He Says The Reverse Is True.

We got into one of those things Saturday night. Not the all-out screaming match, because he knows I'll leave him if he tries to pull that crap on me. But I came home from a night at the movies with my one and only girlfriend (the first time I'd been out of my HOUSE for months) and he pulled the "We need to talk" line. My response was "Oh, gee, you think?"

He didn't take long to get into it. 'Feels like he's living with a roommate and not a wife, has been spending the past two weeks thinking of divorce', etc etc. Of course, he's only seeing things from his side, and I did all I could to get it into his head that HE is the wrong one. Communication has been a huge issue with him since we were married. Before that, he just told me he agreed with anything I said, thought, or believed (liar, but that's for another place than this one). We've had these same "conversations" time and again; I try to engage him in conversation, try to tell him about my day, but all I get is "Meh" or "I hate my job" and then he just shuts up and says nothing. Then he goes and sits on the computer or at the tv, ignoring me and my attempts to talk to him completely. I've done it for three years with him now, and every time he swears he's going to change, stop being so negative, and actually try to communicate with me.

I don't think it's going to work. We do this about once every nine or ten months, and all the same things keep coming up. He drives me crazy in the worst way possible, stubbornly refusing to change or even attempt it. I told him straight up on Saturday "I've been trying to talk to you every day when you get home for the past SIX MONTHS, and what do you do? Nothing. How long do you think I'm going to keep trying if you won't?" Yes, I've gotten to the point where I'm depressed and I just don't care anymore. No, I don't ask about his day anymore. No, I have no interest in what he thinks anymore, because I've asked him time and again and gotten nothing.

The only thing that keeps me from a complete nervous breakdown because of him are A- my son, and B- the few friends that I've managed to make online.

I don't think I'm being unreasonable at all with this. I can't be the only one trying while he does nothing.
Trinea Trinea
Jul 12, 2010