Deep Meanigful Conversations Have Become A RarityDeep meaningful conversations are a rarity for me. Where have they gone? I'm surely to blame in part if not fully. I'm far away from those who I used to converse with on a regular basis. Perhaps my desire is a form of homesickness.
Conversation is not easily obtained though. Quite an extensive amount of effort is required. First you need to find someone willing to have a deep and meaningful conversation. Once you find a someone you need to find a something. Something to converse about, that is. The weather is too shallow of a topic. So is the topic of other people. It's fun and interesting at times, but not fulfilling. Gossip and small talk is as filling as a stalk of celery. I need a hearty platter. I need "meaty" (or tofuy) topics.
Politics and religion are not topics for conversation in our household. My husband and I have such differing views. Well, as far as religion/spirituality our views are very similar we just get in each others way with our emotions, etc. Emotion doesn't allow us (me) to speak in ways that are easy to respond to in a calm matter.
What does that leave? Philosophy, literature, music... He has no interest. Sports... too shallow.
So I need to venture outside my home. I've become estranged from my best friend. We could pick up a conversation out of nowhere, and it was always fulfilling. Now our husbands are in the way... They've never met but they have serious issues with each other. Her husband's issue stems from his belief that my husband isn't good enough. Her husband thinks of me as a sister, and thus he has the protective brother attitude. My husband's issue is due to their lack of assistance/cooperation in the legal aftermath of a car accident where I was a passenger in their car and sustained permanent life altering injuries. The legal aftermath didn't turn out well for me and my husband feels it would have been different had they been cooperative.
I have another friend, a very good friend, but this friend is a recently single man. He lives far away and we've been friends for a long time but things change when you're married. I just can't have the same quality of friendship we had when we were both single.