My Wife Is My Disciplianrian

I have been married for 5 months and my wife started beating me as a joke with a wooden spoon just before Christmas.

But she has really got into it and we have now purchased 2 leather straps and 2 canes - one rattan and the other a short 8mm delrin cane. I get dealt with every 2 weeks and the number of strokes is based on the rolling of 8 dice.... Still yet to receive a good thrashing but sure it will happen sooner rather than later!!

Due to me being argumentative however, she has now told me that I have 17 with the Delrin cane waiting for me in addition to the 8 roles of the dice... Gulp!

Does or did your wife spank the children as well, or is that your job?

Your wife knows that men are just little boys grown older. Most men I know should be disciplined by their wives. In addition to spankings, they should be made to wear a pretty apron and do the housework for her.

People who have never tried it don't get it. It is not sex it is a whole different thing.My wife agreed to to it to me last year and now it is a weekly thing.the anticipation and pleasure are impossible to describe. Try it!

I just asked my wife last night to be my mistress, she was very into it and has whipped my *** red 3 times since. she has forbiddin me from ************ and said if I do it to record with my camera phone so she can watch it then give me my due punishment. I just went upstairs to take a shower and recorded me ************ to ******. wish me luck as i go and show it to her, she made it very clear that this will be quite an *** whipping if i did this.

hallo all,-

i am a man with 29 years,-my mother in law spanked me always very hard with a leather-paddle or a cane!although my (older) sisters in law spanked me very often,-they liked to use the carpet-beater which they named bottom-beater!in my first marriage i made many mistakes but the only goog thing was that my wife startet to punish me even very hard,-with a whip for my contacts to other wifes! but now i am in a second marriage and,-

my mother of law educated my new wife in punishing my naked bottom!

my dear,-what a good teacher she is,-my wifw now is very strictly a nearly every day i get a intensive punihment on my bare-bottom! she likes this very,-very,-indeed!she is pashioned now for hot-red male-bottoms,-my bottom! she uses whips as well as canes or leather-belts,-and in presence of other women like her girl-friends,-which are helping her,-or in presence of neighbours or my mother in law,-which also is continuing in caning me !

but my relation to my wife now is qite perfekt,-i am following quite very good her orders,-

and sexually...she uses my **** very frequently,-says that i am her stallion,....-i am very and very good satisfied....every day....but even well caned or whipped! best solution!!!!!

Greetings Everyone, glad I have found this group. My wife started spanking me a few months ago. When I first asked her to spank, she said "Oh, no I could never do anything like that at all."



So I wrote her a letter telling her of my need for discipline and better control of my attitude and moods, my desire to be submissive to her and told her that I thought she would enjoy the feelings of power and control when she spanked me.



It certainly worked and sometimes I do wonder if now I have created a monster. No, we both enjoy it immensely and she has seen the resultant improvement in my behavior most definately.



I never go more than two days without a spanking. She uses a paddle and a strap, sometimes a wooden spoon. She bends me over throughout the house; over the dining room table, over the chaise couch in the living room, over the bed, has me grab the bottom step of the stepstool, eeven in the laundry room.



We are a very happy couple indeed!

I was in a Femdom relationship with a massage therapist who believed in being paid to whip me because giving her money for a whipping was double payment for my bad behavior. She would make me come to her for what she called a check up of my sinful nature then sentence me with a fine and a whipping. She used paddles and her feared dressage whip which made welts that lasted 2 weeks. Taking a whipping was most fearful. I respected her always and was her naked slave around the house where she always had a paddle or whip handy to give me a snap on the bare bottom to motivate me. She loved my cooking in the nude and made me watch her eat before she allowed me to eat.

