Love is stronger than hate

I had just moved to Arizona from Georgia and was having a hard time adjusting to everything. Thats when i met my first love. I was walking around my new neighborhood, with my sisters and when we saw him instantly all three of us liked him!  It felt like we were on some kind of dating show trying to compete for the ultimate man! But throughout it all there was instant chemistry between us. He asked me out two days after we met and of course i said yes. When he took me out to the movies i knew he was the one because he was so polite, and caring, i was only 16 at the time and i had never had anyone be so caring and sweet to me.

We were together for a year when we broke up because we were a white and black couple, and everywhere we went people would stare at us.There were times when we were together that  black guys would come up to me a ask why i was with a "whiteboy" just to make him mad, and of course it made him mad. People would make comments about him being with a black girl. It was just too much pressure for two seventeen year olds!

It's been a year and a half since we broke up and i still think about him everyday!  I've tried dating other people but no body can compare to him! Now that i think about it, i would gladly go through the racism again if it means being with him again. Love is way stronger than hate...

cancer06 cancer06
18-21, F
17 Responses Sep 4, 2006

To love and be loved is very vital to us. My dear friend, if u really had a true love, i mean someone who loved u for who u are and not for what u are please don't let him slip away out ur hands. Go for him, don't let people take away ur joy, he's for u.

You need to call him. Listen to your heart. My brother is white and married to a black woman. They have a great family and marriage. I have so much respect and love for them. The children are beautiful, smart, and talented. He had to deal with family fascism. Our grandmother won't attend the wedding. She's wonderful.

I never thought black white marrige would be a problem in Arizona. That's just so wrong. My mom always says "Don't miss the last train, or a man who really loves you." God bless you :-)

Thank you for sharing this part of your life with those of us here at EP!<br />
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In my mind, to love another person is one of the most noble things we humans can do. It blesses the one who loves AND the one who is loved. Real love, in and of itself, is a miracle & a gift that can last a lifetime.<br />
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That the world outside your relationship (whatever it was) was unwilling to give its "stamp of approval" SHOULDN'T HAVE mattered, but--in reality--at least in how I'm reading your experience--it did. Society too often makes it difficult for people who are different--people who are individuals, and who insist on following their own hearts instead of Society's unwritten rules--to live their lives in peace. It's not right, and it's not fair, but it is the truth, unfortunately.<br />
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When you wrote at the end of your post that "love is way stronger than hate", I couldn't help but let out a little "Amen!" :-)<br />
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It's funny, but it reminded me of the last season of the TV series "Roseanne", as the main character (Roseanne, of course :-) was writing the last few pages of her book.<br />
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At the very end of her book she wrote something that has helped inspire me when I needed some inspiration & I hope it helps lift you up, too!<br />
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She wrote:<br />
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"But the more I wrote, the more I understood myself and why I had made the choices I made, and that was the real jackpot. I learned that dreams don’t work without action; I learned that no one could stop me but me. I learned that love is stronger than hate. And most important, I learned that God does exist. He and/or She is right inside you, underneath the pain, the sorrow, and the shame."<br />
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My heart hurts for you that you weren't able to make more of your relationship simply because of someone else's ignorance & because of someone else's fears, and that it was too much for two teenagers to try to fight.<br />
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You are obviously much younger than I, and I know that we probably share next to nothing in common, but I wanted to provide you a piece of advice that I hope will help you in your life's path. It's a lesson that's taken me many, many years to understand, but it was worth the wait: It is almost always difficult to be yourself in a world that fears what it doesn't understand; the only thing more difficult is trying to be someone or something you're not.<br />
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Keep loving, but--more importantly--keep following your heart! :-)

My mom is black and my dad is white they got married in the 70's it was not excepted then it was way worse they are still happily married. You can do this you can make it. Love is much stronger then hate. Don't let someone stop your love because of who You are. I feel strongly about this because I am a victim of the same thing taking my first love away and 6 years later I still miss and love him very much I would do anything to have him back... Call him please. it will be ok. Don't wait to long because you may never have the chance to make things right again,

You posted this in 06', what did you do? I like what it seems most people had commented.....go for it.....did you? I hope you did, and I hope it worked out. Whatever happened I wish you luck with everything.

I say screw the people who had a problem with it. Ur rnt dating them. Ur dating the guy of ur dreams. Call him.

I think you should really try to contact him and see if there is still a chance for you two. Love, real love is very rare and hard to find and you shouldn't give it up because of others ignorance.

i say screw what other people have to say. you can love who you choose. that made me mad just reading that about the ones making comments. cause some people just **** me off with having problems or comments with black and white couples or gay couples etc. you cant help who you fall in love with. its not their business anyways. your arent making comments about them so they should butt out. i say find him and get it back. i live by this one quote cause it made me realize something to.. "never give up on someone you cant go a day without thinking about"

It is really sad that people are like that. Why can't people be happy for any happy couple?! I enjoyed this story very much. I hope that you will contact him and tell him what you are telling us.

It does take someone with a "thick skin" to take critism and lots of courage to have a multi cultural relationship because those people will never truly disappear so it would be up to the two of you to make it work.<br />
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Good luck

Believe me true love conquers all! You need to talk to him and see if he is missing you as much as you're missing him. Chances are he is. Good luck!

i'd try it again, true love is rare. love is colorless.

i completley agree that it still seems like its unfinished business. he has to know how you feel, because he might be thinking the same thing. give him a call and talk about it, as hard as it may be to do, it will be worth it.

oh so sad call him

hey i think they are right you need to get in contact with him again and see if you both feel the same way. i dnt know if u still have contact but if u dont he may have moved on but he may be pining just as much. who broke it of? u? him? or was it mutal? im sure you'll find the solution, please let us know what hapens..

You sound like you have unfinished business. You should talk to him if he's up to it.