My Mom Died On Friday

I am truly sorry about your Mother ... I lost my Mom last year due to dementia and I know exactly what you are going through.

I think the best thing to do is know that there are people that can give you those talks that can cheer you up. Especially talking to those who have experienced it, or are still experiencing it. I lost my mom last August, she got stung by several bees while I was out at apple-bees. The cops took me back to my house, where I followed my aunt to hers, to have her tell me my mom didn't make it. I know the feeling. You feel like there was something you could have done to fix it. You always ask yourself "Why her?" My mom too was beautiful, caring, and so sweet. It's hard to go to sleep at night knowing I can't hear her voice, laugh, or see her smile. I can't tell her about my boyfriend or share the love with her next month on mothers day. One thing though I can tell you is, that when you talk to her like she's still here, that really helps. It might not be the same to not hug her, but inside you can feel better because you know she can hear you. She is with you every second of the day, and she is looking out for you more so than before. Keep your head up, it may not feel like it now but things will get better!

Hi there. I don't know if this helps but I lost my Mum last year. She was nearly 57. I am 38 now and I still don't know what to do without her. I know that she should still be with me and I know that her two amazing grandchildren should grow up knowing who she is. It hurts so much when I think about life without her.However ... I have been able to carry on ... even though I thought that I couldn't. Time is a family friend and I invite him round every day to help me to remember, to grieve and to live. Please try to do ALL three. It is so important for your entire family. You have people who rel on you.Big hugs x

I'm turning 30 next month, my Mum passed away in November.
I don't know how anyone is supposed to get through this.
I'm an only child and have an 11 year old son that was so close to my mother.
The unbelievable feeling of loneliness is overwhelming and its like the more people that are around the worse that it gets.
No one seems to understand. I feel resentful of the fact that everyone seems to be grateful that I'm just getting on with things...
Its not fair! My mum wasn't supposed to go yet. Your Mum wasn't.
The hospital sent my mum wasn'thome with server cellulitis, she should still be here. The pain and suffering they allowed her in the last week of life was horrible.
No matter what I said or did they wouldn't keep her in the hospital and now she's not here.They killed her.
I don't see the point in anything. Nothing means anything if she is not here to see it.
I'm so sorry that you have lost your Mum. She sounds like she was an amazing person.
I wish I knew what to wish for you and myself but I don't think anything will ever fix the loss of our mothers.

I'm really sorry for your loss:(

Your words ring so true. My mother passed away less than two weeks ago on a Friday, I miss her so much. She was here celebrating Christmas with us and that was the last time I was able to hug her, tell her I loved her and just talk to her. I wanted her to be able to watch my children have children…she was 70 years old. So selfless and giving to others, like your mother she had a hard beginning. Growing up and living in Detroit for 50 years. The only consoling fact I have is she is now with my father who passed away five years earlier. I love and miss her so much. I hope and pray that the four years that have now passed has healed a lot of the pain for you.

i will pray for you

I am so sorry to hear of your loss , my mum passed away on 16/06/2012 as I am the only son in our household I could not greave properly , I am an Indian man of 42 but only when I took my beloved moms ashes to India and was about to scatter them in the holy river did I mourn my mum so much - I miss her so much and always remember her everyday.

I wish I could have done more for mum , like taken her out and shared more memories with her.

She was disgonosed with terminal lung and liver cancer , the doctors gave my mum 3 months to live but sadly mum passed away in 3 day's - I think she knew well before then though she just didn't want to worry us.

On the day she died I was holding mums hand when she took her final breadth , I will always keep my mum in a very special place in my heart until I die.

I do know what you are going through but they say times a great healer , this will ease the pain but we will never forget.

best love.

Divinder.

