I Was Stupid
In May of this year, I met a guy through a family "friend", and he seemed too good to be true. Because it wasn't true! He was not good at all, but I was too stupid to realize that at first.
I chatted with him on the phone and we laughed a lot. He seemed to "get" me and I him. And then the next day we met at my house. He gave me a hug and said that he had already fallen in love with me, though he was afraid of feeling that way so fast. I suggested it was our zodiac signs and their compatibility that he was feeling. He thought that was cool. And then he had to go and said he would be back by the evening.
He did come back, with a rose for me. And I thought, "Wow! This guy is amazing!" He was telling me about his upcoming birthday, so I was already making plans to buy him a great expensive gift. And then he pulled out a couple of beers and asked me to have a drink with him. Though, he never did drink anything. Just watched me down a beer. And I was drunk. It only takes one, which I told him on the phone. So, I started to tell him all of my secrets, because that's what I do when I'm drunk. He was making mental notes of everything I said.
I told him about my tragic past and he had tears in his eyes, saying how horrible it must have been for me. And started to say, "I'm not a wuss. I'm trying not to cry. But I just hate it when guys take advantage of women! You have no idea how much that hurts me!" And I gave him a hug and he kissed me. And I thought, "Wow! Romantic and sensitive! I've found my dream guy!"
But then he asked for money and cigs. I gave him both. And then he said he would meet me tomorrow. He never showed. And that's when I found out from others the truth... He had recently got out of jail for beating up his girlfriend. And yes, he was still living with that girlfriend!
I called him and was so angry! And he cried on the phone, saying that her never touched her and she lied to the police. And that he and the girlfriend wasn't together, just lived in the same house. That he couldn't leave yet, because he couldn't afford it. But they were no longer together. And he wanted me to come over to his place... something told me not to. I don't know why, but I got a bad feeling about it. So, I said no... inviting him over to my place. He flipped out, cursing me and using everything I told him against me. And that's when I slammed down the phone on him.
And then he actually called back, asking, "Why did you do that? What's wrong?" Psycho! I told him that it was over and don't call ever again. And he cried on the phone, "It's that's bad between us? Really? Can't we work this out?" I hung up again. And then a few days later, I found out that he and his girlfriend were still together and never had parted... and this was their scam. He would get an naive girl, like me, to fall for him... then invite her over... and then him and the girlfriend would beat and rob this girl. And this was it... I had avoided serious harm. :-/
So, I have a hard time trusting others now.