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I Realized Time Is Going So Fast.

I'm almost 34 years old.  I've lived nearly 1000 miles away from my immediate family for close to 12 years now.  I just got home from a one-week road trip to visit them.  Since I've gotten home, I've been really sad and even cried some.  I think the visit showed me just how much time has passed and how everyone is getting older.  I see my family several times a year, so I don't know exactly why I'm being affected so much by this visit.  I remember how my mom and grandmother would cry when we would have to say goodbye on visits when I was a kid.  I never understood how they felt until now.
azhix azhix 31-35 63 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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Beautiful Said(:-)And Expressed from you.(:-)<<<<33334.

There is nothing greater than what is yours . No matter how small it might be . I am planning to get back home with a different mind set . Managing the little .

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Well, lucky you, i live in conneicit putnam now and i am 15 years old, my family is 6000 miles away from me and i am staying in a champus, i cry evrey day, i miss them so much, i dont know that i am gonna be able to make it, i wish my family were withme, come on i am only 15 years old 15 !! , oh i miss them so much, i fell strested evrey day. God help me ;(((((

I understand how you feel. I live over 1000 miles away from my family for almost 23 years now. It's getting more difficult as I get older and realize how much I need them and how they need me. I was just with them two weeks in June and now I'm back home and I feel so empty. I have been feeling this emptiness for many years now, I guess about 3 years. I really don't know what the future holds but I do feel in my heart that I do need my family in my life a lot more than I used to. God guide me to where I need to be. I just want to be happy and I don't see my life being happy without them..

I remember when I first moved 600 miles away and thought they were being silly, I would see them soon. I soon realized my husbands family were slowly replacing mine and felt incredibly guilty! I seriously questioned if I had been too selfish in my thinking. Hindsight is a by-product of maturity some times. Its not your fault. I really didn't start growing up seriously until around 35! All the other stuff was in place, job, home, kids, husband. For me, approaching forty meant seriousness. Not a bad thing at all...it happens naturally. You come to realize how important they really are in the whole of things. You also come to realize, they are aging. Its will be your turn to make sure they are ok. right?

I am sorry I for sure know how you feel. God Bless You

i lived a thousand miles away from my parents for 20 years.then i moved back<br />
because my parents were getting older and needed help. I mowed their grass and helped with their shopping fixed a supper for them for years.my mother passed away in 2002 my wife in 2004 my father and my now wifes mother in 2009. I am 73 now and starting to know some of the aches and pains that they were going thru.<br />
I am fortunate in that i have a new loving family. being all alone is not a thing to be desired.(at least not by me).as you may have seen if you have read some of my <br />
stories it is my opinion that being alone sucks big time.

I remember the first year I was in college and away from my parents. One morning I was setting in front of my make-up mirror, and realized I was Iooking at a reflection of my mother through my own eyes. All the sudden, I became very homesick for my mom and the weirdest senstation fell over me. I thought to myself that in 10 years my mom would die and I better make the best of it. Well the sad part was that I was right. 6 years later she was diagnosed with cancer and in 7 years she had died. The weird part is this. My best friend in Highschool remembered me saying one day, that when I had my own children, that my parents wouldn't be around for to see them. I do remember saying that. consiquently, I was pregnant with my first child when my mom died of cancer, and my youngest child was only 7 months old when my dad died. My oldest was 6. I think we just know, subcouniously. Hugs!

Sometimes in todays society. We fail to see how important family is. We cant just get up and leave without suffering some consequences. The American family has been torn apart the past few decades. Its time to come home.

Well think about it you travel 1000 miles and they stay right there. If they cared for you as much as you do about them then don't you think they may travel 1000 miles to see you and then they might cry a 1000 tears to know that you all are not together. I've learned this from my own family and that is they wouldn't travel 1 mile to see me and they damn sure wouldn't she a dry tear thinking of me. I've had to come ot realize that family (in my case) do give a crap about me. If I were to die today I don't believe they would even care. Thank God I have God and I insurance that takes care of my remains. I wouldn't trust my family to bury my dog. I have insurance on her to. She is my family and I will treat her with the best respect. <br />
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My family can treat themselves!

