My husband has not paid any attention to me for years. **** why start now right? It has been over for awhile now, we both know this! It doesnt and wont get any better. I never understood and never will why he doesnt want me but loves me! If you love someone as much as he says he does then where is the huggs and kisses, the laughter we wants shared. The holding hands, the out goings, the intimacy! Sex is not everything in a marriage. How can you love someone and not want to tell them? Not want to hug them or be around them and always yell at them. I dont understand and i guess i never will.