OH BROKEN DOLL LITTLE YOU KNOW THAT HOW MUSH YOUR MOTHER KNOWS YOUR LOVE FOR HER IS SO EVERLASTING DURING HER LIFE AND AFTER HER LIFE GOD IS COMFORTING HER SHE IS KNOW SLEEPING SO PLEASE BELIEVE THAT EVEN WHEN YOU WASNT ALWAYS THERE SHE ALWAYS HAD YOU ON HER MIND REMEMEMBER THAT WE ARE ALL JUST PASSING BY BUT WHEN YOU FINALLY CLOSE YOUR EYES AND ABLE TO SLEEP YOUR MOHTER WILL BE SOON TALKING TO YOU IN YOUR DREAMS JUST REMEMBER THIS SHE NEVER EVER EVER WILL STOP LOVEING YOU SO BROKENDOLL YOU WILL KNOW LONGER BE BECAUSE YOU SEE YOU WILL BE ONLY IN JESUS TIME YOU WILL BE TOGETHER THEN AFTER YOU SEE HER IN YOUR DREAMS YOUR NEW NAME WILL BE SUNFLOWER... BECAUSE SEE MYSELF LOST MY PARENTS I COULDNT SAY ENOUGH AND NOW THEY COME TO ME IN MY DREAMS AS CLEAR AS IF THEY ARE HERE AND I TALK TO THEM IN MY DREAMS SO FROM ME TO YOU YOUR JUST AMOMENT AWAY SO RELAX SHE FINE JUST REMEMBER JESUS LOVES YOU SAY A PRAYER TALK TO HIM HE WILL CALM YOU SO GODBLESS YOU;;; ELISA

I feel the same way. My mother died in December and I cry everyday. I miss her so much. I try to reason with myself that this is life and something that happens to all of us but I can't get past how much it hurts. One thing I can tell you is that although you miss her being there by your side physically, trust she is with you nevertheless especially during the major milestones that await you in life. A mother-daughter bond doesn't end. Nothing can break it. There is no way she will miss seeing you marry, have kids, and go on to do great things. She will be there in the best seat in the house.

I lost my mum on 08/05/2012, she had a double lung transplant 3 years ago! she was then diagnosed with cancer. She recovered but then sadly on the 8th May her body shut down.

It's so sad but you have to think positive, she will be watching over you! make her proud xxx

Mine died July 16th 2011. She was 88 and I was 61. The pain is so bad I don't think I'm going to make it sometimes. I've got severe heart palpitations that I have never had before.I'm seeing a cardiologist. I miss her so much. I was never religious.I want to hold her and say how much I love her and miss her but will never be able to...... forever. I see a psychologist but it doesn't really help. I feel like I'm in Hell.

Your MOm is with you. You could not change her journey, it was hers. Your comments are so raw and true, your Mom has left you with the great gift of authenticity, listen listen to your heart, she is there.

I lost my mother several years ago but it might as well have been today. The circumstances were questionable and I've blamed myself for not removing her from them although I tried. However, that is another story. I am adding this for all who need to know their mothers have never left them..... One morning a month or so after I lost my mother, I was missing her so much that I went through her things and found a stack of Kennedy half dollars. My mother wasn't a collector, so I questioned why she'd have kept so many of them. I worked an evening part-time job in a crafts store and later that night a young man in his mid to late twenties and his mother came through my register. I accidentally dropped his change of 13 cents and it rolled under my register. I apologized repeatedly, checked my pockets for any change, etc. He kindly told me not to worry and began to follow his mother out the door. Half way there, he stopped, turned and put his hand in his pocket, saying, "Wait, this is for you. I am supposed to give it to you." Confused, I told him, "No, I owe you." He walked back to me and said, "No, this is for you," and handed me a Kennedy half dollar. As he walked away, he told me to ask his mother, that he did it every so often. This was too precious and spiritual to think it a coincidence. Never again will I doubt that people we love don't leave us. Your mothers are watching over you.

Broken Doll. You capture my thoughts and feelings so well. I am in my 30s, my mum has recently died. She was such an incredibly beautiful person who deserved so much more from life. She loved life and lived every moment to the fullest. I miss her so much, every second of the day. 

My dad has also died and I feel so incredibly alone. I don't have a partner or children.  My life feels completely worthless and like everyday is another punishment. I look at all my friends and they are all married and have partners and/or children. I feel like a complete failure.  To say that I was depressed or suicidal would sound like I want to dramatize the situation. Trust me, it is bad enough as it is without doing that. I have been through therapy in the past but it doesn't help. You still need to deal with the same things the next day. I just don't have the energy any more. 

The comments by 'Iwanttoescapethisworld' are so true. It is so unfair. My heart goes out to you. You are only 16 and should not have to deal with this. No-one wants to admit that it is unfair to your face because it is like they agree that your life is terrible. 