Friend , that is life, we have to face it, take life as it comes to you,Other reason is you are alone too, <br />
When I was young I had chance to work in newyark, but I was not able to take my wife and one years old daughter,<br />
I remember my daughter use to visit me in dream crying where you gone dad I loved her and my wife to much and missing was as horrible as i have nothing in life.<br />
I decided to have my young age time with my family, So I came back to them and I know the pleasure when I meet them.<br />
We got so short life and youth time is even more short.<br />
I am survival but I am happy I spend all time with them, life goes on, we can not stop time, I am contented off course, and thanks too lord i got there love and company,<br />
Can you not get job near to them,

I love this, I feel this way too but you have to live,b cause .we only get older,I'm 27 and I never understood when people told me I depended on my family too much and they wouldn't always be around,I had two beautiful grandmother's, my first child was the best thing that I could ever give them they were bout so excited,my dad's mom died 8 months before she was born and my mom's mom died 1 month before she was born which sent me into a dark depression and made it hard for me to be excited about my daughters birth,I am male and my grandmother's were my everything,I told my Mon I felt like God gave me my daughter to give me a reason to live because he knew I couldn't make it without my grandma's, my mom's mom raimed me and the closest relationship with my dad was his mom,anyways spend all the time you can with your family,hang In there!

I love this, I feel this way too but you have to live,b cause .we only get older,I'm 27 and I never understood when people told me I depended on my family too much and they wouldn't always be around,I had two beautiful grandmother's, my first child was the best thing that I could ever give them they were bout so excited,my dad's mom died 8 months before she was born and my mom's mom died 1 month before she was born which sent me into a dark depression and made it hard for me to be excited about my daughters birth,I am male and my grandmother's were my everything,I told my Mon I felt like God gave me my daughter to give me a reason to live because he knew I couldn't make it without my grandma's, my mom's mom raimed me and the closest relationship with my dad was his mom,anyways spend all the time you can with your family,hang In there!

I'm 51

My dad got transferred to Arkansas in 66 from Iowa . Every Christmas we would make the 12 hour drive to see both sets of grandparents and aunts and uncles and cousins . That all stopped my junior year of high school . Then it was only when my grandma on mom's side died that we went back then when my grandma on dad's side died on Christmas Eve in 85 we went back up . In 91 both grandpa's died mom's dad 5 days before our son was born and dad's dad 2 days before labor day when we took grandpa back for the service that was the last time I went to Iowa . I still have aunts and uncles and cousins that live up there . I have an aunt and uncle and their kids in Idaho and a aunt and uncle in California with 2 kids . I haven't seen any of them for 20+ year .I'd like for all of to get together 1 more time before they are all gone from this earth . But it's just a dream as most are in bad health but they say dreams come true sometimes .

irretrievable time is flying, as you know. <br />
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just spend as much time as possible with them, call as often as you can, send letters and cards on holidays. <br />
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i didn't see my favorite great uncle before he died and i will NEVER get over it. i wish i could have seen him one last time before he passed, or at least called him, and i will always regret no making my mom get in the car and see him, and she regrets it too.<br />
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so take it from me, the more you see them, the more you speak with them, the better it will be for all of you.

I once read a comment that time seems to pass very slowly to a child, but rather quickly to an adult. It seems that the older you get, the faster time seems to slip away. I suppose this may be due to the length of our memories in relation to the length of time we have been alive. To a kid last month might seem years ago. I certainly agree with that observation. I'm nearly 60 now and some of my boyhood friends have passed away. My father died about 2 1/2 years ago and my mother recently moved out of the apartment that I grew up in. It's depressing sometimes, but I now have a wonderful wife and two wonderful girls that are soon to enter college.

