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Depressed

I dont know what happed but my ex bf broke up with me about a month ago .He told me he really depressed and stressed .I understand why and know its the deployment .Since I got in this reationship I deal with his mood going back in forth .One min he tell me he hope this work the next tell me something like I dont think your the one .He called me 2 since the break up the first time he told me he felt like **** and got my package .He just called me last weekend and he talk about how wanted to see picture of my new hair cut and my mom put it on fb and he put I LOVEEEEE .He told me how he wishes he was there to hang out and stuff and told me he loves me when haging up the phone .When he broke up with me the agreement was to get back togeather after the deployment and he be home for a month .Its been a week since I hear from him but we sound like we where ok but took him a month to take down the in a reationship .I dont understand why it took him that long and why now ?His mom lives in another state and his anut lives home with his father his aut and mother fight all the time .But his mom told me he be done deployment early and sending him back to his base for 6 months .I dont know if I will see him or not .Thats when the next day he changed his facebook status and how his aut put well maybe your next girlfriend can spell..there plenty more fishes out in the sea .I dont know what going on .His mom always say there someone in his facebook .Sometimes I wounder if someone did it or him or even what happing with him .
kellner27 kellner27 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2012

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That's got to be difficult for you :( First, you don't know if he's breaking up with you as a result of his deployment and stress, or if he's breaking up with you because he just might not feel like you're "the one." I can sort of relate, because I'm dealing with my boyfriend treating me differently - and I'm not sure if it's because of all the stress he's under or if it's because he's seeing me differently. For you, though, I would honestly just give him his space. As hard as it sounds to do, a lot of times men don't realize what they have until it's not there anymore & is unavailable. By having you to still rely on for 'connections back home' and things like that, he's not really feeling what it is to be without you, and therefore, there's no pressure for him to want to get back together because he's still able to call you & say I love you. Although, he might have other reasons for breaking up-- maybe he feels that a relationship is too hard for him while he's overseas. He might just not know how to tell you that. His aunt sounds extremely rude, though. It doesn't sound like his family really supports the two of you together. That would kind of make me angry. Whatever you decide - to keep supporting him through this or to leave him be, you need to make a decision and stick with it - just for your own peace of mind. If you choose to support him for the rest of his deployment, regardless of the circumstances at the end, then do so, but be aware that his mind is in a million places right now and you might not get the clarity or reassurance that you want from him. But if you decide to leave him be, then you have to be strong and realize he wants this space. I have a feeling he doesn't know what he wants, as soldiers often change their minds depending on their moods. Well, I wish you the best of luck! Keep us updated. :)