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That Ache Will Never Go Away But You Will Learn to Live With It

Sorry to say but you probably will never "get over" the loss of your father. I lost my first-love and the father of my children ten years ago to cancer. The "missing him" never EVER subsides. Sometimes, I long and ache for him SO desperately!!! I wish I could just pick up the phone and call him (sometimes, after ten years, I still catch myself grabbing the phone to call & tell him something.) But, you learn to live with it. Over time, missing the person becomes like an extra limb you have to carry around. You learn HOW to find fulfillment in memories...cuz they're always saying **** like, "Oh, he will always be living...in my heart...." that crap gets cheesy after a while...but, it's true. We keep them "alive." Nurture your memories. They're all you've got now and you'll definitely learn to love them! Start writing it all down, what you remember about him...if you haven't already! xo
MysticWriter MysticWriter 36-40, F 13 Responses Aug 6, 2006

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My dads rememberance today 12 years and your words are spot on its hard when not many close friends know what its like to lose there dad nice to hear the things I feel n think are felt n thought by so many others who get it understand the part of your heart that will never return .

Lou

Thank you for this. I'm really grateful to find people who relate and understand what I'm going through!! <3

I know how you feel I had a Daughter Erica that went to heaven to be with God <br />
March 12, 2003 and not a goes by I don't wish I could rewrite my life story <br />
and bring her back home to me. Although I can not see her I feel her presences<br />
Some times it gives me comfort. to know she watches over me.

Is there a group of parents with estranged adult children?

Oh how pathetic the web i weave..............except i'm the only one weaving and , ****, i don't think i even know how to weave........................

I lost my dad last year. He was 55, I was 27. I will never understand. He would have been a great grandfather if i ever had children, and i needed him................alot. my life will never be what i wanted it to be without him. i am a manic depressive at best, and without him...........just manic perhaps. I feel like the world will not know me much longer either, especially without him................you don't call the cops on suicides do you? lol. This has got to be great material.....the whole blog of lost souls i mean, us people who have no where else to turn, our last glimpse into a (bullshit) human conversation, where someone listens...........but i bet..........no one answers...............

I understand everything u just said

i can relate to you i lost my dad when i was 15 years old! it was hard and you never forgot them! its been 26 years since he passed away... i still talk to him i know he can hear me but he can't answer me is all... i wish he could sometimes... i talk to him often... i totally stopped celebrating fathers day for 23 years... the first fathers day i celebrated was when my son had his first child! that was in 2005 i lost my dad in 1982! i still miss him! <br />
best of luck to you all...

i can understand that, you have to leanr to love with things and get on with it even if it feels like a weight in your heart..

i understand completely, i lost my mother to heart disease in july of 2000 and i am still getting over it, i just pray that i can handle death better when my father die. i love my father with all my heart and that is my rock and i really dont know what i will do with out him.

i understand completely, i lost my mother to heart disease in july of 2000 and i am still getting over it, i just pray that i can handle death better when my father die. i love my father with all my heart and that is my rock and i really dont know what i will do with out him.

i understand completely, i lost my mother to heart disease in july of 2000 and i am still getting over it, i just pray that i can handle death better when my father die. i love my father with all my heart and that is my rock and i really dont know what i will do with out him.

i understand completely, i lost my mother to heart disease in july of 2000 and i am still getting over it, i just pray that i can handle death better when my father die. i love my father with all my heart and that is my rock and i really dont know what i will do with out him.

i understand completely, i lost my mother to heart disease in july of 2000 and i am still getting over it, i just pray that i can handle death better when my father die. i love my father with all my heart and that is my rock and i really dont know what i will do with out him.