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I My Boyfriend Is In the Navy

If It Weren't For the Navy...

By: browneyegirl89
Written on December 8th, 2008
Age: 18-21 , Female
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  • kbiard

    what an amazing post, everything you said is things i know i have thought of more then once. Its so nice to see that there are other girls out there fighting for their relationship!

    Feb 19, 2012
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  • browneyegirl89

    civilians never understand what we are going through thats why we must stick together. The second part is what happens when you let fear get in between the two and you stop talking things out and you both dont listen. Don't get me wrong i love my sailor i love him to death but when he told me it was over i went crazy on him wed fuss and fight over every thing. he blocked me out shut me out his life. we made mistakes in our relationship i can tell you that and it was on both parts so i cant just blame him but as time goes on it gets better. hes the love of my life and my husband ill support his every move. dont be sorry we did what was best for the both of us i guess i may have been heart broken but i learned to deal with it and see the brighter side to it all.

    Dec 18, 2009
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  • JessesGl

    i understand the 1st part, his step brother keeps telling me i cant handle this n i should just break up with him, he just doesnt understand, none of my friends do, they all arent in military relationships, the dont understand all that, but i do have to tell u that i do not understand the second part/update. ive never been through that but i want you to know im sorry.

    Dec 17, 2009
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  • breelyn124

    ik exactly how u feel with the whole friend thing how Ur always there for them when there haven relationship problems but when Ur happy they cant be there for u they just degrade u and when Ur bf is in the navy they automatically think there cheating and blah blah lol u just got to tell ur self that u trust him and if u cant then maybe its not for you and need to larn not to listen to what other people may think cause they dont have a clue

    Jul 13, 2009
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  • browneyegirl89

    and your soo right! it really doesnt matter the branch they are all fighting for the same thing. and the status of their girls shouldn't matter either! who says you love your man more than another girl? just cuz your a wife or finace doesn't mean an damn thing. What since he put a ring on ya finger you love him more now? I know i love my now husband as much as i did before. i can't possible love him any more than i already do lol. Some girls are just stuck on them self.

    Mar 31, 2009
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  • USNgirlfriend22

    I feel the same way sometimes... one of my friends sisters fiance is in the marines and when i try and talk to her about my boyfriend going on deployment or anything shes like youve got it easy im not really worried about your guy hes safe... my feeling is if hes on a sub or not they are not safe. alot of stuff has been going on in the area where my boyfriend is being deployed and it makes me nervous. i just wish she was more understanding sometimes. doesnt matter what branch they are in, they are all risking their lives for us. another one of my friends is like you dont understand hes my husband yada yada, just because i dont have a ring or anything does not mean i dont understand.

    Mar 30, 2009
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  • skysthelimit

    yeah i know

    today is a sucky day

    i leave tomorrow to go back home

    last night he said to me

    you know why the grass is green right

    i was like no why

    he said, because i love you and the day the grass turns pink is the day ill stop loving you

    hes suck a dork

    hahah

    Jan 17, 2009
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  • sothisisme

    that is a great quote im sending it to my husband .. xoxox

    oh and bermenton is south pudget sound... oh pooo its like an hour ride over the water ... .

    Jan 17, 2009
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  • skysthelimit

    yeah it does suck when your friends arent there to support you...

    i think if they were to see what it was like they wouldnt know what to do

    i had one friend come to me and out of know where gave me a big hug and said "i dont know how you do it" she and her boyfriend live 10 minutes away from each other and they both work and go to different schools she was saying how they dont get to spend alot of time with each other and how it was taking a toll on their relationship

    i told her i do it because i love him and he loves doing what he does thats why i stand by him



    remember:



    "true love isn't being inseperable, it's being seperated and nothing changing"

    Jan 16, 2009
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  • browneyegirl89

    I'm glad to see i'm not the only one goin through this with my friends. sometimes i wish they were more understranding. and i'm not the only one moving to an unknown place for my love. its so scary as is being in a new place then not knowing anyone but him makes its worse the nto top it off my friends wont talk to me it really sucks

