It Took Until There Was No More Hope...

I have an ex boyfriend who I was with for only 4 months. The very first day I met him I knew I wanted to be with him forever. The same night we met we decided to be together. Due to my life suddenly turning upside down, I got to know him very well. We had a house together, he had a great job, I had a great job that was within walking distance. We always had to time to be with each other. We both loved the same things and he introduced me to a great new way of life. I felt like a princes and I was living the dream. But it was short lived, since his friends lied about me to him which caused him to dump me...

but the story doesn't end there.

We had a big falling out, and I moved out. 2 months of Facebook drama and no verbal contact went by. We finally became friends again. But of course, we were still madly in love with each other so we were basically a couple without a title. We both dated other people since we weren't a couple but in between it was like business as usual with us being inseparable.

He decided he wanted to go to the navy...

I have always been against the armed forces, but if you knew him you knew once his mind was made up, that was that. He went to California for boot camp and the academy. I didn't get to talk to him much but when I did it felt like Christmas Day. Nothing but smiles, giggles, and pure happiness. Then he finally had a vacation to come home. His brother threw him a huge party at the house we used to live in. All our friends were there anxious for his arrival, and I was the first person he ran to as he ran through the doors. And at the very party, he proposed to me.

My dream was coming true, or so I thought...

To make an already long story short, he promised to come get me after he found an apartment in Cali. I waited for him. I called him, messages him, and he just stopped talking to me. I worried he was hurt or worse. Then his Facebook suddenly has him a relationship with some girl i guessed he was dating at the academy. I was hurt, but I figured once he came home, she'd be no competition to me. Turns out I was wrong about it all. He'd met her online and she was from another country. Instead of coming to get me, he went to bring her to the united states to marry her. I never found out why he'd left me standing at the alter in my mind. Since then I barely see him. According to rumor, his wife doesn't care for me. He;s gone, and probably never coming back.

I just wish he knew how much I love him and how I never fell out of love with him. I'd run back to him in a second if I knew I could...
IndigoNoir22 IndigoNoir22
26-30, F
2 Responses Sep 12, 2012

Wow your story is so sad it almost makes me want to cry. Maybe cuz I can relate. My ex who I had been dating for 3 years broke up with me and on his facebook changed his status to in a relationship linked to some other girl THE SAME DAY! I was like really? wtf? He also said **** like he wanted to marry me and all so it all proved he was a liar.

I can't imagine how much worse it must feel to have him propose in front of everyone and then marry someone else...especially without telling you.

Guys just don't make sense. It's like he wasn't satisfied with you since he was on online dating sites...but at the same time, he proposed to you...it's not like you were nothing. I don't even know what to say about how my ex feels. Some things show he cares tremendously and the next it's like he's throwing a big "FU" at me. Grrr. I hate how guys can be so damn complicated.

It sucks how something can go so good one minute and the next they leave you or act like a different person which hurts the most. My situation was a little similar but different. I know its hard to let go because you loved him so much but you have to realize and learn how to let go because if someone cared they wouldnt leave you hanging and i can understand the feeling because ive been through it. Just try and hang in there.