My Husband Is Not HappyI am going through the exact same thing. I am 21 and been married for 2 years. My husband says he doesn't feel anything. But it is my fault i pushed him away the last couple months. i shut myself down and didn't open up to anyone. Bad memories came flooding back. I wasn't the wife he wanted. i feel like i am needy so much. He told me he doesn't feel anything and has felt like this for a while. I grew up with a lot of home problems and i brought that into my marriage. Bad idea. I left my home on bad terms with my husband. I hit rock bottom. Then i came back a week later from my mom. I talked and he said "I told you there is no hope, you would be trying for the both of us." I have been back for 3 weeks. and asked him today on Christmas if what i was doing was helping any he said he still feels the same way. nothing. But i know damn well he still loves me its the little things he does. We went from not touching to me coming home and 2 weeks later having sex. i mean there is no passion but sex. he lets me hold him while he sleeps. he lets me touch his leg while he drives. A man who does not love his wife would be irritated by now with some one trying so hard to fix this. i told him that i am not giving up, i do not want to be a 21 year old divorce'. He is my one true love and i am going to fight for what is right. and that is us. i came looking for help and stories of hope because i know this can get fixed. He does not want to go to counseling. But neither did i at first now i see that if i go i will go for myself. to get every thing out in the open. He does these little things that make me fall in love with him all over again. I feel bad because i lost sight of what a wife should be doing. That is taking care of her husband cooking cleaning and intimacy. I shut down while my husband still tried. Now he took his ring off and shut down. HE is one tough cooking to crumble.But i believe in GOD. It is in his hands to show my husband the change of heart that i had. that i can not lose my love, love. I have not left the house, it is ours. We still sleep in the same bed but he has yet to tell me that he loves me and misses me or hold my hand or even hug me. Baby steps, People call me strong. I believe that i am because Of the love that i have for him. The hope the belief that god put obstacles in our path not to stop and give up but to push through. he would not give us nothing we can not handle. My husband work is hard, i do not see us separating anytime soon because he leaves every couple months for 2 months. that will give him time to think and see what he misses. I want him to come home to a home cooked meal and a wife who loves him. i want to make it easier on his life. i know he says there is nothing there but i honestly believe there is. Marriage is something you work through and do not give up. If he is unhappy try to make him happy. If there is one person who still loves in the marriage then there is always hope. <3
Do i sound like a stupid child? or should i keep trying?? Do you think there is hope???