My new wife was introduced to the idea of adult spanking by my first wife's mother, I have posted here about the punishments I have endured from my ex mother in law. After hearing of some pretty serious misdeeds of mine from my ex mother in law my new wife witnessed her spanking me. Much to our mutual surprise she found the whole thing intriguing. She has since stated giving me weekly tasks and at each weekend I am graded if she is not satisfied I am punished. While this is consensual the spankings hurt like hell! The spankings from my ex mil were anything but stimulating but with my new wife they are after the fact adding to our intimacy.

I'd love to hear more about your spankings and especially how you got your wife to do it in the first place. I'm envious.

While I can certainly understand your positions slave0033 and nixxon, for me it is all about real discipline to curb real misbehavior, and not at all about submission. I'm definitely the alpha-male type and my marriage is a true partnership, but sometimes I screw up and need to be corrected.

And now Gigglets, the 61 to 65 year old crossdressing male who likes pictures of boys in dresses, supports anti-glbt laws, and claims to be a retired youth services professional has blocked me and apparently deleted the entire thread in that other group. Please take a moment to check his profile for yourself.

Now in addition to having been called lazy, having my credentials ridiculed, my words twisted and taken out of context, been accused of being a *********, etc., I've been misquoted and physically threatened by these supposedly non-violent anti-spankers from that other group.

Well, this conversation certainly heated up. :-) I find myself pretty much in agreement with Jamie - adult corporal punishment and parental spanking as discipline are two very separate issues. My earlier quote that is common (in various phrases) in the adult spanking community that "spanking is for grownups" really was not intended to condemn sane, moderate parental spanking (and no child should receive a true disciplinary wife style spanking) - but to say the two should always be kept separate. I will not offer an opinion as to the morality of a sane, moderate parental spanking - say putting a 5 year old over your knee and giving him a few swats to reinforce not playing in the street. Some would find this objectionable - others would be in complete agreement.



I was spanked as a child - that's the era I am from. I have no resentments about that - and some of my spankings were memorable - but not (imo) abusive. However, I will say that I do believe that one particular spanking that my aunt gave me at age 11 (otk with a hairbrush, and my underwear pulled up into my crack) triggered my love of maternal style discipline - but then I have no regrets about that either. But it probably does show the long term effects that spanking can have and why caution is necessary. We chose not to spank our children (grown now) for a number of reasons but I do not condemn those who do choose to do so as long it is sane and moderate. My wife's sister - who has witnessed my wife spank me - spanked her two boys regularly as they were growing up. She found that it was necessary to keep her two wild boys in line - which is why she completely understands the disciplinary wife concept. She was not abusive to her boys and they both grew up to be responsible young adults with no apparent ill effects.



Anyway - just a few more thoughts on this issue. :-)



Al

I was not bragging about my degrees, I was stating the facts of my training and experience. Adult sexuality, including fetishes, should not be confused with the discussion of parenting techniques. I happen to have a fair degree of expertise in both, as well as being a parent who has a number of fetishes which are confined to consenting adults.

Certainly explains your passion to spank children? Hum! Interesting.

Jamie,



Thanks for your comments on my speculations. :-)



As we both noted, in the real world, it's very much an individual preference,

with both F/M and M/F relationships and female tops and bottoms, and male

tops and bottoms. My speculation as to which might be inherently better in

a magical situation was just for fun - although I do stand by my reasoning.



My wife and I both do believe that if more women understood the benefits of the

Disciplinary Wife lifestyle and could get past their cultural conditioning, it would be

much more common! In fact, my wife - who was as vanilla as they come until giving

this a shot - is completely convinced that this is the best way to run a marriage, and

was very surprised to realize (as she researched spousal discipline on the Net) that

M/F is far more common than F/M.



My wife and I, both before and after the start of our Disciplinary Wife relationship,

utilized a partnership approach - with each of us doing what we do best, and both

contributing to the chores and such - probably a bit like your marriage. The only

real change in the structure of our arrangement was that I conceded disciplinary

authority to her - granting her the right to utilize corporal discipline at her sole discretion.