    Jan 16, 2009
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  • skysthelimit

    im planing on moving to washington in april or may

    my boyfriend right now lives in bremeton but i think we plan on moving when i get here...haha right down the street from the apartment is the bremerton navel base but thats not the one he's at

    and yeah i only know a few navy wifes and girlfriends

    and i love to met new people

    Jan 15, 2009
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  • sothisisme

    skysthelimit... my hubby is at the everett naval base ... if you move up this way let me know... i have been here for a few months and we dont live in military housing and its been hard to meet other people ;-)

    Jan 15, 2009
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  • skysthelimit

    haha

    thats like me

    im moving from california to washington state when he gets back from this deployment

    my friends think im crazy to give up the lifestyle i have to move here and be with a guy in the navy

    i was born and raise in san jose,ca

    i go out every night and spend all the time with my friends

    they too think im crazy for giving that up

    but i love my boyfriend to death

    and will stand by his side

    Jan 15, 2009
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  • sothisisme

    i moved to washington state from california .. and a lot of my girlfriends where super surprised that i wanted to marry a navy guy... where i grew up being military was kinda looked down on as a job.. not by my family because that is how my parents met and they were ex military, but in general people where just kinda like well that is nice what they do for the country but they would never want to marry one you wanna marry a doctor or a lawyer ect ... i came from a stuck up area in california ...

    so like one of my girlfriends who i dont talk to anymore was like telling me i was making a hugh mistake because my ex who was a VP of a land development company ( by the way too old for me ) and was due to take over when his dad stopped working wanted me back and my girlfriend said i was stupid for giving up the chance to have all my school paid for and living in La with my ex for some navy guy...

    lets just say after a good punch to the face i stopped talking to her because she was downing my Corpsman and wanting me to sell my happiness for money...

    some people can be so stupid

    and im as happy as can be... can i go shopping all the time , no but i dont care about any of that crap because i have my man and he makes enough to support a family when we have one and we are happy ... im not crying every single day like i was with my ex

    Jan 15, 2009
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  • skysthelimit

    it is a pain

    but then again it is their job and we have decited to stand by their sides

    and with the girls in your wedding, they should just look at how happy he makes you and that you are in love

    you have to make what you can with it

    never will there be a day that we can say

    this is when you can leave

    or

    we have this planned you need the day off

    haha

    but we love them and understand what they are doing

    and have decited to make a life with it

    i plan on moving here yet only two states away

    and my friends are all upset

    but everytime i just think about what my dad told me

    (and this was a surprise cause i'm a daddy's girl and he always said he wouldnt let me go when i found a guy that tried to take me away)

    "Do what you need to, do what makes you happy and if that means moving away to be with him, do it, i support you and just want to see you happy"



    so i give that to you :)

    Jan 15, 2009
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  • sothisisme

    your friend should be more supportive ... my husband is underway right now and its sucks because he just got home.... i miss him so much right now ... i just wish we could watch the tube and order a pizza...

    but i know he is doing something that he loves by the way his eyes light up when he sees the ship and i know it pains him so when he has to leave by the tears in his eye... even though everytime he says " im not crying im tough"

    he is my ornery sailor on the sea and i am forever his light house ...steadfast and waiting on the shore...

    Jan 15, 2009
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  • browneyegirl89

    i feel ya! and when i say im goin up to see him they flip "why he cant come see you?"



    Why you waste ya breath? is what i ask them. I wish they would understand it would make it so much more easier for all of us. And the girls in my wedding give me hell because everything is set around him. ok its not like he can say ok i want this day off he has to get permission and it has to og to his work scheld. its a pain but its his job.



    And when they found out i was moving 5 states away lord they flipped! but o well i love him and will do anything for him!

    Jan 15, 2009
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  • skysthelimit

    i know how you feel

    with my friends and me im the oly one in a relationship with a guy in the navy

    hes based in washington and i live in california

    my friends dont understand

    but i too stand by him,,,its what he wants to do and loves doing it

    i had a friend come to me sad "oh he lives so far away, i was like how far, she told me 2 hours, i was like wtf mine in two states away and goes out to sea"

    i hate how none of my friends know what im going threw

    Jan 15, 2009
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