You should find some place in the middle 500 miles would be a lot better and maybe there is some place in the middle that you all would enjoy tell them do what you have to their all you have. I think there is alot of out here that wish we were in your shoes, Sad story but a great one thanks

When I originally graduated from college I move from my home to Burbank Califonia. I was almost 1600 miles from my family. I met a girl in Boston and we where 3000 miles apart. We go married and moved to be by my family. We stayed there for 10 years. I lost my job and found an opportunity in Reno. We moved to Reno and had a child. My next opportunity came up in Los Angeles. We stayed there 3 years. We decided that we had have enough. We moved back home for my family. My father in law passed away and I lost my job. It was a very agonizing experience. We where okay for most of the time. When we where at our lowest and needed the most, we got no consideration. Just after christmas one year, my daughter go the flu. I asked to borrow $500 from my parents which they had. My father would make me come over every day to ask for money since he felt that my wife wasted money. This was the lowest point in my life. I had about $10,000 in money comming in the next month but because the wanted to treat me like a little boy they would not help me. I signed my daugther up for medicare to get the Tamiflu for her. I will always remember that day. <br />
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I was able to get back on my feet and make a go of it. Then I lost my job again. I found a jog in another state from a friend I had worked with in Reno. My sister-in-law helped us get to the new job. Since then we have struggled but we are making it. For the first time in 5 years. <br />
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I realize that this is a long story. My advice for you is to verify the past. Make sure that what you think you have at home is really what you have. I realized that I was going to leave my edlerly parents behind. I asked them to come with me and they refused. Since that time my mother has gotten steadily worst and my father has stated that he is ready to die. I understand this. I explained to them that they were not going to get what they wanted from my sibling and family that I left behind and that they should come with me. They stated that was not the case and chose to stay where they were. <br />
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My mother recently had a birthday. My family skyped her and we had good time. In the past week she told my wife that none of my sisters, neices, nephews, cousins, her siblings, or anyone else wished her a happy birthday. That seems realy sad. <br />
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However, I did everything that I could to support my parents and my wifes parents. The reality of the situation is that you cannot save everyone. Especially your family. I have lived in my new location for seven months. I have only heard from any of my family if they needed something from me. There is nothing that I would have wish more for than them to need my help and they did not. <br />
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That is okay. I went to the new location and me and my family are living our lives to the best we can. I am sorry for the way things turned out for them but there is nothing I can do about it. <br />
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The bottom line is if you have done everything you can give up the guilt and remorse and get on with life. Make certine that what you think is happening is what is actually happening. Otherwise you will be sorry. Thanks.

Why wouldn't your family be close to you? My mom says she could never be able to live far away from me, and I honestly would never want her to be so far away either. She's my mother and my best friend so there's no one else I'd love to always keep closer to me than her. If I move somewhere, then you can be assured she will be living nearby. That doesn't mean I won't be having any privacy, but she will definitely be visiting every once in awhile and I will always welcome her with open arms as the great mother she is. Same goes to my dad and brother. I have no idea what it would be like to be far away from my family for so long but I'm sure it will take many years for that closeness and connection we have to fade away. I don't know how you can handle all this separation because for me, family is so important that separating myself that way is something I would never do.

It sounds like you have changed or rather grown as a person. That is the greatest thing we can do with the time we're given.

I would say that they will die anyway. So, what can you do about it? Nothing...

I can really relate. My family lives on the other side of the ocean from me. I haven't been back to my country in four years. I haven't seen my brother who lives in Australia since 2006! My mother and step-father were here this year because I gave birth to my second child so they came for a visit. I haven't seen my dad since 2008. Thankfully, my sister is coming for a visit on Monday. The older I get the more complicated it gets to get home--lately the problem has been money and airline tickets. I really do miss my family. It really teaches us to not take people for granted. Life is too short and unpredictable to do that.

******* stop your bellyaching ; at least you have a family....Geezzz of mighty..

I know how you feel. I live half a WORLD away from my family and I only get to see them every three years or so. It's hardest on the kids on both sides who miss their cousins so much.

You have family. Blood or not. They are there see them if you can or want. Love them if you can for love finds a way to make some kind of inner peace. <br />
I myself have no family no inner peace. I have no love I am not mean I am a kind person. <br />
Thank you for inviting me to this site it inspires me to search until the end.

Maybe the feelings are more intense because of the holidays.

You said it all, I experienced the same thing in the same situation every time I would go home.<br />
Keep in touch and let them know you love them!

