It's the Waiting That's the Hardest

Alright, I'm going to say right up that I'm sure a lot of you aren't going to approve but I'm also going to say right up front that I don't care.

Okay, if you've read my experience in the 'I am in love' group, then you'll have a decent idea of my relationship so far, but I'll give you a bit of background for it anyway.

My name is Dave, I'm 19 and my girlfriend Sam is 17 and still in Year 12 at school. We've only been together for 3 months, but we are very much in love.

Now a couple of weeks ago Sam didn't have the money to get her pill and for any of you who don't know if you stop taking the pill and then start taking it again it takes a week or so to start being effective again. Now (and believe we know it was stupid so you don't have to tell me) we continued to have sex with me pulling out just before (which yes I know is stupid as well).

Now it's still at least a week or so before she gets her next period so until then we have no idea whether she could be pregnant or not. Hopefully she won't be and more than likely won't, but you never know, there could be a chance. But it probably won't happen and we're worrying about nothing.

And yes I'll say again we know it was stupid and we won't do that again.

We've talked about it a fair bit and decided that we'd probably go through with it if it does happen. One reason is we know that if we did have a baby that we are in a position to give it the support and life that it would need and secondly that it would have been conceived through love and that both of us would be there for the whole thing. Also, though I still haven't completely made my mind up about abortion, I still lean towards against and so does she, also when it came down to actually doing it I don't think either of us would be able to go through with it anyway.

But if it did happen I do think that we both would still be happy especially since we very much in love and committed to each other. Although it wouldn't be the best time, especially with her just about to finish school and start uni, we would still be able to make it work.

My main concern is her parents, mainly her father and also her brother, one of my best friends, Kieran. I couldn't particularly care what any of them think of me, but I don't want it to stress our relationship with her family being angry.

But those are all if's and we probably won't have to worry about it anyway, because it more than likely won't happen. But whatever does we will make it work.

** UPDATE **

Just for those who have been following my story, my darling girlfriend is not pregnant so I shall continue living to post on here (as her father has no current reason to shuffle me off the mortal coil). Thank you for those who read my experience and sent their understanding and gave it such a decent rating, I love you all. We are still going strong and all looks well for us.

Cheers, Dave....
Deyve Deyve
18-21, M
8 Responses Jul 10, 2006

I know you don't care what we think however the cheap and easy way is condoms. The second is male birth control. Please don't bring a child in this world unless you are willing to give your life to it. There are enough of us out there who had parents that thought children were a great idea till they had them. Good luck in love.

Having a child is a lifelong committment, which I dont think you can make after only three months with a person. I have no doubt you are in love, but people change alot from their teenage years onwards, and being pregnant and having a baby can put a huge strain on even the most solid relationship. I hope you and your partner have time to enjoy yourselves as a couple, before taking the huge step of becoming a family.

I'm glad your not pregnant. Parenting is a very difficult job! You have no idea. It's the toughest one. I was very young when I had my first and only child and it has been the most challenging part of my life. The hardest thing I've ever had to do. If I had to do it all over again, I would definitely wait until I got older and established before I had a baby. <br />
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The other thing I wanted to mention is the day after pill. If she misses her pill or can't afford it she could go to a clinic and normally they have samples she can get until she can afford it. If not then there is such a thing as the morning after pill in case of emergency.<br />
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Good luck in love. Sounds wonderful.<br />
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All the best

Agreed. he probably was.

Huff, Looks like I'm talking to an imaginary commenter. I'm not, I promise Alaskahead was real when I said that.

Hey, Come on Alaskahead, there will always be people who allow their passions to get the better of them, if we all adhered to the social-rules like 'no sex till marriage' then I would not be born. He is only sharing his story, not asking for moral judgement. He does not have to answer your question, because your question was actually a judging accusation.<br />
"then why did you risk so much for a moment of (intense, wonderful) pleasure?" you also answer your own question, that intense wonderful pleasure was their young love...crazy and wild, that’s all they needed to feel like it was 'right'. They didn’t sit down and say ‘now that we’re making out and things are moving quickly, perhaps we should discuss the future before we remove our garments’…you might expect young people to do that, but they will not.<br />
Anyway, thanks for sharing you story, haven’t read your other stories Dayve but I’ll go have a look. Big ups for being brave enough to share this story.

CONGRATS!!!On not being pregnant...i guess

aww i have been following your stories! and i think its good that sam wasn't pregnant but with what i read about your background i think you would make excellent parents! x Jess x