Reconnected With My First Love After 22 Years

here is my story, the short version

I dated FL throughout high school and college. She was a few years younger than me. She treated me great and was devoted to me. I wasn't true to her and cheated on her on several occasions. Eventually, in 1987, she left me for good. I met my wife to be later that year and vowed to always be true to her. We were married in 1989. Always thought about my FL but never heard from her again.

After 20 years of marriage, and our son went off to college, my wife decided she didn't want to be married to me anymore. Last December I googled my FL's name. She was not on Face-book. I found her address through a pay site. I sent her a short note giving her my email address. 3 days later she responded and gave me her cell phone number. We texted for about a week, then she told me she had been at my wedding, outside, in her car. I asked if I could call and she agreed.

She's in an abusive and unhappy marriage, but almost 1000 miles away. We're in contact on a regular basis. I've separated from my wife and filed from divorce. I'm not expecting my FL to end her marriage and marry me, but we are close friends.

That connection we had many years ago came right back. She forgave me for my screw ups and accepts me now.

We've met a couple of times, but not had a physical relationship, just friendly stuff. When we talk, we discuss everything. She's so easy to talk with. I love her more now than ever.

I don't know what the future holds, but our reconnection has been good for both of us. We are best friends today. I'm taking things one day at a time.


we remain in touch we just still can't be together because of her husband and kids. i will forever be in love with her and wait for her.  I tell others I love them, but I can't even make love to another woman.  I'm lonely for her but blame it on the girl I date.
tazintrouble tazintrouble
46-50, M
4 Responses Dec 20, 2010

One of the only
Y honest remarks I've ever made. Still screwing with other peoples feelings waiting on one who doesn't want me. Makes me feel powerful

I met up with my FL after 22 years also ( techincally we had seen each other 16 years ago) was perfect!! We, too, started talking in December of 2009. We reconnect in September and it was just like old times!! It is amazing how that happens!! We talk everyday and plan on meeting again soon!! He is 2400 miles away so its not an easy task. FL are always so very special!!

yea, those crazy feelings were there.<br />
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I had no idea what to expect. I didn't know if she would even talk with me. We texted for about a week before making the 1st call. It was incredible. The feelings,the draw to hear her, to talk, it's all so surreal. <br />
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It's been a year now since we 1st talked. But that feeling is stronger now that ever. When my phone rings, and I see it's her, my heart seems to stop. She takes my breath away. It's many times better now that it was back then when we were dating.<br />
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And when we met. She was perfect. So beautiful. Her eyes, smile, her hair, the way she says stuff, her mannerism; it is all so incredible. Reconnecting with her has been wonderful.<br />
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I hope you meet your girl next summer, and I hope your connection goes great.<br />
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Hey, Tazintrouble, Its wonderful to hear that you have reconnected with your FL. My FL now lives about 4500miles away, I haven't seen her for about 5 years now and it was about 15 years or so before then when Id last seen her . I cannot wait to see her in person again and I hope to do so in summer 2011. <br />
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Were those crazy feelings still there for your both (too) when you both met up again after all those years. I wish you all the best for the future.<br />
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Everything forbidden is better. It's so romantic to claim to live someone you don't. Fate and all that ****. I will waste my life being stupid instead of loved. Her husband takes great care of her she's just a drama queen. But I can vividly remember why I cheated on her and why I didn't want to marry her. Nothing's really changed