I read your post and I recognized the feeling you described... even though I have lived away from my home for just 3 years now, more than 1300 miles away from my home and family, and even i visit home several times a year, i miss them so much... Thank God for Internet;) I even force my poor near 60 years old mother to use Skype video calls...:))<br />
Sometimes life takes us more far away.. brings us new people and new home... but our family is still always there and very very important and dear... so we must try to find chances to visit them, or invite them to visit us.. and keep in touch... to (video)call, to send little presents- flowers, candies etc.. to write..<br />
I hope you will have good contact with your dear people and wont have to miss them!<br />
best regards,

I bl<x>inked and he was gone,,,thats all i can think of about my dad,,,i had left home in a turmoil some years earlier,,,,i was 200 miles away in my new home,,,i didnt wanna be,,,but my step mum and i fought,,,she insisted i called her mum i said bugger off your not my mum i was 8yrs old when that <br />
started i was 17 when i left,,,monthly i would cycle,,,yes cycle as in bycycle,, my way back to him,,,<br />
honest,,,it was a ten hour trip down,,,ten hours back,,i would leave on friday eve early at 3pm ish and bike it throo the nite,,,,i did it for years,,then got married,,,he understood when i stopped that year,,,he died in the late summer,,,4yrs after i got married and stopped going down to see him,,,i never forgave myself,,,,,my parents had split when i was a small boy,,,i started going to see my mum in the car 300miles away,,,every summer monthly we would hitch the caravan on and go see my mum,,,,in 2006 i told mum that this summer we were locating the caravan at a resort,,we never saw her that summer,,,she died in the fall,,,,then a year later so did my younger brother of cancer<br />
life went on,,,,i am lucky,,,i am fitter than the rest,,,,for some crazy reason i catch nothing,,have nothing,,,,just a long life to live and regret that i never made the effort when i could,,,,i worry now as i have an older sister who avoids contact with the survivors of our clan,,,when will it be her turn,,,,it starts eating at u,,,facebook cured that problem thankfully,,,,,we are diappearing one by one but the regrets are less,,,,,i wish i had gone to dad that summer tho,.,,if only to say goodbye,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

I bl<x>inked and he was gone,,,thats all i can think of about my dad,,,i had left home in a turmoil some years earlier,,,,i was 200 miles away in my new home,,,i didnt wanna be,,,but my step mum and i fought,,,she insisted i called her mum i said bugger off your not my mum i was 8yrs old when that <br />
started i was 17 when i left,,,monthly i would cycle,,,yes cycle as in bycycle,, my way back to him,,,<br />
honest,,,it was a ten hour trip down,,,ten hours back,,i would leave on friday eve early at 3pm ish and bike it throo the nite,,,,i did it for years,,then got married,,,he understood when i stopped that year,,,he died in the late summer,,,4yrs after i got married and stopped going down to see him,,,i never forgave myself,,,,,my parents had split when i was a small boy,,,i started going to see my mum in the car 300miles away,,,every summer monthly we would hitch the caravan on and go see my mum,,,,in 2006 i told mum that this summer we were locating the caravan at a resort,,we never saw her that summer,,,she died in the fall,,,,then a year later so did my younger brother of cancer<br />
life went on,,,,i am lucky,,,i am fitter than the rest,,,,for some crazy reason i catch nothing,,have nothing,,,,just a long life to live and regret that i never made the effort when i could,,,,i worry now as i have an older sister who avoids contact with the survivors of our clan,,,when will it be her turn,,,,it starts eating at u,,,facebook cured that problem thankfully,,,,,we are diappearing one by one but the regrets are less,,,,,i wish i had gone to dad that summer tho,.,,if only to say goodbye,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

I know exactly how you feel... My family is out the country and I trully miss them now. I would never give so much value for this feeling if I would never left. I am here for you.