I used to have faith in God. But what loving God would take both of your parents and leave you completely alone? I no longer believe in a greater purpose. 

I feel so sorry for people on this forum who have lost their mums, or other precious people. I know that words cannot describe the pain or loss but my thoughts are with you.  It is nice to know other people have been through it (although I wish none of us had to deal with it). Xx

I am sorry for your loss Brokendoll. I am sinner causing my mom passed away. I have been blaming myself so much for her death at the same time. We did not get a chance to say goodbye nor hold her hands tight for the last second in her life. She recovered from pneumonia at hospital and her blood work was perfect. We were so happy and jumped with joy at that time and we totally expected her to be discharged and go home with us. Just because of this. I did not reallize that was her last day on March 2, 2012. I also thought that not to draw her attention while she was resting at hospital so I decided not to see her on Thursday night and go to see her on Friday at 1:00pm. This was a wrong decision and thought. Nurse told me she woke up on Friday morning before dialysis treatment. I strongly sensed that she died due to dehydration in the process of dialysis at hopsital on that Friday morning. ... I am so sad... I was the one who had hocked her for hemodialysis treatment(SSSS) at HOME. Of course, I am experienced how to save her if dehydration occurs and endangers her life. If I were at hospital that morning while she was hocked for dialysis treatment. I definitely knew that she was dehydrated and I would immediately operate the dialysis machine to save her. So so so ... upset, sad, I feel like I am the worse son in this world. My ignorance on her finally make her die. What kind of life is this?

I am sorry for your loss Brokendoll. I have been blaming myself so much for her death at the same time. We did not get a chance to say goodbye nor hold her hands tight for the last second in her life. She recovered from pneumonia at hospital and her blood work was perfect. We were so happy and jumped with joy at that time and we totally expected her to be discharged and go home with us. Just because of this. I did not reallize that was her last day on March 2, 2012. I also thought that not to draw her attention while she was resting at hospital so I decided not to see her on Thursday night and go to see her on Friday at 1:00pm. This was a wrong decision and thought. Nurse told me she woke up on Friday morning before dialysis treatment. I strongly sensed that she died due to dehydration in the process of dialysis at hopsital on that Friday morning. ... I am so sad... I was the one who had hocked her for hemodialysis treatment(SSSS) at HOME. Of course, I am experienced how to save her if dehydration occurs and endangers her life. If I were at hospital that morning while she was hocked for dialysis treatment. I definitely knew that she was dehydrated and I would immediately operate the dialysis machine to save her. So so so ... upset, sad, I feel like I am the worse son in this world. My ignorance on her finally make her die. What kind of life is this?

I am so sorry for your loss, i hope you are doing okay. I too lost my mother on 13/12/2011 at 7:00am. She was 61 and died next to my father who is 71 and is now alone. She died of Motor Neurone Disease which there is no cure for and she got very sick at such a fast rate within 12 months. She could barely speak, ended up in a wheel chair. Could barely eat. She use to be so happy and loved being energetic. She was a beautiful person and would do anything for anybody. I Cry every single day usually when i wake up and before i sleep. I miss her so much and its not fair.. Its so hard and i wish i could of taken the pain away. If i could trade positions, i would in a heartbeat.

I'm so sorry, I know how you all feel as I lost my Mum and best friend a month ago. I also wish I would dream about her and miss her so much, it really hurts and just feels like I am empty. I just can't get enthusiastic about anything and just wish she was still here.....I love her so much xxx

sorry for ur loss i lost my mum very suddenly she was 55 blood clot we never knew im 32 i just want her its been 28 weeks now an im 26 weeks pregnant just want her bak its been to long now, i have to be strong for my kids but i just feel so young an lost an angry xxx i want to dream about her but never do, just want my mum x

Wow. Your comments express my own feelings exactly. I lost Mom December 27, 2009. I have my memories of her, but she is gone - forever, I miss her dearly.

Wow. Your comments express my own feelings exactly. I lost Mom December 27, 2009. I have my memories of her, but she is gone - forever, I miss her dearly.

