Boyfriend In Jail

Im going thru the same thing. .. my bf has been in prison since january he still have 8 more months to go... i get to see him once a week on sundays . i have to drive 2 hours to get there then wait 1 1/2 to see him for only 45 min n it breaks my heart.. i love him so much... my bday is on friday and knowing that he wont be here kills me... i was the type of person what would make plans for my bday within 3 weeks in advance now i dont even care .. ever since he is gone i just dont feel like doing anything... honestly i love him too much i just hope that all this is worth it... all i can say is keep ur head up n be strong that everyday that goes by is a day closer to be with ur love one...

Some of you are extremely young to be going through a jail situation. The reason I say this is because if you aren't old enough to enter into the jail, you aren't ready to take on the responsibilities of having your boyfriend in jail. TRUST ME.

Im 16 my boyfriend went to jail Bout 8 months ago. He's older then me but 2 years but I'm not even aloud to go visit him and he's only been able to call me once we write letters but its not the same I feel the same way you do depression does a lot to you. I've been in the hospital for my deloression cause its gotten to the point where I have health issues. The only thing I can't tell you is I'm sorry and go to the doctor to getdepression meds they really do help. Good luck!

i am in a similar situation. my fiancee got in trouble with the law and might be extradited back to ca. our son is barely 2 months old and i am not off maternity leave. the only reason i have faith is because of my faith. god has a plan and this struggle is part of it. time will heal everythingth. i can barely look at my son with tearing up because his dad isn't here. but it's okay i just need to stay positive.

my boyfriend just gat locked up on the wrong charges... n im 6 months pregnant... it is very hard to deal wit... just keep your head up and stay bussy... it gets worse when u just sit

if you love him then wait , im in the same situation except my boyfriend is in jail for the rest of his life and im not allowed in the prison because of some trouble , i sit and wait for his calls and letters but believe me as the time goes on itll get easier youll become interested in the acitivites you once were interested in it took me about 5 months to take the fact in. a couple weeks ago he told me to face reality and face that he isnt coming home and to move on with my life i was so upset with him but i knew it was the truth , but i just cant let him go because i love him to much , just wiat it out girl itll alll work out in the end!!

If he's worth waiting for than wait for him I would

Going through the same thing.. My boyfriend has been locked for a few days and it seems like forever !! How do I deal with this my heart is telling me to way., how can I help fight sexual desires?'

only time will tell and help your heart heal. my boyfriend has been in prison for 6 years and is finally being released next year. Be strong. there will be times when you just want to give in but just try and work harder. dont leave him and dont give up. write me if you need comfort...

this is exactly how i feel. i dont know what to do with myself. my boyfriend of two years was put on remand yesterday and i just want to break down. i would be really nice to talk to someone about it. i feel like no one around understands

*last night

I'm feeling the same right now. My boyfriend got arrested last night and we'd both knew he would get arrested sooner or later, I'm only 15 and he's quite abit older than me, but I was so used to waking up and finding a message from him, today I got no message. At about 3 I got s phone call saying he was caught lady night and I haven't stopped crying since, feel free too message me whenever would be nice to talk to someone going threw the same thing because this situation is so hard and it's only the first night for me :'( x

i cried when i read this bekcuz im in da situtional now its 2013 n he went recently for wat i dont have no idea i cry myself tew slp everynight worrie bout my bf he is a good boyfriend ii ever had ii did bad things behind his back n didnt get tell him ii regrates that now im lost without him my friends thinks this is joke but i do not cuz deep dwn inside im hurting while they makin jokes they can c their bf anytime they want to but i cant i only c him once a week for 1 hours only not enough time for me the only thing i want is my baby n in sticking beside him no matter wat we had future plans together n still got em it hurts my feeling wen i think about him i wanna cry but i dont i just smile and ask GOD to look over him n look over as i go forward

This made me cry, it's everything I'm feeling right now. I've noticed that it was posted in 2008, it's now 2013..how did everything turn out? Was it easy? Did the days go by fast? I need help, I need good stories to help me on my journey :"((

Hey girl! Everything you're feeling is NORMAL but just because he's locked up doesn't mean you should be either. He won't ever leave you, he's in jail and he knows that you're gonna be there to support him and love him through it all. You have to STOP existing and START living. I know you love him but that shouldn't change anything. Don't over think and don't worry too much because that creates a problem that was never there in the first place. Stay busy to get yor mind off things. It'll all get better in time. Prayers set your way!