However, our use of corporal punishment is not necessarily just for a punishment for

a wrong doing - although that is a very major component. But is also for "general

discipline" - including a weekly maintenance paddling to "keep me in line - remind me

of my place - keep me humble, etc". And occasionally, like the author of the "Husband's Essay" in the "Real People" section of the DWC website, I have to accept that part of the DW package is

that my wife gets to take out her frustrations on my backside now and then. And part of our

deal is that if I feel I need a spanking, she will honor that need - although after I ask, I lose

all say in how the spanking is conducted. But all relationships have their own individual nuances.



We do not subscribe to mistress-slave model. Outside of the disciplinary arrangement, we are still very much a typical modern American partnership marriage - although there have been sexual ramifications as well (some of which I have posted about earlier on this board) - and most importantly we are much happier and fight a whole lot less - since most fights would end quickly with me getting my bare bottom warmed.



Al

I think it does entirely depend on the individuals involved, whether M/f, F/m or mutual accountability will be more effective. I have seen all three work very well for those couples that practice them. The key to a successful domestic discipline relationship is not (except in a small percentage of individuals) a matter of one or the other being in charge and able to punish the other. The key is that punishment only be administered for wrongdoing, not for displeasing the partner. In my personal case, my wife and I consider each other to be totally equal and confer on most decisions. But corporal punishment is very effective for me, so when I do something wrong (not just something she doesn't like), she has the freedom to spank me as she sees fit.

After adding my thoughts in the last post about the general agreement here that male bottoms were made for our wives to spank, I went out to run a few errands and starting thinking along philosophical lines as I was driving about.



In truth, both male and female bottoms are perfect for spanking. Bottoms are well padded to prevent any permanent damage so they can be spanked frequently without concern (and, as we all know, the female bottom is generally better padded than the male's rear). There are no critical internal organs in the bottom that might be damaged during a severe paddling - not to say that the internal plumbing is not important but it won't be damaged by a sound butt blistering. And, the bottom is a "private" spot - thus adding the element of shame and humiliation to the spanking and making the punishment even more effective. And because it is a private area, the results of the spanking will be covered from the general public that generally would not understand the value of a true disciplinary spanking - yet another reason that the bottom is so perfect for disciplinary purposes.



So why is it that it should be the male behind being spanked - and not the female of our species?

In the real world, of all those that do actually practice spousal corporal discipline, it seems that a sizable majority actually lean toward M/F (male spanking female - or the "Taken in Hand" movement) rather than F/M (female spanking male - or the "Disciplinary Wife" or "Loving Female Authority" concept). My guess is that this is the result of a culture that has put males in charge since the dawn of the species - with the root of that being the male's superior physical strength.



And, in truth, it comes down to the individuals involved. Many males prefer to be tops (even though the desire to be disciplined by a woman is a VERY common male fantasy), and many females enjoy being bottoms (and I can relate to them enjoying a good spanking). But - as to which concept would truly create happier marriages - I truly believe that F/M just makes a lot more sense. It levels the playing field. Since men are usually physically stronger with testosterone driven aggressive behaviors, granting the wife the authority to keep those behaviors in checks with a good old fashioned bare bottom spanking just makes sense. And it just seems that the concept of maternal discipline - and the underlying values that represents - makes a lot more sense than allowing the husband with his testosterone driven aggressiveness to be the one doing the spanking.



So, if a Great Genie were to decide that the institution of marriage would be much more successful if spousal discipline were the publicly accepted norm, and that he would magically install this concept into our society - which concept should the Genie choose? Again, it honestly seems to me that the Wife - with her maternal nature to protect the family - would do a much better job than the male of the species in doling out the discipline.



Al

Nixxon and Jamie,



I have to agree with both of you - male bottoms were made to be spanked (paddled, strapped) - as well as to receive an enema nozzle, plug, or strap-on when the wife deems it necessary.



Jamie - my wife and I would both agree with you that the male backside is for discipline and the male front side is for pleasure.



