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We Talk About Mom's, But What About Dad's?

We never ever talk about our relationships with our Dad's. I'm just as guilty about this as others. Well I'd like to tell you about my relationship with my Dad, may he rest in peace. Wanting to be dressed as a girl everyday is tough enough, but wanting to be a daughter at 14 to my Dad was what I feared I think the most. My Dad was a self made business man, he raised 2 sons, one just being somewhat different. He knew that at 12 I was playing around with my Mom's shoes and things, but thought it was just part of growing up. The first time he saw me fully dressed as a girl, knocked him over. He honestly thought I wasn't his son but a neighbor. I told him that this is what I am and my desire to be this way was the only way I was completely happy. After a very long conversation between Dad and Mom, he realized that he would have to learn to accept the facts as they were. He learned about crossdressing from people he knew and had at sometime gone through the same issues. He looked upon the situation and decided that if this made his son happy he could and would live with it.

As time went on a he became more comfortable with who I was and he accepted me with a true father's love. Just so you should know , he's the one that bought me my Sweet 16 and prom dresses, and he's the one that payed for my Sweet 16 party along with many complete outfits. The last time that he saw me dressed as his son was 5 years ago shortly before he passed away. In our last converstions that we had, he knew that being who I was made him happy and that dressed as a female didn't take away from the fact that I was still his son, just different, but still his son.

I miss him everyday, and will always be greatful for the wonderful times that we had. My Dad, THE BEST OF THE BEST.

Miriam
MiriamK MiriamK 56-60, T 5 Responses Jun 11, 2012

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I wish my parents would been more open minded

You had an incredible Dad. A Dad with perspective and sheer grace to accept his son as his daughter, knowing it would make you happy. May all young boys struggling with dressing and gender identity and seeking to emerge be so fortunate.

Wonderful memory! Thank you for sharing. I am virtually moved to tears. My father passed when I was 7 ...before I began dressing. By the time I was in my early teens, i fully accepted my role as my mother's daughter. But still, I often dreamed of myself at a Daddy-daughter dance, with him proudly dancing with me in a room full of other dads and daughters. How you must treasure the memory of your father buying your sweet 16 and Prom dresses. With your permission, I think I will add that as a wistful dream for myself had my father lived longer.

One of the most powerful images I can imagine would be a son, wearing a pretty dress right in front of his father, and lovingly telling his dad how much he wants to become his daughter. I can just imagine the intense emotions and fears he would have as he faced his dad and confessed such a unique desire. If I were that dad, I would lovingly embrace my son as my new daughter and help him live his life as a tenderhearted girl.

You were and are one lucky girl! Envious, am I.