I was traveling, working, in the USAF, for 20 years. Home about 4 times on leave. Each visit was with<br />
a different wife and family. Military life is hard on spouses. <br />
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Now, my three sisters are all available on Holidays, and the youngest sister lives 4 miles away!<br />
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As the eldest son, almost 65, and double retired, I find that I have time for 3 lovers, 12 great female friends, two mostly male clubs in computers and HAM Radio, so my life is now, at last, fully satisfied.<br />
Hey, I am a 3rd tier Sagittarius, "Master". So, I am true to my natal horoscope! <br />
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My bratty sisters have matured into loving goddesses who affirm others, teach, and lead! <br />
Never have I loved so well, nor, been loved so totally!

its true ....i think family is really important for you. I missed my family too and most of all I missed my parents and no matter what I do there will be no place like home for me and they will never be with me again. When they passed away everything has change so I am keen to share to my son that family will always be number one in our life. Enjoy your time with your family and even you dont see them often make sure you can send them a message how love they are. Nice blog.

It's good that you love your family.

Dude join skype it might help

azhiz, Cheer up and reolve to be always there for your family. Surpirse them with a long unexpected phone call now and then. really interested in them. Let them alway feel reassured about you.

Time does seem to go by faster and faster as you get older. Follow your heart.

Your story touched me because I just returned home from visiting my oldest son and his wife and my grandson. I only get to see them about twice a year and then only on his occasional weekend off that has to be scheduled in advance. He has a very demanding job but one that he says he would do for free if he didn't need the money. I enjoy my two year old grandson but there is never enough one on one time with my son to share our thoughts and concerns as well as our love. His cell is always ringing because someone at his company needs to do something or make future business decisions and his their director. I love the time I have with my son and his family. It is extremely important to me because my youngest son is estranged from me since his mother and I divorced 20 years ago. I have never met my two grandsons from his marriage and I haven't him call, send a card or come by in that same 20 years. Family is so very important to me and the loss of everyone is never forgotten. I am no longer a young man, but I am very proud of both of my sons and what they have accomplished in the short time that they have been grown. I am very glad I never divorced from a very unhappy marriage until after the first was 21 and the last was almost 19. Their lives are much more important than my was then or mine is now. Love each moment with your family and see them as often as possible because someday you won't be able to do so again in this world.

I have been far from my family for the past six months and I think when I get back home I am not leaving them again!

Wow, I felt like I wrote that post...I currently live in Texas, and my family in Ohio. I moved here when I was 18, I just turned 30. I just recently start going home for frequent visits about 5yrs ago. The last visit, I took my future hubby and step son home to participate in my little sister's wedding. I am the oldest, and last to be wed...the last time I had been home was the year before for my brother's wedding...well, I had never brought home a guy before, so I was nervous. My parents were so loving and accepting and kept talking of us moving there. Part of me really wants to, because I feel I missed out on a lot with my brother and sister, and they are my world! I want to be Auntie for my nieces, and I'd love to be there, but the other part of me, the majority of me, loves it here in Texas, I'm living my life, and my mom tries to put these guilt trips on me hardcore, I know she's getting older, everyone is...aghhh...I just feel I should do what I want to do with my life...good luck to you, I hope you find what makes your heart the happiest!

reading this got me to think tht i spend less time with them. . . ive been away from home since the time i got to college till now that im starting looking for a job...i only see my family once or twice in a year.... this makes me sad because anytime soon..i know i wil be thousand miles away once i find a job..though now im used to it..it just makes me realized that i didnt spend enough time with my family.

i understand i lost my family or what i cal my family the ones that reasied me from age 12 in a matter of hours on the same day so many years ago

I know how you feel when you are far away. Today with the computer you can use Skype to have nice video visits, no matter where you are. No its not the same as being there but a regular phone call does not have the same essence as a video call.

i can say... give time for your loved ones.. because time will come.. and we cannot change our past nor plan our future so make time for your family bacause we can't tell the time.. and they're right don't waste your time for not so important.. because i have experience what you've been experiencing too, i may not that older as you and i am not saying your really an old, i just say it because i care.<br />
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so when the time would come, we can never feel regrets.<br />
stay good and healthy always (",)/')

I know how you feel and I live WITH my immediate family. When I come across people who tell me stuff like this, I feel sad for them and happy for myself. Our culture doesn't demand for me to move out when I became an adult.

