That's A Big Maybe

You see, if I were to show my future husband my EP account, I would prefer to do it BEFORE we walk down the aisle. I want him to know exactly who he's marrying and if he's okay with it that way, if he's not, we can break up and I won't have to go through the pain of having wasted my affections on this guy for years into our marriage just so he can drop me the minute he sees what I have here. That's a no-no.

But at the same time, I have to ask myself, "Does he HAVE to know all my secrets before he marries me? Do I HAVE to freak him out the minute he puts the ring on my finger? Can't I just keep it to myself and if he finds out, oh well and if he doesn't, well good for me? Why should he even know about it anyway? I won't be the only wife with skeletons in her closet so why should he have to know about it?"

So yeah, I'm unsure as to whether if I would do that or not. It's a big maybe and a big maybe not. I guess I won't know until I'm actually engaged.
deadmoon deadmoon
22-25, F
2 Responses May 23, 2012

Yeah, I'd most likely be like that too. Too many secrets have a way of ruining marriages so I'd rather not try to hide it from him. If he wants to know the information, it will be available for him. If he never asks, if will still be available in case he asks someday but I'm probably not going to be the one to bring it up first.<br />
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Depending on who we marry, it might be wise to spend a few days preparing them psychologically for what they might discover about ourselves should they start asking questions for answers they can find on EP. They'll get more answers than they were asking for and some of them might be unpleasant for them so I think it would be a good idea to prepare them and let them know they're probably not going to be pleased with a lot of the things they'll find.

Mm... I'd probably just be like 'If you ask, I'll tell. If not, oh well.'

By the way, way to make it rhyme. XD