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Waiting For July 4th...

I miss him everyday... it's really hard for me since I am out here on my own.  I live by myself.  My boyfriend and I when we were together.  We were ALWAYS together.  Did everything together.  Went everywhere together.  We had our arguments but we loved every moment spent together.  I truely hope he learns his lesson and not ever go back.  And I hope this all works out for us.  I know July 4th seems just around the corner.  But, to me it feels like forever....

I'm just counting down the days I get to be with him again.  I work all week so that keeps the week going by somewhat quickly.  I write to him everynight.  We have a lot of bumps in our relationship right now.  Emotionally.  But we both try to work things out over the phone.  Getting as much phone contact with him is helping me out.  I am thankful that I'm able to talk to him at all!  I use to put money on my phone all the time but it became a financial problem.  So, I get to talk to him at work.  Which the county pays for.  So, at least hearing his voice keeps me going.

I'm just hoping to get through this all.  Hoping that this will soon come to an end.  And I can be happy again with him by my side.  In a way I'm sort of glad this had happened to us.  Because, we were sort of arguing a lot.  And I think with this, it's helped us a lot in every way.

Anyway, I hope everyone gets through this.  Just be strong and have faith if you really want it to work.

sasamigirl909 sasamigirl909 31-35, F 18 Responses Apr 9, 2008

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Hi there Mzking4u and Kthomas21... as time goes by. I do try to update on how life has been since he's been out of jail. It's been over a year and 10 months since my man has been out. Almost 2 years. And things are great! It depends how your relationship is before he went in. If it was rough before he went in. It'll always be rough. But, if you both love eachother before he went in... then there will be lots of love after.<br />
Honestly, time did go by very slow. But, you gotta be strong and fight for what you want. Life will get better.<br />
And as for him changing? My man changed so much. He makes sure he never goes back again. That was his life before he met me. Now, it seems like he has more to live for since he's been with me. Sometimes in life.. whether it's worth it or not... sometimes we have to risk it and see where it goes. So, just follow your hearts to what you really want to do.<br />
Write letters, songs, poems, draw pictures.. etc.. <br />
Keep your mind busy. Cause it can really bring u down if u dont.<br />
Goodluck ladies! <br />
Me and my man now has a 4month old baby boy!

This was not worth it... Everything I did for him he didn't appreciate! He came out of jail and started talking to other girls...
Then I got pregnant and he continued talking to a girl regularly...
Things just gets worst and worst...
Then finally he became faithful to me... But he became hard to trust again after what he did to me...
As years gone by... It turns out he's legally married to someone else and has 2 kids from them!!!!!!
Turns out he's a pathological liar! He can never tell the truth even if it's something simple!!!!
Don't settle ladies!!!! Don't wait for someone who don't want to make themselves better!!!
You may think you need them but it's not worth it !!!
If I can do it again I would choose not to... Even though I have a son from him that I love with all my heart. I rather have my son with someone else who has their life together and who I can be happy without this type of drama....

same questions as her^!

I am sorry i just read more he isnt home. But its been a long time, How are you dealing with everything? do you think he is going to change? did the time go by fast??

HEY LADIES,<br />
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I am curous Sasam, did your man come home yet? If so what advice do you give? was it worth waiting? has he changed for the better? by "hubby" is gone for a year which is around this time next year. I dont know how to hadle all this stress plus i am alone also and my mind seems to play tricks on me. Good luck ladies, please look at these post because it does give you some confort to know your not the only ones going through this. TAKE CARE

Hey it's been awhile? How are things? Did your man come home? Are u two still together?

on nov. 22 my boyfriend will have been locked up for 1 month. he's got 4 more to go.. every last one of you, i feel you. he calls every other day, i write him everyday, i see him once a week ( through a video camera) we've been together over a year and before he went in there, we were great. now that he's in there... were even better :) were both using this experience to realize how much we mean to each other. we did everything together and now im so alone..whenever im down and think i can't do it anymore. i think of the day he gets out. i think of us after all this. that keeps me motivated. for all you women who have the love of their life in jail..just think of that day, when your back in his arms. thats all i think about and thats what keeping me going. my boyfriend writes me letters we he can and writes down songs he wants me to listen to, those songs i listen to everyday and i feel like im with him :) march 26th (the say he gets out) is what i live for..just think of the day he gets out girls