Nixxon - as to rapists, I would be ok with having their balls removed - after the woman has first smashed them to stop the rape.



Al

My opinion is that ***** are made for spanking, and ***** and balls have other more important uses. Hope your wife and her sister keep going now that they have started.

Thanks Nixxon, I certainly am proud of her. She recognizes that I need spankings to help me be my best, and she is willing to do it even though she doesn't like to.

Al99 - My parents had heard my wife spank me before she did it in front of them, plus my wife and my mom had heard a good belt whipping my dad gave me when I was 32 years old and we had been married for 6 years. For me the embarrassment of needing a spanking in the first place outweighs the embarrassment of someone witnessing it.

Jamie - having your wife spank you in front of your parents had to be pretty high up he embarrassment scale! And although I have now been spanked in front of my wife's sister, when I think of others that might conceivably witness her spanking me, I believe it would be even more humiliating with anyone else. At least Susan is open minded and intrigued by our disciplinary arrangement - and had already known most of the details for the last couple of years - and a solid belief that my wife took a hairbrush to my backside on occasion for some years before that. Now that the ice is broken - close to ten years since we began this lifestyle - I don't think she will hesitate to paddle me in front of Susan if it happens to work out that way. And, although it would be very humiliating for anyone else I can think of, I believe it possible that she would find it easier to paddle me in front of others as well. I've noticed that as we go along with this lifestyle, she has become more relaxed with threatening to spank me in front of friends and family. Most seem to dismiss it as a bit of humor, but every now and then I see a look of what seems to be knowing - or at least suspicion.

Good for your wife. My wife has spanked me in front of people, including my own parents, on several occasions. The extra embarrassment makes the punishment even more effective, and helps me behave better for longer afterwards.

A continuation of my previous post - with new developments.



Saturday afternoon, I went out shopping with my my wife and her sister, Susan. At one of the stores, I felt I was treated rudely, so I went off on the salesperson. And although the salesperson might have been inappropriate - especially since I was the customer - there is not doubt that I went overboard in my response, even using a couple of swear words. Similar situations have happened before as I sometimes have a bit of a short temper - especially with sales people who I do not feel are giving me the deference I deserve as a customer. This always embarrasses my wife when she is with me, and now that we live the Disciplinary Wife lifestyle, she always gives me a good paddling for my misbehavior as soon as we got home from the store. Well, I knew that I had earned myself a trip over her knee for my outburst, but since her sister was coming home with us to grill out and spend the evening, I really thought it would be delayed but wasn't quite sure since she had switched me quietly with her sister at the house on several occasions and had for the first time, a couple of months ago, paddled me with her sister at the house (with her sister easily able to hear the paddling even with the bedroom door closed). I didn't have to wait long to find out the answer. As soon as we left the store, my wife told me - right in front of Susan - that my outburst was going to cost me a good *** blistering as soon as we got home.



