Deep Meanigful Conversations Have Become A Rarity

Well Mello..I thought it was just me and perhaps it had to do with age, however I see you are 40 years younger than me. So this tells us it is society that is changing, empathy and apathy has fallen by the wayside, so many families and relationships have become dysfunctional. Conversation has taken a backseat everywhere, even in marriage, regardless of age. I feel that economy being what it is has had a great affect , people have become overwhelmed, stressed and tend to close themselves off,not wanting others to know of their demise.Husbands and wives shut down also and then the problems start. I have always loved to verbally spar and like anything else, conversation is an art and there is nothing like face to face sharing..so for us to survive I guess we have to compromise and use our other resources..like this one...weedbychoice looking forward to comment responses...

I'd have to say that at the top of my list would be to hold a political office. With a conviction to really make change. But, I've been involved in many organizations. Charity, the environment, civic and in all cases I've witnessed the dreaded ego mindset. People originally get involved in a process and then ego's take over. They focus on the ascension of their stock within the organization rather than fulfilling the fundamental ideas of the organization. It just seems so sad that the mission statement takes a backseat to egos. Bill in Va.

I haven't really considered what I would put on my bucket list. Now I need a few days of random moments of introspection to decide what I would put on my bucket list. THANKS MAN!!! Like I didn't have enough to do already!!! ;)



I do know that I want to take a serious stab at learning Urdu/Hindi/Random Indian. My boss kind of made me a little apprehensive about it because he says no one in India speaks pure anything, its a mix of various languages with even a bit of English thrown in at random. However, my overseas coworkers are very supportive. Granted they want to speak better English as well.



I think half the list would be devoted to learning languages and the best way to learn is to immerse yourself so then travel to where the language is primarily spoken would be a given.

Well Mello.. you've created quite a challenge.. but it is after 3:30 a.m. here on the east coast so I'm going to put the onus on you and ask YOU one question....... What is on your bucket list? That should be fodder for conversation! Bill in Va.

Stratos!!!! Hello! I'm well. I hope you and your's are well also!



The zero sum conversations are definitely not fulfilling. It seems the art of conversation is lost on most people. Talking does not constitute conversation. Conversation is 2/3 listening and 1/3 responding. Most of what I've found (since I've left my hometown) is a lot of people who like to talk but are lacking the listen & respond appropriately aspect. It does take a special type of friend whom you can have a good conversation about a topic that you have opposing views on.



I guess I'm realizing all the great conversationalists I took for granted are all back home. Conversation... good real conversation was a weekly occurrence, at the least. I guess I need to convince Blue to move to Colorado. :P I might be able to lure him with the elk hunting and trout fishing.



Consa, thanks. :) I use the EP blog option for more personal or friend only type topics.

It's only going to get worse unless you become very very proactive. High school and college are when conversational intensity hit their maximum for most of us.



As the decades moved by, I found that more and more people were not interested in talk. They wanted problems described succinctly, and then concrete proposed solutions laid out.



You are far far from the first person to discover that the person you married is not a warm conversation partner. This is especially true given the tight lipped machoness of many men. That machoness is a major reason why i do not get along well with many of my fellow men. They see me as a feminine chatterbox.



My suggestion is make yourself some close women friends. Join a highbrow book club or a thinking person's church. Are you aware of the blog option EP affords every registered user?



Adults often don't like the vulnerability and ambiguity of introspection and doubt. It reminds them of aspects of themselves they would rather not think about.



I read some, and have written a fair bit in recent years. I like theatre, classical music, and ballet. I follow science. I was lucky to get an old fashioned liberal education. Thanks to the internet, I converse with people around the globe. FaceBook has decent interest groups. But I guess the way to introspect and attract comments is to set up a blog and see if you get any hits.