CraigsWoman, I'm sorry for what you're going through. My man also was going through this drama before we met eachother. And I knew about and still went with this relationship. Then, of course he eventually got locked up. I felt the same way too. Like, I'm suffering for his mistakes too! But, then again, he had a bad life before me. And he became a changed better person after he met me. He just needed to get rid of his past. Let him do his time. Get all this drama from the past over with. After he's done with that he can finally start new with you.<br />
I know the wait is the hardest part ever. I can tell you that for sure. i had to wait for my man the same amount of time your man is going through. It'll be hard. But, follow your heart. If you feel like you should wait. Just wait for him. Write lots of letters. Keep your mind busy. <br />
I did all this on my own too! No friends or family around. I was living by myself. So, it was hard. But, just be strong! It will get easier! <br />
There will be lots of bumps. You guys may have some downfalls along the way. But, be strong. Don't give up!<br />
I have faith that you can do it!<br />
Goodluck and keep me posted!!!!

I've been with my fiance for over a year and i love him more than anything. He went to jail October 7 2009 and its only been like 5 days since he's been gone but it feels like its been years, litterly. We've lived together since before we even started dating, and now that hes gone Im always in an empty house. This is by far the hardest thing ive ever gone through in my entire life. He gets out in March 2010. I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest. Its in his jail cell with him. I feel like im loosing my mind. I dont have any friends anymore besides my best friend who moved 7 hours away from me a few months ago. So i have no one. My family doesnt really support me much. I really feel so alone. Sometimes i think about killing myself so i dont have to feel like this anymore but the only thing that keeps me here is that if i do ill never see him again. I love him so much, hes all i have in this world and i just don't know how to deal with this. I have no body. Im scared hes gonna deside not to marry me or stupid ******* are gonna start spreading rumors that im cheating on him because a lot of girls want him around here. Hes amazing and we have such a perfect realtionship and what he went to jail for happended before we even got together so its not fair that I have to suffer for this. I feel like im suffering for his mistake. I have so many feelings and i don't know what to do with them all. Not being able to talk to him everyday kills me. I get one visit a week for 30 minutes, which is nothing. Life just isn't fair. I hate this so much, i really feel like i'm loosing my mind.

How are u two doing? It's been awhile

Wow, girl you're very strong to wait so long for this guy! You already waited 5 years!!!! 2 more years should be a peice of cake for you! Goodluck!

i was with my boyfreind a at the age of 13 and at 15 he got sent to prison i am now 20 years old and he has 2yrs left and it seems like these 2yrs are the most stressful ones im so sad everyday..but at least i talk to him everyother day i love him so much and i just want this nightmare to be over i love him so much i had got into another realtionship when i was 17 but that didt owrk and he knew about and he just wanted me to be happy but im not going to be until he comes home i miss him soooo much i love him soo much he is my soulmate but im so sad i diont knw what to do....

lolliepop24, I definately know how you feel! I have to be honest with you. 18 months is a very long time to wait. And it will get harder and harder each day. But!!!! You guys CAN get through it if you both work together on this. It's going to be harder on you. Cause, he'll be in there with many thoughts. Hoping you'll wait for him. Praying you'll love him till the end. Praying you won't cheat on him. So, he'll be telling you everyday to please wait for him. <br />
And sometimes, you feel like you just want to give up. Just don't let it get to you. When one is down, bring the other one up. There will be a lot of tears and sadness until he comes out. But, don't worry. I promise it'll be all worth it in the end.<br />
I only waited 5 months for my man. But, those were the longest 5 months EVER!!! He's out and now he's staying out of trouble. And we're doing better than ever! Hopefully, when your man gets out. He'll learn his mistakes and never do it again. Or just stay out of trouble. Because it's not worth it.<br />
Write him everyday as much as you can. Keep yourself occupied. But, let him know that you're still there. Don't leave him hanging. Because, as sad as you feel out here. He feels 10 times worst being in there. HOpefullie, he'll get out earlier with being good. Tell him to stay out of fights. Which will be hard too :(<br />
Anyway, if you ever need anyone to talk to. You can always message me or write me here.<br />
You're lucky to have your family around. When my man was locked up. I was alone. I have family but no where close. So, it was harder on me.<br />
But, enjoy your life. Or at least try. Keep busy, write him, talk to him on the phone as much as you can. Do what you think is best for you.<br />
Goodluck girl! I pray that things will get easier on you both!

