I Miss Them Both So Much

I have lost 2 of my sons and miss them both so much. I lost my first son 17 years ago. He was killed by a drunk driver while walking home from a school activity.He was only 16 years old and it has been a struggle to just keep going every day.I lost the next one 5 years later in a boating accident.You can never think that a parents worst nightmare can become your own not just once,but twice.There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of my boys and what they would be like now.I feel so cheated,the grandchildren I will never have,the fun times we have missed,all the little things like hearing their voices and laughter.I would so like to be able to feel David's soft hair once more and hear Preston say he loves.You think that it will get easier with time but the hurt NEVER goes away.I still cry for them far to often and can only wait for the day when I will be greeted at Heavens gate by my boys.

missemboth missemboth
51-55, F
12 Responses Nov 7, 2008

I am so sorry for you I just lost my son three weeks ago. He was shot and killed when he attempted to steal drugs from another subject. He was shot in the back as he ran away. He was raised in a good home and we loved him dearly. He had a good heart, gave his life to Christ ten years ago and had a beautiful daughter and wife. Yet he was killed because he made a bad decision.... I have to admit I have a hard time not being mad at him sometimes. Your sons died in horrible accidents... I can't imagine your grief and why both of them...?? God has promised that he would never give us more than we can handle... You must be a very strong person that God is using for something very special. My prayers and heart goes out to you..... jr

I understand how you feel and pain your feeling. But i believe you will see your sons one day and there will have big smiles on there face when you get to heaven.

Billy Graham was quoted after his wife's passing- "good for her,bad for me" when it is TOO much, consider God's Promises to your lost as well as to yourself... and just believe. it is hard but this helps me(lost a beloved son,age14, about seven months ago)

It's very painfull for all mothers who lost their sons,it's the pain ,only mothers who lost their sons can feel.I lost my beautiful healthy child of 2 months on 30th April 2012,which I got after 7 years.its a heartache that never goes away,our thousand of tears can't bring them Back home again.

I am so sorry for your loss. How are you doing?

I am so incredibly sorry for you and your loss. Like others, I share in your pain and sympathize with you. I lost my son 8 months ago to depression and suicide. He was 25 years old and beautiful. I miss him everyday. I hope it helps to know that others share your pain and understand your journey.

I am so sorry for you loss. It is tragic when beautiful healthy people take their own lives.

My heart goes out to you and your family. I could never imagine the suffering you must feel. Try and remain strong...the pain will never go away, but neither will the love your sons had for you.

This is so sad I just lost my son three weeks ago age 24 I am so sad to hear of you losing both

All my sympathies.<br />
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I lost my only child, my son, in his 20s - and I had lost my husband (his father) when my son was very young.<br />
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It is so hard. But sharing helps, so thank you for sharing.

I understand your pain. <br />
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My late wife and I lost a son at 23 weeks in the pregnancy. He was tiny perfect and made the motions of breathing then he stilled.<br />
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Five months later my wife and our younger son died in a car wreck.<br />
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Six years after that I lost our elder son to leukemia.<br />
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I miss my wife and our guys.

Hello, <br />
You don't know how well I understand you. I also lost my only 2 sons. I lost my oldest son at the age of 32 due to illness on March 16, 2007. My younger son 23 got killed in a car accident on March 16, 2008. It is so unbelievable that they both passed on the same date only a year apart. My older son 's death hurt but was easier to accept because he was very ill. But, my younger son was just driving home speed limit and a woman cross the double yellow line hit him head on and killed him instantly. She went to trial and the judge dismissed all charges because according to hime she was not at fault, she lost control of her vechicle. Do i believe in the justice system? No! I cry evey day for my sons. Sometimes i think it is a bad dream that i will wake up from.

I am so sorry for your losses.

I sympathize - I lost a baby several years ago. I found after much praying that it helps to make some good come from you tragedy. Establish a scholarship in your sons' names. (It doesn't have to be much) Donate time at school or church. Tell them its in memory of your dead loved ones. There are many things we can do for those departed. They will be somewhere in heaven talking to each other: "look at mom go! Wow, she has done a lot. And she put our name on the things she did.