And she was good to her word. As soon as we got home and right in front of Susan, she instructed me to go to the bedroom and drop my drawers. I did so. A minute later my wife came into the bedroom, picked up the Vermont brush from the nightstand, and assumed her spanker's position on the bed - and tapped her lap with paddle - my cue to immediately put my my bare behind over her lap. She had not closed the bedroom door when she took her position, so I moved to do so before assuming my position. But my wife told me, "Don't bother, Susan already knows that you're in for a good long butt blistering." I started to protest but knew that it was pointless, and assumed the position. The paddling began and, as usual, within thirty or so whacks I was sobbing into the pillow (trying to keep Susan from hearing me). The relentless swats continued and just a couple of minutes later, I heard Susan's voice at the door, "Uhhh.. sorry to interrupt but I was going to start us a pitcher of margaritas.......but are we out of margarita mix.....?" Susan was standing there seeing my bare red behind across my wife's lap! - and she had undoubtedly seen her give me at least a couple of swats before my wife did stop paddling for a moment. My wife told her that she had a back up bottle in the garage fridge but just to have a seat and relax (in the recliner in the bedroom) - that she wouldn't be too much longer - and they could both get busy with dinner. Then she resumed paddling me - with Susan sitting there watching! I was extremely humiliated and embarrassed but didn't seem to have any choice in the matter. I tried not to sob but the sting and the burn were just too much and soon I was sobbing into the pillow again, knowing that Susan was seeing me get my bare behind reddened, and being made to cry like a misbehaving school boy. When she was finally finished with me, about 50 whacks later, my wife suggested that Susan start those margaritas while I got dressed. She did so, and my wife consoled me afterwards as always - reminding me it was for my own good so I could be a better man and husband. And that she was sorry if I was embarrassed about Susan having watched but that I should remember that I had embarrassed her and Susan both at the store, and it was only fair that Susan should get to witness the punishment I received for embarrassing them both. Or, perhaps, she should have let Susan paddle me as well......... I replied that while I was embarrassed that I trusted her judgment about my disciplinary needs and just left it at that!



The margaritas and steaks were great and the three of had a great time watching a comedy afterwards. Nothing like a good bare bottom hair brushing to clear the air!



Al

I had posted the following comment to a thread in another group in response to a story about the wife letting her husband know when the punishment spanking was over - and decided to repost it hear with the rest of my my disciplinary wife posts - especially in light of the events of this past weekend. (which I will post shortly).

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This story (about the wife letting her husband know when the punishment spanking was over) reminds me of a similar situation in our home a few years back. It was during the first year of our disciplinary arrangement (begun after many years of "vanilla" marriage). My wife was giving me a weekly maintenance spanking one Saturday morning when her Mom called about 50 or so swats into the paddling. The bedroom phone was a simple land-line phone so she did not know who was calling and after it had rung 3 times, I thought she was going to let the answering machine in the other room pick it up. But then, just before the fourth ring would have kicked in the answering machine, she decided to answer it. I immediately buried my face in the pillow so that the person on the phone would not hear me sobbing. After my wife answered, I heard her say "Ok, Mom, I'm right in the middle of a discussion with Al at the moment, but I'll be over in a bit".

For a split second, I could have sworn that was going to say that she "was right in the middle of spanking Al". I swear my gut almost flip flopped thinking that was what she was going to say that!

In retrospect, it seems a bit silly, but in the "heat" of the moment, it sure was a scary moment.

The spanking immediately resumed and I got another 50 or so swats with the heavier bath brush before my wife was finished with me.



Her Mom still does not know - even though there have sure been plenty of hints during these last ten years of our Disciplinary Wife lifestyle - probably just too foreign to her experience.



However, my wife's sister did eventually put all the hints, clues, and overheard remarks together and now is fully aware of our lifestyle. The sister has not seen my wife spank me, but my wife did recently paddle me while her sister was in our house for the first time. Her sister easily heard the entire paddling, so I think it is now just a matter of time before her sister actually sees me being spanked.



(My wife had switched me before with her sister in house, however, her "silent" method of disciplining me when she doesn't want others in the house to hear - usually our grown kids. But she really prefers to paddle me - as she loves the sound of the wood on my bare behind.)

I've been married for 26 years and have been able to talk my Wife into spanking me from time to time. Sadly She doesn't spank me often enough or hard enough to please me. She's afraid she'll hurt me. Thankfully She does like to spank my balls and while I would like the swats to be harder She does spank long enough so they're sore after wards.



I really wish She would spank me hard and long so sitting is not something I want to do for a few days.

I'd definitely like to hear about it.

I am waiting for my next spanking which is in about an hour from now. I have been instructed to have her tea ready, stool in place and her spanking toys. I have been told to waer only a tee shirt and boxer shorts. she has also requested that I have my balls tied tight. I think I have been a little sharp lately and I am going to pay the price. ifd anyone is interested I will let you know how it goes.