It will only get better with time and all of those questions will too be answered with time. If he is the one then he will want you even more and you in return will feel the same; on the opposite spectrum what's two years of your life. Only more time to focus on your life with or without him. Keep yourself busy and always think of those who have less than you take for granted.

hey girls im 22 my bf is in jail i meet him by my friend cuz her bf told her to find some1 4 his friend so i said yes i well meet him nd i meet him nd we talk then i started liking him alot nd we berly started going out nd we talk on the fone at nite i go visit him wen its vising days he makes my day idc about ppl around me only him nd know my friends dont talk 2 me cuz i dont go out wit them i only go 2 school nd come home their telling me tht he shouldnt control me from hangin out with them but its it hard nd he told his gonna do 1 or 5 years what do u girls do to take off ur mind of ur guy nd i need new ppl 2 hang out cuz my friends only put me more down

I just read this and it tore me up. LIke my story is exactly the same. Everything you said is how i feel. even same time frame. I wish i could give you advice, but i cant. I dont know what to do either. Just know you aint the only one. Im stuck too.

my boyfriend/best friend is in the jail has been for 9 months and has another 5 todo,wev had our fair share of disagreements before he got the jail,and a good few from when hes been inside but hes my soul mate we love and trust eachother. we see one another as much as possible.its never enough time tho,:(( we battle through together and hopefully itl all work out every thing happens for a reason :) theres light at the end of the tunnel!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My boyfriend just got sentenced 18 months today (which is a year and a half) and hes already been sitting in jail for about a month and a half... Ive waited 8 months at the most with my ex boyfriend but we were together for 5 years whereas me and my boyfriend have been dating for 7 months... Im 18 by the way, but love him soo much and I miss him like crazy cuz those 7 months we had together were the best he is a real good man which are hard to find these days. Everyones telling me id be stupid to wait cuz we barely dated foe long. Ive never waited 18 months before but lets see how it works out cuz im damn sure gonna try. Hes mine, he has my heart and I got his.

1 year is nothing hunn you can do it my boyfriend is doing 4 and im at 9months already... trust me you can do it .. it will flyy.

hey, im only 16 and my boyfriend that iv been with for 1year&5months has been in jail a number of times. At the minute hes back inside and he could be in for up to 3 or more years. I understand everything your going through. Its really hard for me too. I had the same feeling that he might lose interest in me but he hasnt and since he has told me this i feel so much better and he doesnt get to me as much anymore. In my opinion if you love him its defo worth the wait.. if its a year and your still in school or whatever then that year will fly in. :) You've just got to keep strong and live a little with your head held high. iv lost so many friends over my situation with my boyfriend and that is hard but if they were really your close mates they would stick by you and give you all the support you need, iv said that my "close mates" clearly werent that close to me because they give me so support at all, in fact they made things 10 times harder for me when i was at my worst point in life with all this. Last year me and my boyfriend went through a really bad time and my family turned on him and didnt want me to go out with him anymore. i had no one to talk to when he was in jail as i could not tell my mum anything. At the moment my mum is being a but more supportive about things but isnt really up for letting me to see my boyfriend in jail, its really upsetting not being able to see him but when he rings and i hear him voice it changes my whole day for the best. im the same kind of girl as you, i love going out,drinking,dancing&partying etc, and since iv met him my whole life has changed aswell. Id rather just go to college,come home and do nothing for the rest of the day. i have started going out a little bit again now but i dont seem to enjoy it like i used to because i be thinking that i should be at home in my room looking at the same four walls 24/7 just because that what my boyfriend has to do. You've got to fight for what&who you love thats all i can say. You'll be fine and so will your boyfriend, when he gets out yous will have to time of your life:) #keepstrong :)

Go find law abiding boyfriend :)

My man just got locked up- right before Thanksgiving :( I'm 27 and can't tell my family- I love him so much and I write to him all the time- I talk to him - like praying - too- and it makes me feel better. Same deal- we were very attached and I don't hang out with too many people- and all I seem to care about is when he gets out- and hoping I have him home by Christmas. I send him pictures- and saw him today- he was so happy- I know it will make us stronger - but I know finding some support group will help in the meantime- hang in there ladies!

