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Worst Timing Eever, And I Don't Know What To Do!!!!


Wow, I am really new to this, the forum thing. And the army thing. New as in this very morning. I knew it was comming, but we both thought we would have more time. Time time time. But time was fianlly up.

Anyway, sorry if I rant, or if I do this wrong or whatever. At this point, I just need help and support and advice.


I'm with my highschool sweetheart, my best friend, my soul mate, my Dylan. We've been together five and a half years, and he just left for basic and AIT this morning. I just got my very last phone call about ten minutes ago when his plane landed.

We've had our ups and our downs just like everyone, but we love eachother, so we have always tried to work things out. Regardless of the situation, we know we can't live without eachother. but two motnhs ago, Dylan cheated. it was a very big dissapointment to say the least, especially in a time when I needed to be able to trust him more than anything. But...we decided to try and work on it. Everyone makes mistakes, right?

But now he is gone, and from what i hear of friends of mine in the army, it is very easy to be unfaithful, But that isn't my only concern.
I don't know what to do in general. How to I make sure we don't loose our spark? How to I rebuild the broken trust from so far away? How do I send him letters that are more than just letters? I've got so much going around in my head, plus I am about to start my second year of Nursing School! I just don't know what to do. All I can do it curl up in bed with his T shirt and the stuffed dog we had shared custody of. Please help me. I need all the advice I can get. I need all the support and insight. Please.....
alinka90 alinka90 18-21, F 3 Responses May 26, 2010

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hey girl, im in the same boat with you when it comes to my husband just left for basic training and ait yesturday.



but i think that if ya'll decided to work it out and ya'll both still love eachother that any letter he gets from you would mean the world to him (and vice versa) YOU are probably going to be wat keeps him going and keeps him strong. you will be the light at the end of his tunnel.



keep ur spirits up, stay busy, and be positive.



good luck hun :)

nzsqgpp9wc- is very right.... if u guys are gonna work through things dont dwell on the past.. it will only make u go even more crazy... ive been with my soldier for over 2 an half yrs an trust me we have had our major ups an downs... but its love that has always helped us remember why we are together... my man is currently in korea an im in california so that is some major distance there. an i havent seen him sense jan... an its hard dont let anyone tell you its easy cuz thats wat i was told an its not.. its the hardest thing not being able to talk to my man everyday or see him an know he is in some other country.... an so when i get that email or phone call an we talk i treasure every moment.. an thats wat u gotta do... treasure every momment... an when my man was in boat camp he got to use his phone for a few hrs one day a weekend after like the 3rd week he was there....but if you ever need to talk we are all here for ya.... us army gfs/wives gotta stick together.....

Most of your questions can only be answered by you. The trust thing is something that you will have to make your own mind up about. It is difficult to retain trust in your other half when he's so far away for so long... But just remember that we ALL have that little voice inside our heads that tells us bad things - my guy hasn't given me any reason to doubt him (ever) and he's currently deployed and I STILL get the nagging doubts (what if he falls for one of the girls over there, why didn't he call me, what is he doing?!? etc). Missing them is really hard, and it's every day... But it's something you have to do together.



As for the letters, be creative. I don't know if you're able to send packages or not; if you are, try to add things that will cheer him up, things that remind him of home, toys and silly things to keep him occupied in any down time he comes across. If you can't send packages, think about adding a photo of yourself in every few letters, get pictures of you in your day-to-day life, doing things that you wish he could do with you (it'll make him feel a little more included in your life)



You've decided to work through your issues, so try not to dwell on them or think about them too much, it'll only make things harder for you.



Being an army wag is hard, but I always think there's nothing like the feeling when you're back in his arms!



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