My bf got sentenced 2days ago to 18months in prison.i havent even been able to speak with him or see him since he was caught on the night before he got sentenced.<br />
This is so hard for me to deal with i have never felt so sad and alone in my life. i feel like my heart has been torn out and i have nothing left to live for.<br />
2 days before he was sentenced this harsh 18months for a petty theft he asked me 2 marry him...i was so happy when he proposed i was in my glee now i just feel like my whole worlds gone from the best it has ever been to the hardest and saddest time.<br />
I have a nice family who support me but nobody really understands how im feeling inside.<br />
Since me and my bf had been 2gether we have lived together from the start and never really been a day away from each other.<br />
Im happy to have found this site.. With people who can relate to me.What do i do? will it get harder or worse in the next 18months?does he know i love him so much ? im so scared of sleeping when i wake up i look beside me and his gone i cant hold the tears back.this is killing me:(

My bf got sentenced 2days ago to 18months in prison.i havent even been able to speak with him or see him since he was caught on the night before he got sentenced.<br />
This is so hard for me to deal with i have never felt so sad and alone in my life. i feel like my heart has been torn out and i have nothing left to live for.<br />
2 days before he was sentenced this harsh 18months for a petty theft he asked me 2 marry him...i was so happy when he proposed i was in my glee now i just feel like my whole worlds gone from the best it has ever been to the hardest and saddest time.<br />
I have a nice family who support me but nobody really understands how im feeling inside.<br />
Since me and my bf had been 2gether we have lived together from the start and never really been a day away from each other.<br />
Im happy to have found this site.. With people who can relate to me.What do i do? will it get harder or worse in the next 18months?does he know i love him so much ? im so scared of sleeping when i wake up i look beside me and his gone i cant hold the tears back.this is killing me:(

This sounds like an old story because of the dates. Hope all of this is water under the bridge now. I worked with a lady that is Hymong (spelling?) and she was a very nice person. I didn't serve in Viet Nam so although I knew of them I never had any interaction. That sounds so forced. We are all humans with slight variations between us. Pardon me if I've insulted you.

Sorry, but I like to keep an update on how things are going.<br />
Unfortunately, my boyfriend didnt get an early 3 day kick. He didnt get to come out on june 30th. Because he got into a FIGHT!! ARGGhhh I was so upset at him. But, I know there's nothing he can really do.<br />
I'm glad he is ok though. And now it's just so crazy to know that he'll be home in a couple of hours!!!! He gets out july 4th but midnight! I am so happy that he's coming home finally after 5 long and crazy horrible months!<br />
Honestly, it was so hard! Especially the weekends! The weekends dragged because I didnt do anything on the weekends. But, the weekdays went by quickly cause I was working.<br />
Now the day is finally here! I am so happy to go pick him up in an hour!<br />
I just want to thank everyone for listening to my stories. I know a lot of you are going through what I had to go through. It does hurt a lot!!!! But, all you can do is hold on and be strong and have faith that everything will get better in the end.<br />
Goodluck to you all! I pray for all of you to be back with your loved ones again soon!

Wow... July 4th is just around the corner. I'm so suprised I was able to get through all this. But, soooo many things went on along the way. Finanically and emotionally. Like I said I live here in southern california alone. The closest family of mine is 4 hours away. So, I had to deal with a lot alone.<br />
I also Recently lost my Mom on June 7th. That was the hardest. Still very hard for me. But, I am still hanging on and trying to be as strong as I could.<br />
Now, from 5 months ago. I can honestly say it feels good to say he's coming home next week.

Oh sweetie youre actually LUCKY! Feel blessed that you know when he gets out. The love of my life has been in a county jail for 27 months without a specific sentence. He should have been out by now and all it is is a waiting game, its horrible I know how you feel.

Well, it's getting harder and harder for me. Because, I have other things on the outside that I have to worry about. And it just sucks that sometimes... I wish he was here to just be there and comfort me. I don't have anyone out here to be there for me. All my family are so far away. And so are my friends. But, I take it each day at a time. I'm still striving for July 4th. But, recently my boyfriend had told me that if he's good with no write ups or anything. He will get out 3 days earlier. Which will be June 30th. I'm really hoping June 30th! 3 days earlier is a BIG DIFFERENCE in my life! But, if not then that's ok too I guess.<br />
He's been in there since Feb. 4th. So, if he's gone this long without any trouble and writeups. Hopefullie, he'll go through the rest with no trouble.<br />
I'm just glad April is over with in a couple of days! May here we come! I hope to get through this new month. April was Hard!

my boyfriend has been in jail for almost 7 months on the 17th and i have no idea what's going to happen