Hey my boyfriend has been to jail twice now, 7 weeks for the first time and then 8 weeks this time, 3 weeks until his promising release, its killed me, I don't eat properly, can't sleep cause he's not there, I hate walking into shops cause I get teary, there's memories of him everywhere I go. Trust me our relationship is strong as, we are engaged. We have been through so much together and nothing can come between us. If he loves yu wen his released he will hold yu and he won't let go. I've got support around me from organisations, if i didn't have these I wouldn't be strong enough to face every heart aching day. Hang in there, get support and keep in contact with him. Try not to dwell on the good memories cause they are too painful, just smile and let them pass, before yu realise he will be back in your arms.

I met the love of my life in an outpatient program that we were both assigned to by our PO. We fell in love and have a child on the way. We both got violated for association with a known felon. I am out on bond and she is in jail. I have not seen her or felt my baby move in a month. The uncertainty of what is going to happen to her is devastating. The thought of not being there for my childs birth is heart breaking. She is so scared that I will not wait for her. I write a 1500+ word letter every single day. I cannot visit her. We talk every night. It is no where near enough. When we speak, I am the strong one. It is all a lie. Every waking thought is of her and my unborn child. I worry myself to the point of being literally sick. But, I must be there for her. It is what I must do as a man for my love. Support your loved ones. Letters mean more than you know inside. They will read them over and over. Be thoughtful and honest. Reassure them of your dedication and love.

writing in tears ...my boyfriend has been in prison for 2 months its the hardest thing ever , i feel so alone ...noone to talk to about it , what makes it worst is that we have been long distance hes in the states and am in the caribbean ...with school i cant find the time to visit . i have gotten 2 letters since then but by the time i get to reply hes been transferd ..its so frustrating . i just want him back safely in my arms.its like i can feel all his emotions i know that this is harder for him.please pray for us

To be honest you just have to hang in there I'm 18 years old my boyfriends been in jail for already 4 years he has 9 more to goo . At first yea it is the hardest thing to doo be separated from the one you truly love and care for . As time goes on and I get older I still have him by my side and no doubt will I be by his . But you start to realize that things happen for a reason . I love him and I miss him . I think about him every single day . At work , when I'm walking down the street , hanging out with friends but throughout these 4 years it's made me a strong person . You just have to hang in there and time will tell . & to answer your question noo trust and believe me he won't forget about you nor loose interest in you , if anything it will bring you guys closer together and make the love stronger . It all depends on you two as people .

- Anitza

Im in the same situation and it hurts my heart breaks but I continue to pray and thank God for what is going on in our lives. I thank God because this is where my love found Jesus...I know it could sound crazy but I'm a woman of faith and know that everything is in his hands. I'm at every visit the days we don't see each other we talk on the phone I send him letters weekly and I ask God if this is what I Gould be doing but I know that my heart can't let this man go so I'm sticking to him. My family no nothing and I don't tell anyone either I only speak to his family about and they also support him in all of this. I thank God for his family cuz he thought they would never help in and so far they have... I hope and pray that God will do justice for all of u lady's and give u peace and know that he is with u all. God Bless

Hey, how your feeling is only temporary and it becomes easier to deal with, your story is simular to mine, my boyfriends arrest was also ery unexpeted and i have done a year and a half already unfortunatly he has had an extra month put on to his sentence for something he never doen so i still have 19 months left to do.

My boyfriend was and still is my bestfriend we been through soo much together, too much to through away wen he needs me. I know school and other things may seem boring for now but you muct pull through there has to be a balance and you akways have to put YOU first no matter wha and i promise it will keep your mind occupied being occupied is vital when going through this because when yu are not occupied your mind can wonder and you begin to dwell on how negative this is. But you must try and turn it possitive, this could be the making of you both and one day you will look back and think this was a walk in the park.

I think this is worth it me personaly because i know my boyfriend is a good person, and he is trying to turn his life around and work towards out future together not all people who go to jail are bad,there are some good people in jail, good people who have just simply made a wrong decision or simply beein in the wrong place at the wrong time. some men are worth waiting for.

This website is also a big help its nice that people can relate i hope all goes well for you and we are never to far away if you neeed someone to talk to