your post stirred up my nostalgia,i was the one who tried to stay away from my famliy while choosing a college and while working,they were never caring or loving,there were always fights at home and all sorts of mini wars...Now karma is doing its job,now that i married and very very far away from them,i end up realizing you will always have your parents and siblings with you no matter what and how much you hate .i am havent visited them in 2.5yrs and alll i have in my life with real life is their online calls and calls i do to them.Visit them as often as you can...i get shocked whenever i see my mom and dad on cam...new wrinkles,more tiredness on their face and inspite of their sickness they manage to crack jokes and smile.....yes time moves so fast!!! Do more visits and try to bring them to your place and give them a vacation.thats all we can do...i havent been doing since my life is like crippled without a job and lot of other stuff.we have booked ticket s for home and i am excited.

I feel the same....I moved 2 hour flight away from my mum, dad, grandparents, uncles and aunties my whole family really to be with my hubby who is from here. I can't tell you the post visiting blues, the crying every time I left them. I feel like I am just wishing the time away so I can see my fasmily again..It's horrible I should be happy and enjoying this time with my loving hubby but sometime I miss my family so much and phone calls and visits seem to make it worse I just get depressed and dont want to exersize, just want to eat rubbish and just want to cry constantly....I've been here 12 months now and its getting easier but im still not at that happy place yet...not sure if i ever will be untill im home again

I know from experience how strong feelings of "loss" and separation can be. I took care of my mom and dad for over 20 years, eventually leaving work to care for a mother who was so much to me and the rest of the family. She crossed over 9 days before Christmas, in front of me as I tried to revive her. I have grieved for almost 3 years now but have found that no matter how distant we think we are from all our loved ones, whether here on Earth or in Eternity, spiritually connected we are all the time and in allowing yourself to wholly subscribe to that FACT, you will find that you are always connected, sometimes even more so. My dad is 91 now and lives 950 miles away from me. I miss him to and though I call him often, I too find myself missing him, the everyday things. <br />
Love those you have in your lives deeply and without reservations. Talk to them in you heart and if you do, pray for them. It helps to center your feelings. There is always a reason and a plan--oft said but not entirely believed in. We all go on our roads through life and the people we have, the people we meet, the people we lose (temporarily)--they are all treasures for our souls. Miss them but know they are always just a heart-felt thought away.<br />
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Best wishes to all my brothers and sisters, for truly we are all that and more. What a great voyage we are on, and will be on again.<br />
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mike

Thanks for all the responses. It's nice to know others understand.

Hi. I've come to realise that life doesnt come with a replay button like a vhs tape machine or a dvd pla<x>yer. what if your mum or any one close to you died today. how would it make u feel knowing that you could have changed something but didnt?

I also live more than 1000 miles from home. I just realized I have seen my Mom only 12-13 times in 13 years. My nieces are grown up, My brothers older ..... I want to move back closer what (acidrefluxcures) posted inspired me to go ahead and move.

You Know, saying how you feel to your family when you do see them is always the hardest - I Love You to your Mom and Dad, brother or sister, sorry thats easy, just like enbracing them with a kiss. Say how you truely feel, thank them and above all be honest with the good and the bad. Clear your decks. It hasn't always been easy, I have a wonderful and honest relationship with my folks and sibblings. Something I have thought about when thay day comes - I'll never feel guilty for not saying how I feel or felt, nor will I feel guilty if I can't make it home in time. My folks know me and I them. I see them once 12 -24 months though we email and share fotos. Today I'm 14,000km away enjoying life's experiences (good and bad). I've lived from my family since 18,

Clearly I was meant to read this.<br />
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I just returned from a visit with my family, who live several states away, and we all got together for one day and celebrated both my niece's baptism and my 34th birthday yesterday. I have the "post-visit blues" today, and happened to (for once!) ready my Experience Project newsletter in my inbox, which featured your story.<br />
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Thanks for sharing. I am going to email my family expressing how much I enjoyed the visit, albeit a brief one, this weekend.

just like you ive been away from my family for a long time..i can feel the pain but we have to face it that in order to make a better life we have to sacrifice...but you can do something before its gonna be late..in simple matter you can do like sending them some email telling how much you missed them that you love them so much...you have to let them feel the love in your hearth...dont waste the time that you can tell them that you love them..for me your so lucky cause you still have time to tell them that you love them and your there for them..me..i have no parents now both of them is taken by God and the only regrets on my side is i didint told them and i didint show them how important they are in my life..thats why as an advise dont waste the time..you have to show them how you love them before its gonna be late...always takecare and god bless...