BrokenDoll - I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your Mother. My mother also passed away recently (March 20, 2011) at the age of 70. It has been very hard - we all know in the back of our minds that some day we will lose our parents, but nothing really prepares you for the feelings of emptiness, sadness and isolation from grief. Even as an adult - you feel like an orphan. I'm looking at a photo of my Mom as I type this and the tears are pouring down my cheeks. I have my Mom's voice forever captured on my answering machine (family has been instructed to NEVER erase them). My mom was my everything. Who else knows you so well your entire life and still loves and accepts you anyway? To all of those people out there who have suffered the loss of their Mothers - I am sorry for your pain. And to all of those people out there that have never known the love of a Mother - I only hope that the forces of the divine unknown help keep you on your path and fill your heart with love in some other way.

Some of you sound dangerously depressed, and I totally understand how you're feeling. I lost my mother last march and feel sad and guilty because she had an undiagnosed illness and I was giving her arthritis medicine that was making her illness worse. I can't tell you how depressed I feel about this, but one thing I do to fight that depression that borders on dangerousness is to think of how she is now seeing the world she loved through my eyes. I feel she is with me when I view the flowers she loved or watched her favorite TV shows. I feel that as long as I am alive, there is someone on this earth giving her the chance to view through my eyes.

I got this idea when I ran into an old friend who was at an art show and I used to see him at openings with his wife. he was bored at art galleries. When I ran into him after her death I said to him, "I thought you hated these things"

He told me that he still goes to them because he felt closer to her when he went to things she enjoyed and felt he was going to them for her now. he said he was even starting to enjoy them. I thought it was beautiful.

Try to keep the beauty of you loved one in your heart and carry them with you. Think of them seeing the world through your eyes, so try to have as god a time as you can. They won't see very much through your eyes if you're sitting around ruminating about them. First of all, the view will be blurry from your tears, and they'll enjoy more of what you have left to see if you get out and get active with what you, (or at least they) enjoyed.

I am having a hard time of it, too, but I think of making sure my mother still has some good experiences through my eyes. I know she is here with me and know she would not want to see me so sad.

I also am not doing so well financially, but it's summer and there are lots of free concerts all over the place. Check all the towns around you for their Parks and Rec Departments and see if they have nice outdoor concerts. Go hiking or to the beach or lake, wherever you are. Just try to keep busy and put one foot in front of the other.

Wherever you are, I am praying for you and rooting for you.

Heyyyyy..... i am also a motherless child. I lost my mom when i was only 1& 1/2 years child. Even if i have nt seen my mother. From y childhood i brought up by my Grandmother. She was very loving, caring. She used to love a lot. I was a fun loving girl then. Actually i didnt have faced any problem for her. But god's decision was something else. She also left me alone in this world in 2005 feb 18. It was the time when i needed her a lot.. now everyday i miss my grandmother & mother very much

So please dnt disrespect your mother .My sorrows doesnt have any end.........

Heyyyyy..... i am also a motherless child. I lost my mom when i was only 1& 1/2 years child. Even if i have nt seen my mother. From y childhood i brought up by my Grandmother. She was very loving, caring. She used to love a lot. I was a fun loving girl then. Actually i didnt have faced any problem for her. But god's decision was something else. She also left me alone in this world in 2005 feb 18. It was the time when i needed her a lot.. now everyday i miss my grandmother & mother very much

So please dnt disrespect your mother .My sorrows doesnt have any end.........

i like your expression and due respect in remembrance of her acitivity

I am so sorry you lost your Mom. There is nothing like a mother, especially one so kind and sweet. I lost my mother on Christmas 2009 and have a pain in my heart ever since. She was only 69 and was full of life and laughter and love. there are many who share your pain. We are all in this together. Much love to you.

i know what its like to lose a mom my mom killed herself a few moths ago in front of me she was abusive at times but i loved her and miss her i know the pain and sadness and anger of it all hugsssssssssssssssssss

Iwanttoescape: it won't always be like this. I feel your pain and loss, and I'm so sorry for it. No one should have to suffer like that, but somewhere down the road, we all do. Your suffering happened earlier than most, and I'm very sorry for that. You're absolutely right, it isn't fair... but very few things are.

I think you need to find out how you can talk to a grief councilor in your area. I think it would be enormously helpful, even if it's just for a few times so that you can vent to someone who will listen and empathize. It's very, very useful.