked and I was sure he wasnt mad at all... he was hurt I lied to him as I could have told him the truth and I would not have gotten spanked for telling the truth. The consequence would have been to take the purse back. But because I lied I knew a spanking would be the punishment. I did not get the comfort of being bent over his knee which I much prefer but had to bend over the sofa arm and he used the belt. He gives me about a swat with a second inbetween and it is hard enough to hurt and sting but I am not screaming in pain or anything. It is a lesson and I wont lie again about a purchase.
We are very happy. I like the spanking and cant imagine a marriage without it. He loves me and I have a very masculine man that puts God first and foremost then I come next. It makes me feel secure and loved. Not abused.
hisobediantwife 46-50, F 12 Responses 13 May 29, 2011