Don't Need Them ....

 Toxic people are like emotional sponges which suck the life out of you. I learned they're   controlling and love to hear themselves. Perhaps the worst kind of Toxic People are the educated, intelligent, and semi-self-reflective/self-aware types who still exhibit the typical negative, narcissistic tendencies of all other toxic people. I have had friends and been in relationships with toxic people in my lifetime. In fact, they have always seemed so hip to self awareness at times, they only half way admit their guilt, but then in a gesture of sociopathy do not care because they feel entitled to being selfish. They have for the most part been intelligent and convincing as I found myself making excuses for them and the toxicity in my life.

I will never allow anyone else do this to me for as long as they did. I was a very good compassionate friend, but you certainly can't be friends with someone if you just feel sorry for them, and if they continuously take advantage of you and drain you.

Its so sad how toxic people accuse and lie..and than blame YOU for doing what they are doing!

There is a test to determine whether someone is toxic or nourishing in your relationship with them. Here is the test: You have spent some time with this person, either you have a drink or go for dinner or you go to a ball game. It doesn’t matter very much but at the end of that time you observe whether you are more energized or less energized. Whether you are tired or whether you are exhilarated. If you are more tired then you have been poisoned. If you have more energy you have been nourished.

I have had to say goodbye to some toxic people in my life lately and it simply was the RIGHT thing for me to do… I wish you all PEACE :)
snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002
46-50, F
9 Responses Aug 5, 2010

ImCrazy- Isn't it funny how they like to deflect to everyone else instead of looking within? Thanks for commenting :)

Good post. I mostly agree with you regarding the test, I knew someone who turned out to be toxic (listen to me blah blah blah with no hint of resolution) who'd pass but another who on the surface is happy go lucky but seems to deflect the complaining part on to others. I'm trying to ignore him but he keeps coming around from time to time.

zall1rog-ummm interesting test for sure :) . Thanks so much for your kind words! Writing this post was a true pleasure :)..Keeping toxic people out of my life is a top priority!

salar1- It most certainly is and I will be much stronger for it :) <br />
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sweetnshort- thanks for your support and I know you do :) <br />
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endofseptember- certainly not..but it makes you think huh ?<br />
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ABL- Glad you enjoyed :)..I wish you much peace and love as well !

interesting test. but when i go out with people, i'm usually tired after the outing. i hope that doesnt mean everyone in my life is toxic :/


A changing of the tide for you well done bunny ......

PTMAN- Thanks! I know you got my back :) <br />
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AriesRSA- its hard when you are in a relationship with a toxic person. It's not so easy to walk away and I totally understand. Only you can determine what is best for you , but know you are not alone:) <br />
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Pix- Thanks :)...I know you understand, it isnt always easy but in the end no one needs toxic people in their lives.

you won't have that problem with me snow. lol <br />
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you go girl kick their *** out.