I Am Not Allowed To See My Son Or Grandchildren Anymore!I had one lovely dil who was very very ill and sadly almost 3 years ago she died. She left behind 4 daughters,2 son's and her husband (my son).
During the time that she was ill I was working at 6 every morning and then again lunch times and eve's and on top of this I was extremely upset over my dil when we heard that she didn't have very long to live and was taking them back and forth to the hospitals as they had no transport.
In the end I was so worn out that I gave my lunch time job up so as I had the day free to go back and forth to the hospital but then of cause I had less money and so had the worry of how to afford petrol in my car but my family was all that mattered as we had a family crisis on!
During this time my other dil decided to tell her husband (my other son) that I was unstable and couldn't see my Grandchildren anymore. My son's words when he told me was that his wife said that I was having a breakdown but she said that her words were 'unstable'.
I was lost for words as I had expected them to be supporting whilst I was going through this and also support my other son but maybe I was expecting too much from a family where material things are more important than their own family.(well my son's own family as he has also been stopped from seeing me).
My Grandaughter was the eldest and so I knew her the longest and we used to have such fun when she stayed with my husband and I and we were the ones who taught her to stay in her bed as she used to play her parents up! I always got her to make things to take home for her mum or i would buy her something to take back to her just as a little 'Thank you' because believe it or not I loved my dil !
Sometimes when my son and dil came to see us I could see jealousy in my dil face as my grandaughter and i were talking as I treated her like a grown up.I asked her once if she liked the new colour that I had added to the bathroom and she said 'yes nanny, it's nice' and I got such a look from my dil that I had to explain that my grandaughter had said that she had liked the new bathroom last time she stayed here and so I was just asking her if she liked the colour of the nick nacks and towels etc that I had added. (I can't see anything wrong with that!)
3 years ago I took my grandaughters presents round to her but was in trouble because I had handed them to her and not her mum but who's birthday was it??? Then I was frightened to go round again because she had a go at me in front of my Grandaughter accusing me of everything that she could think of just because I wouldn't hand her the presents (as people had said to me to make sure that my Grandaughter got them).
So I then got my husband to take some presents round and they were all sent back (well dumped at my front gates!) So my grandchildren will think that I don't love them and am not getting them any presents anymore.I have kept most of their presents in the hope that maybe they will get them one day but a lot of them were clothes and so it was no good keeping them.
I feel that she has really stopped me from seeing my grandchildren because she was jealous of the relationship that we had and also of my son and I and so I am not allowed to see any of them anymore and have cried every day for over 2 years.I don't cry so much now but think about my son and Grandchildren every day and sometimes have a little cry which I try very hard to hide from my husband.
My son has seen me a few times in secret but I can't forgive him and people say that his wife rules his life! Infact someone had already told me this before all this happened as my son had already told someone this and she told me, but I stupidly stuck up for my dil and then she went and did this to me!!!
Has anyone else been stopped from seeing their Grandchildren? I know some people who know of others that it has happened to and so I think that it is more common than I ever thought!
sadgrandmother 56-60, F 9 Responses 0 Jul 28, 2011