Need Help To Deal! People Who Share My Shoes!!

My name is Kayla! My fiance is in an Indiana prison and im LOST!! He was sentenced July 19th of 2010... It was so devistating due to he was given a harsh punishment for the offence.. (indimidation class C felony)  This all started last year on sunday May 10th 2009! My brother was living in a small town with his wife and two kids. He took his wife out for a few drinks to celebrate mothers day that saturday night. At about 3-4am my brother and his wife arrived home to see that theyre house was robbed of a laptop and a playstation 3 gaming system. He knew who had taken the items because he had just moved theyre and only had one buddy there since moved in, besided family. Plus this person had talked to my brother while he was having drinks that night, therefore he knew no one was home!!  He then called the ideal person in mind named Toby and Lenny (father and  son). The did not anserw just then at like 4:30, but they called back around 5 or 6am to see what my brother wanted! My brother asked if he had taken his items and Toby and Lenny was in denial of the theft. So here is where my fiance is involved..... So my brother then called my fiance and say to him "hey my house was robbed man, and i know who has my item come with me and help me get them back and bring a weapon." So my fiance helped! They went to Toby and Lenny's and kicked in the door with a hammer and a BB gun and said "we want our **** back." Toby and Lenny plus a couple kids and Lennys wife were all their at the time this was happening. Threats were made but my brother and my fiance left after about 5-6minutes and not a single finger was touched to anyone. AT ALL!! Just verbal threats. My brother left empty handed. So then, my brother goes home and calls the police to press charges since they werent going to give the items back.. Then a few hours after that, Toby and Lenny call my brother and says if we dont pay them like $500 in an hour they were pressing charges on us for breaking into thier house?? Okay so yeah right like we would pay them? Anyway, then an hour goes by and Toby and Lenny call again and say if we drop charges on them WE CAN COME GET OUR ITEMS and they wont press charges on us.. Sounds fair right? So my brother dropped the theft charges on Toby and Lenny and went to their house and picked up the laptop and playstation then left.. THEN about 1 week later my brothers arrested. Then my fiance on 3 charges class B burglary, class B criminal confinment, and class C intimidation.. Theyre bonds were $4500.00 ea and i sold everthing (house,bike,ext.) to get both out.. Talk about fools.. Come to find out Toby and Lenny + kids and wife made a HUGE statement on my brother and fiance FULL of LIES to save there ***** from the theft charges my brother filed.. They said things like they were pistol whipped, tied up, and i cant even tell you all thiers so much.. We took the case to jury trial and walked away with 2 charges dropped stuck with a class c intimidation and  3yrs prison. Just like that... Toby and Lenny are walking free......... Im in complete devistation i love my man and he dosent deserve such a harsh sentence given those sircumstances.. Please give me advice if anyone is lost and hurt and in my shoes. =(
kaylaNcyrus kaylaNcyrus
18-21, F
4 Responses Aug 7, 2010

I'm in a similar place right now my boyfriend is in an indiana jail awaiting trial for two felonies. It hurts so much to get up every morning and face the day when all I can think about is how long it will be until we meet again. I try so hard to stay strong he has been in jail since Oct. 15th 2009. I work most of the time and am starting school next month. Staying busy helps and getting letters is so great. Its hard to hear his voice because as happy as I am it's bittersweet. I love him so much and will stick by his side regardless of how many years he will face. Stay strong!

im in your shoes as well, it hurts so much.<br />
I write poetry to get my feelings out, i dont have any girl friends anymore cause I really dont like girls these days, and they cant relate to me, they are always trying to get me to go out and party and drink and meet guys, and im not trying to do that..im trying to stay loyal to my man. If you'd like i can show you my poems..sometimes they make me feel better.<br />
My advice to you would be to keep your head up and dont listen to anyone or anything but your heart, it knows what you want...i know it might sound stupid or just "the thing people might say" but i mean it. Your heart leads you in the right direction, always be there for yourself, if your not, how would you expect anyone else to be. The whole situation is messed up, same with my man. He didnt get sentenced for as long as yours but being without him sucks so much, I've decided to wait when he gets out we will start our lives together again...until then im staying loyal and focusing on myself and working, saving money for us to spend when he comes home.<br />
I'd do anything for this man. Basically how you feel will determine everything.

im in your shoes as well, it hurts so much.I write poetry to get my feelings out, i dont have any girl friends anymore cause I really dont like girls these days, and they cant relate to me, they are always trying to get me to go out and party and drink and meet guys, and im not trying to do that..im trying to stay loyal to my man. If you'd like i can show you my poems..sometimes they make me feel better.My advice to you would be to keep your head up and dont listen to anyone or anything but your heart, it knows what you want...i know it might sound stupid or just "the thing people might say" but i mean it. Your heart leads you in the right direction, always be there for yourself, if your not, how would you expect anyone else to be. The whole situation is messed up, same with my man. He didnt get sentenced for as long as yours but being without him sucks so much, I've decided to wait when he gets out we will start our lives together again...until then im staying loyal and focusing on myself and working, saving money for us to spend when he comes home.I'd do anything for this man. Basically how you feel will determine everything.

Hey girl, Im in your shoes. My a while back my boyfriend was living in GA and staying at a "friends" house. They let him borrow their car, and then reported it stolen. He got locked up for a while and another felony on his record. Well when he got out on probation he couldnt leave the state. He had no friends, no money, no home or anything in GA so went home to his moms in TN. So had a warrant for his arrest for a Felony Technical Probation Violation.. Got a job, met me, and we were together for quite a while.... spent every second of our lives together literally. Well we quit and went home to his moms (whom I had never met prior) well he got locked up the day after we got here. July 25th 2010. I been living at his mom's with his family that I don't know, while all my family and friends are on the west coast over 2000 miles from me. I am alone, with people I don't know. no money. no job, nothing but knowing the fact that my baby loves me and will be home soon. He is doing 2.5 months now and after that goes back to GA for a hearing to see how long he has to spend there. We are hoping none to very little but we honestly have no idea. I love him to death, and would go to hell and back for him, he knows this but it's still hard. If you need somebody to chat with just add me. heather_08_22@msn.com or xskittlerx@yahoo.com<br />
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I know what you're going through, and its hard. Really it is, especially when your man didn't do anything and is now facing a felony, which can and definitely will put restrictions on your life, schools, jobs, etc. All I can say is be strong, he needs you just as much as you need him, he doesnt want to be there anymore then you want to be without him.