I am with you...I live some 8000 miles away from my family and visit them once every year...the hardest thing is always saying good bye not knowing when I will see them again...the rest of the time I am just worried and feeling hopeless, then I realize how fast the time passes by and regret those seconds I could have spent making more memories....after all that is the most precious thing...just good memories.

I had not seen my older brother since 1989 when I had a too short visit with him; he lived some 250 miles away and some of this time I had transportation problems and it wasn't easy to visit him. However I did stop by his town in 1995 in an attempt to visit him, but couldn't find him and nobody seemed to know him. I kept planning to see him in the near future. One day in 2002, my younger brother called to tell me that Tom had died suddenly. This was very sad news and I cried for 3 hours straight. All I can hope for is to get a chance to visit him in the next life. <br />
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Partly as a result, my wife and I stay very close together, very seldom are we apart, and we don't want to take the chance of being apart in case something were to happen to one of us.

I know how you feel. Much of my family is close by to my own home, but I do have some family overseas in England and Scottland. I think the farther away your family is, the harder it is. I mean, I still love them, but appreciate them even more. Technology does help in staying in touch, but it's more important, I believe, to have regular family visits and reunions. It's a different feeling seeing them face to face then online or by phone. When it comes to love and family, time is of the essence.<br />
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As I write this, I think of my great uncle in England, and how much I love him and respect him for all the hardships and situations he has had to go through in his life. I just wish I could be there for him, be a part of it just like he is.<br />
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Nick

When I was just out of college, I had to move out in search of a job. When I was away, it was then that I realized the importance of family .I started feeling homesick. There were times when I wud just long for a tender touch of my mom by my side. When I was upset , I wished someone was there to listen to my grumbles, someone to share my joy with, someone to shout at. Someone to come back to home to after long day at work. I was fortunate enough to find a job in my own city after sometime. Since then I have never taken anybody in my family for granted. Its true life is passing by, but it is also true its upto us how we allow our lives to walk past by. So all the best ! keep smiling.

I've experienced the same situation as you but I was 2000 miles away! I eventually moved back to within a 5-hour drive from family members. TODAY, we are all living within a 30-minute drive from each other. Time does matter. You must appreciate and relish every moment spent with family members. With today's technology it is much easier to stay in touch with everyone...however you still cannot beat that all important phone call where you hear your mothers voice...your dads voice or that of other members of your family. So, do stay in touch - it will be like you never left!

It's life, my dear...The life is passing by...and we can do NOTHING with this fact. Simply try to accept this fact... You can't change the situation, so accept. We all earlier or later will have to go away... Don't wait for this event. Simply LIVE!!! And enjoy every moment... You've got your family...It's wonderful!!<br />
They are alive..It's wonderful!!! They are waiting for your... what can be better??!!! A lot of people don't have that... You are lucky!!! Change your mind and BE HAPPY!!!<br />
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My hugs)))

are there people around you whom you are related to by blood but you consider as family?

I would say 'visit more' and make the most of your beautiful family. I lived 2,000 miles away from my family and recently moved back because my dad got sick. Unfortunately, he died 3 months ago, and it was only then that I realised I had taken for granted the fact that he was simply in the same world as I was. Don't give yourself a chance for regrets, even if it's more phone calls and showing and appreciating the love between you. All the best

Sounds like you're maturing and love your family. You're alive! I've been through this and only live a few miles from parents. Whatever sadness you're experiencing, it's healthy and normal. Maybe its the tug you need to visit more often and likely they need you more than even they are willing to admit. I think it's normal to be the way you are and especially in these questionable times. Since 9/11, all of us are on barrowed time. Hang in there.

borrowed time? because of miles between? Hmm... Guess I should reneg my terms huh?

Couldn't of said it better myself:)