I My Ex Won't Leave Me Alone

What Is Wrong With This Man?

By: kindacurious2

Written on April 28th, 2012

I met him online and we began dating. We both decided we had met the person we wanted to be with. I enjoyed every moment we spent together and he made me feel special. Then after 8 months he simply disappeared, poof! No explaination, nothing.

On Mother's Day last year? I received a text telling me Happy Mother's Day, I had no clue who it was so I responded. It was him, no explaination just a wish for the day, I said thank you, and left it at that. Then he wanted to start seeing me again, well my feeling for him had become deep so I wanted to see him so we started up again. Then 2 months later? POOF! Really? Again? Ok so fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me. I let it go.

Then October of last year I started getting texts from him again. I told him it was over and to leave me alone. I sent a well thought out good bye letter making him realize he was simply playing games with my emotions. Finally in January he ceased contacting me again. Today though in my in box of my email, you guessed it he is at it again. I deleted the email. I refuse to be pulled back into his games.

I fell in love with him but it apparently was one-sided. I am not sure what he thinks he is doing but game playing I don't go for. The man is 50 years old...grow up already! What is wrong with your life that you feel the need to screw with mine? I have so much to give a man, but I will not have my emotions played with.

Hopefully some day soon I will meet a man that wants me, needs me, and won't play games with my emotions and my depth of love I am capable of giving. But apparently it is not my ex!

By: kindacurious2

Age: 46-50 , Female

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17 responses

The1960texan

Good for You!Let the cat know your not a mouse!

Apr 7
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uncfred

Just started reading your stories, this one is very sad and would have taken some courage to overcome. I respect you and your evenyual stand, I see the Scot in you again, a stubborn and self decisive race.

That was a while ago, I hope that now you are finding that some men are genuine, and you will eventually find the one that is right for you

Jul 11, 2012
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- kindacurious2
  Why thank you! Yes it took me standing my ground and just saying enough is enough.....and actually I met a great guy recently who is very genuine! Needed to weed through the bad ones to find the good one!
  
  Jul 14, 2012
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- Luv2flashm
  Haven't you figured it out yet? He is married with kids and his wife has let herself go and there isn't a lot of intimacy in their relationship. He got more of that with you in one night than one year with her.
  
  Jul 23, 2012
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- kindacurious2
  No he is not married in fact he is very single I think he has issues with real relationships....too bad for him! I was at his house more than he was at mine. At different times and occassions....and his kid from when he was married? an adult child. he just has issues.....
  
  Aug 25, 2012
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greatsex

Enjoy what your doing, and if this guys occasional attention to you doesn't meet your desired quality, then tell him you simply can't continue to play along, that you want a long term commitment in your life. Good luck - your a beautiful person.

Jun 2, 2012
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- kindacurious2
  Thank you I think he finally got the hint and he does not contact me anymore. I have no interest in any man who does not have a true interest in me.
  
  Jun 3, 2012
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budsweiser2u

and you will forever be better off for telling him to jump in a lake!! smart girl!!!!!!) x

May 1, 2012
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- kindacurious2
  To jump in the lake? that is funny! He actually lives by the Lake (a big one!) Thanks!! :-)
  
  May 1, 2012
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detranger

No one deserves to be toyed with, certainly not you. Sounds like he is simply a bit self absorbed and oblivious to the feelings of others. You have so much more to offer so don't settle for less than you deserve.

Apr 30, 2012
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- kindacurious2
  Definitely not ever again. I would rather be alone then to settle in my life. My options can remain open while I make serious life changes for me. And you are right no one should toy with emotions but there are people out there that I feel don't know how to be any other way. Thanks!
  
  Apr 30, 2012
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emce

Just as there are strange men out there, there are also strange women. Had a girlfriend who called and dumped me one night. Called a few months later, apologized and wanted to try it again. After a couple of months she was up to her old tricks again, so I ended it and moved on. She tried on and off for the next 15 years to get something started again. Haven't heard from her now in about 13-14 years, so maybe she finally figured out that when I said "no" that's really what I meant.

Keep looking - when you least expect it the right guy will come along!

Apr 28, 2012
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- kindacurious2
  Thank you! I am quite sure that there are members of both sexes that are not all there, and I definitely got one. My thing is to ignore him and keep my eye on the prize which is my schooling. Thanks for commenting and sharing!
  
  Apr 28, 2012
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kindacurious2

Thank you! However this is a single man not a married one. He simply has a screw loose somewhere. This was a man that I spent time at his house (lots of time different days and/or evenings) but he is apparently not relationship material. I hope I never run into another man ever like this again. I am not a woman who easily loves deeply, it takes a lot of real time spent with me finding out who I am for me to fall in love, and he fooled me. Live and learn... and keep smiling!

Apr 28, 2012
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- chattychap087
  Ooooh simply bad luck then Still not a nice experience. Gotto admire the way you can dust yourself off and get on. I reckon females are emotionally STRONGER than men
  
  Apr 28, 2012
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- kindacurious2
  unfortunately, yes just bad luck and a man who is clueless (that would be a good word) and hey I have dusted myself off most of my life and I reinvent all the time...thanks for the encouragement!
  
  Apr 28, 2012
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chattychap087

Good for you!!! I read this and thought WTF???? All the warning signs of a married man looking for some attention elswhere (even if that attention is only emotional) Well you had the strength to say enough was enough. You are no fool and have my respect :) Had you been a weaker lady this behaviour would have ended up destroying you. I can't believe he had no explanation. WHAAAT !!!!! the nerve of it!! Like I say.......GOOD FOR YOU !!!

Apr 28, 2012
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