I Miss My Husband!!!

Seems like the new story of my life "I miss my husband." We were married in September and about 2 weeks later we found out we were expecting. In January he left for training in Fort Benning. I had basically just started to get used to my new life with him and he already had to be taken away. It was very hard for me to get thru the weeks without him especially with my hormones all out of wack. After training he got to come home for 10 days and then had to head off to Fort Hood, Texas. He said within two weeks he'd be back to help me move on tdy. Well I had packed up everything in boxes & totes and was all ready for the move when he called me and told me he no longer was getting the tdy and that he just found out hes getting deployed for 15months in June. Well I lost it. I was counting the days while he was in training until I would get to be with him again and was looking forward to moving into our own place and starting our family together. After looking forward to that everyday and actually having everything here ready to go I was just crushed, and still am. Now He's only getting block leave that starts May 10th, a few days before my due date. Its going to be so hard to watch him walk away knowing me or our new son wont see him again for 15 long months. I cant imagine being away from him for soo long, and worrying about him every single day hoping he's okay. Especially with a newborn, I dont have any kids and have no experience whatsoever with babies. I was already scared when I was thinking he would at least be here to go thru it with me, but now... I think I seriously may lose my mind. I love him with all of my heart and I already cant wait for him to come back, even before hes left. I dont know how you ladies get thru it....your all amazingly strong!!!!

Missingmysoldier514 Missingmysoldier514
22-25, F
3 Responses Apr 7, 2008

I just had our second son on the 4th of april and no he was not here for the birth, i also had to have a c section so it was not fun and i was so scared. I went in by myself because i wanted to know that i could do it all bymyself. yes i was an emotional wreck, and i cried alot. But i got through it, he did make it home a day later, which is not bad but he was not ther to hold my hand, or deal with the mornnig sickness, or any of the other stuff that i had to go through, it just makes you a stronger person, you can get through it, it is hard and I dont see it getting any easier, he is home now until the 29th and then i know that i am going to fall apart. Just keep your head up and talk to him as much as you can about the baby, and the moving and try to include him as much as you can. I am here if you ever need to talk.

I'm sorry that you are going through this but I swear to you that you will find strength in you that you never knew you had. I didn't think that I would be able to handle when my husband left. Having to do all my stuff and then all his stuff too. It seemed like it was never going to end. But not to long after he left I worked everything out where I could get everything done and still have time left at the end of the day for the kids and I. I just had to keep busy and the time went by so much faster. You wont have a problem with staying busy with the new little one coming. Oh and the fears about the baby.... Once you see your baby for the first time those fears melt away. You'll still have some, my kids are 11 and 9 and I still have fears but it's easier to deal with them now. If you have questions ask away, there are also support groups the military has to offer. We are all here for you if you need us too. Good luck, thank your husband for all that he does of us. Welcome to the Military Wife family. It does gets easier.

Im very sorry that you are so scared right now, and that you have to go through this. I wish I could come to your house and hold your hand and tell you it would be ok.<br />
But Im here in spirit and in mind, and I will tell you that everything is going to be ok. <br />
Promise.<br />
Just try to give yourself the time you need to adjust to all the new stuff happening in your life. Once you really accept and try to stop struggling , you will find a rythm to your days and a new meaning of normal. Promise.<br />
We are all living proof that you will survive, and if you are really lucky you will grow beyond your wildest dreams.<br />
Your higher power (some call it God) will provide what you need just when you need it.<br />
Promise:)<br />
Take a deep breath and then take it day by day.<br />
Love sent to you, Wendy