Sudden Death.

I met my husband in 1969 and we married in 1971. We had many happy years together. He was my soulmate, my best friend. I miss him so much. We had 3 children and 4 grandchildren, it would have been 5 grandchildren, but we buried our grandson in 2006 and my husband in 2007. We are a very close family, but I still feel very alone. I try to get on with my life and hide how I feel to others, but I cry every day on my own, it just comes on me. I watch other couples together on holiday or just shopping and wish it was my husband and I. I miss the decisions we had to make together etc., I know we were so lucky to have so many years together, maybe because we were together so long it is so hard to live without him. Another thing that bothers me is that extended family members think that you are getting on with your life when you are not. If they have never experienced death of a close family member they don't have a clue how you are feeling. Would like someone to talk to on this topic.

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3 Responses Oct 18, 2008

Hi,My husband and I would be twelve years in marriage on September 30th 2010 if some people didn't decide to take his life from him. He was kidnapped from our home front gate September 5th and later found shot dead in the head. I miss him so much and wish I could just reverse the events. I look like someone who is strong on the outside, but I am dying inside.I lost part of me and I am falling apart. I can't explain to anyone how I feel, some times I feel like people are saying I should be ok by now, It is so hard I don't know what to do. I have been given all sorts of support from everyone around me and am truely grateful but...inside....I want him here.

Your story touched my heart and I thank you for sharing it with the community. Please accept my sincest condolences in the loss of your dear husband. I have tears in my eyes as I read this. It kind of makes me think hard about the disgreement I had with my friend earlier today especially with him getting ready to leave and it now seems all so trivial. Thanks again for sharing.

Your story made me cry , mu husband has just left to Iraq , and I keep having dreams that he won't make it this time, and that someday someone would call me to let me know that my husband is dead !<br />
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I know it must so hard for you, I really feel for you and this would take sometime, my advice to you is that you should not stay alone at all try to engage with some friends or family members and remember that you are a strong and good woman.<br />
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I am here if you need to talk.<br />
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