Missing Him That It Hurts

My boyfriend has been locked up for 2 months, he is looking at 4 years at 80%.  When he was in county he called me 3 times a day, now that he is in the reception center he can only write.  its been over a week since i got my last letter and i am getting so insecure right now.  This whole situation is so new to me.  I am trying to keep myself busy but he is always on my mind.  We found out that I can see him while he is in the RC but it takes 4-6 weeks for clearance.  I hoping when I do get cleared he will still be there.  The good thing is he is in my county still so its so much easier for me to see him.  I never knew that missing someone could actually be physically painful.  He was a musician, and when he was out he would write me music.  I have been listening to them every night, which makes me cry.  He is doing time for something he did a few years ago, he has changed, starting working, going to bible college getting his life right but the judge decided he was faking it and sentenced him. The system is not fair and we are hoping that they will review his case and less the time. I could really use some friends who have gone through the same thing.  Anyone has any advice for me?

tda1991 tda1991
36-40, F
3 Responses Mar 1, 2010

Well lets just say I can relate a whole lot my husband goes back up for parole 2012 and he has already done a year.As far as him writing or sending you mail dont get insecure you can call to the unit any time and check on his status usally when they frist go in they go threw a process on get placed and all so his 1st month will be busy for him,send picture write him and support as much as you can visit help out alot and it seems like he close to you so thats a good thang my husband 5 hours away snd I vist him once a month write him every day and email its not easy but the love and communicatin will go a long ways ,take sare of your self and just focus on the futer and life its self

i feel your pain as i have been through a similiar situation,but in all honesty just try to remember all the good times u shared and remember it isnt forever,he will be coming back to you one day.In the meantime just rty to do things to keep yourself occupied,and be there for him as much as you can xx

i feel your pain as i have been through a similiar situation,but in all honesty just try to remember all the good times u shared and remember it isnt forever,he will be coming back to you one day.In the meantime just rty to do things to keep yourself occupied,and be there for him as much as you can xx