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I Miss My Long-distance Boyfriend

Well, my long-distance bf and I have been together for 5 months.  He lives about 45 minutes away (I know that's not too bad, but it's far enough that we can't just hop in the car spur of the moment to see each other).  We are both going through divorces and we both have our own kids. 

I am so in love with him.  He's a wonderful person and the answer to all my prayers.  Sometimes we talk about a future together.  The timing isn't right, but I would love it if he asked me to marry him. 

We generally see each other a couple of times each week.  We were supposed to see each other tonight, but my son is sick and needs to stay home with me instead of his dad.  Now, I may not be able to see my bf until Friday night.  That seems like an eternity to me right now.

Yes, I got myself into this situation.  I have been in a long-distance relationship before and I knew it wasn't easy.  Lots of missing, lots of crying.  But, I feel like he's worth it, and eventually we'll either move in together or get engaged.  Anyway, I guess I just needed to vent here.  I've been crying for hours now and I think it's helping to pour out my heart here.  So, any words of wisdom would be appreciated.  Anyone out there in the same boat?  How are you handling it?  What do you and your SO do to deal with the distance?

 

Matsgal Matsgal 31-35 6 Responses Jun 23, 2009

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Aww Hun I'm in the same boat. My boyfriend had to go back to Texas to cut bills and take care of some things. I live in florida. He coming back but it could be a couple weeks to two months and I'm only 5 days in. All we can do is text talk and web cam. It's not easy but this temporary distance is worth us and our future. But I know what you are feeling I have been a emotional wreck crying all the time and when I think I got it under control It just starts again. And I'm not sleeping well. Our bed is to empty. But I knew he had to do this and I wouldn't want anyone else as my boyfriend even if they could be with me right now. That's what you have to remember. And you can't hold in your feelings about how hard this is for you. Tell him talk to him about it. He loves you he will listen and help. For me that helps. Men are different they are strong on the outside but feel the same as we do. My bf is having just as hard as a time as me being apart. Yes he not crying like me. But he tells me and knowing that we both are feeling this just proves to me the love for each other. And as the old saying goes time does make the heart grow fonder. But don't hold if in you need to talk to someone about what you are going through weather bf or friend or family. They might not fully understand if they never have been through it. But I completly know what you are saying. It's only been 5 days and times going by so slow so thinking maybe two months apart is hard. But I just remind myself that we are worth this. And how much I love this amazing man and just how speacial he makes me feel everyday even though we are thousand miles apart right now. See me just telling you how I felt helped me. But I hope I helped in some way.
Nina k

I honestly wish I was in your shoes, 45 minutes is much better than mine. My boyfriend lives in Canada and I live in Georgia which is close to 480 miles away. But I would not change it for the world because I know for a fact that I have found my soulmate. so just be happy that you get to see your boyfriend.

my on and off bf is french and it is a ldr thing right now. we cannot seem to stay away from each other though the timing seems to be a little off.....I love him too much lol but if u BOTH are willing to be committed to it then it will be ok. just try and be patient.<br />
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i wish you the best with this union. :-)

hey! im gonna tell you my story ! about REAL long distance<br />
<br />
I met my actual boyfriend 6 years ago in france, my country, he didnt speak french at this time and i didnt speak english<br />
he gave me my first kiss i was almost 16.<br />
before i found him on facebook last year the only thing i had was a memory, for 5 years, a memory of him, so in 2006 i decided to go to england, to spend 2 months there and learn english language.<br />
<br />
then i have lived my life, had a boyfriend, but i was still thinking about him, impossible to forget.<br />
so last year i decided to search him on facebook.<br />
and I added him.<br />
<br />
now its been a year and a half that we're together, i live in france, he lives in USA. <br />
and ive been there twice, the first time was amazing, last time was terrible. a problem with my visa and i was sent back to france the day after. i cant go back to his country anymore... its been 4 months that we havent seen each other,<br />
he is coming to france in a few months to visit me, <br />
i cry every single night. <br />
but I know its him and I wont give up.<br />
<br />
now here is my thought, you think he's a long distance boyfriend but look! you see him so often! i wish i could see my boyfriend that often but its impossible, don't say he's a long distance, 45 minutes is not far at all when you compare to thousand miles and an ocean between! he's your boyfriend and only your boyfriend, cherish that fact ! cause i would love to be in your situation.<br />
<br />
i wish you the best :)

hey! im gonna tell you my story ! about REAL long distance<br />
<br />
I met my actual boyfriend 6 years ago in france, my country, he didnt speak french at this time and i didnt speak english<br />
he gave me my first kiss i was almost 16.<br />
before i found him on facebook last year the only thing i had was a memory, for 5 years, a memory of him, so in 2006 i decided to go to england, to spend 2 months there and learn english language.<br />
<br />
then i have lived my life, had a boyfriend, but i was still thinking about him, impossible to forget.<br />
so last year i decided to search him on facebook.<br />
and I added him.<br />
<br />
now its been a year and a half that we're together, i live in france, he lives in USA. <br />
and ive been there twice, the first time was amazing, last time was terrible. a problem with my visa and i was sent back to france the day after. i cant go back to his country anymore... its been 4 months that we havent seen each other,<br />
he is coming to france in a few months to visit me, <br />
i cry every single night. <br />
but I know its him and I wont give up.<br />
<br />
now here is my thought, you think he's a long distance boyfriend but look! you see him so often! i wish i could see my boyfriend that often but its impossible, don't say he's a long distance, 45 minutes is not far at all when you compare to thousand miles and an ocean between! he's your boyfriend and only your boyfriend, cherish that fact ! cause i would love to be in your situation.<br />
<br />
i wish you the best :)

Okay I know I am young but I do i understand the pain of long distance. I have a boyfriend from England and I live in NJ. I can't share that adult deep love you feel, but I do understand what it's like feelings like they are perfect for you. And My mother and my father just recently went through a divorce. My mom has a bf who lives about 30 or more minutes away too. She seems to feel the same as you. Only sees him weekends and sometimes on tuesdays or fridays. And the days she's not with him she seems so sad. The best thing to do to handle it, as seen from my mom and through personal experience. Make sure to keep yourself busy. Do things that interest you... hobbies, go out with friends, etc... I know It sounds silly but it really does work. I go out with my friends a lot, play my guitar, write poems, and of course talk to my bf. Distracting yourself is key. And when you are with him, try to focus on the good and not on the divorces and then fact he's not ALWAYS with you. If you feel that strongly about him, then I best of luck to both of you. I hope you have your happily ever after =]