Like We Never Loved At All......

I really need some advice on this issue, so here is the story. I saw him tonight after fifteen years and still had those feelings after all these years. I approached him and told him that I didn't know whether or not to speak because it was awkard. His reply was simply "Why?" Okay, I wanted to say "Because how could it not be after what we had shared, and why are you acting like nothing ever happened?" Instead we made small talk. Something is not right about this. We didn't leave one another on bad terms. He left because we couldn't be together at that time in our lives. So why would he look right thru me like nothing ever happend. I even went as far as to tell him I still think about him from time to time. He didn't even reply! I am hurt and angry all at once. I don't want it to end this way. So my question is, Is he really being cold or did I not even mean anything to him? Please help with this...
gynger gynger
26-30, F
3 Responses Jul 25, 2010

you know when you were with him you always must have felt this is the one! this is it! until it ended and with time u got used to not having him around. however, time passed he might have experienced different lovers! and someone else might have made him feel SHE IS THE ONE! when you are in true LOVE you hear a voice inside and you know! you know they are the one.....i am sorry but seems like when he was with u he never heard that voice.....

Thank you for responding to this so kindly some people would have just said to get over it and move on. The feelings that I have felt with this man, I have never had with another. Not even my husband who I love. I have talked with different people about this and they have said the same thing. One of my dear male friends told me that men tend to bury thier feelings and react this way. I just want closure, but I may never get it. Thank you so much. He did say in the conversation that he had asked my parents about me once.

i was so saddened to read this. I wish i could give you a better answer, but this is all i can guess at.. 15 years changes people. It's like stepping into a running river. Each time you place your foot in the water, the water is not at the same place it was a moment ago. It's undergoing constant change. You have not changed, but perhaps his life experiences in love have changed him, maybe hardened him? Or maybe he has learned to bury his true feelings in nonchalance. Either way, he is a damaged person you do not deserve to have in your life. It is entirely his loss, and he did not even deserve to have you come up to him as you so sweetly did. I pity a man so cold.